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KELLY_ELIZABETH
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so today is me and my boyfriends 1 year 6 months anniversary, and last night i had a dream that i cheated on him with his best friend! i was crying and upset in the dream, but why did i dream that? what does it mean?
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Dreams aren't always what you see. They can be interepted. Like your dream could have ment that you were scared of doing something with his friend. I have had dreams where I could fly if I jumped up and flapped my arms,while kicking my feet. I haven't figured out what it means, but I don't think I'll try jumping off a cliff to see if it means I can fly if I do that. Hang in there, and I'm sure you'll figure out if it ment anything, or if it was just a random dream.
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Last night. My boyfriend and I were alone together in his car. There was no one around at all. We moved to the back of his car and things got pretty heated up, but he knows not to try too much because I've told him that I'm not ready to take my pants off at all yet.
But. He took my hand and put it down his pants.
Since I like him... I wanted to at least try. But I just ended up pulling my hand out and getting really scared. I stopped him from doing anything else. We just stopped completely. I guess that was a bad thing. Because then we just sat there silent in the back of his car. He asked me what was wrong but I couldn't really explain anything. Wasn't it obvious? I guess he needed it spelled out for him. When I couldn't do that he got really upset.
He ended up getting really pissed and not even talking to me and overreacting. He started pacing and then just told me to get in the car. At that point I was ready to cry.
So he's driving me home, completely upset and frustrated. And he speeds and runs a red light. A cop pulls us over and he got a ticket.
When I got home late my parents bitched at me and took away my cell phone.
I tried to talk to my boyfriend about things but. He. I don't know. I feel like what he said to me was just.
He told me that he's scared.
I told him that I was upset still and his response was. Well I just got a ticket.. so...
I guess I just. I wasn't ready for what he wanted me to do. I know he probably would have been cool with slowing down but I couldn't communicate and that made everything worse.
Please tell me what you think about everything. Help me figure out what to say to him now, because I don't know how to tell him what I'm feeling. I don't feel like he'd even try to understand.
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I think he did over react. If a woman tells you where her boundaries are, and you still try to cross them, then you deserve more then being stopped. What he did was uncalled for, and you had every right to stop him. As far as lack of communicating, this is normal. He shouldn't have put in that spot. If you told him that you were uncomfortable, he was liable to take it as, you aren't comfortable with him. And if you told him you weren't ready, he would probably come up with an excuse about how you will never be ready. Trust me, my gf and I are in a similar situation where she isn't ready, and I never force her. She is actually worried that I am going to leave her because she isn't ready, and that's bologna. Any guy who leaves a girl for lack of sex, or sexual activities, has shown that he doesn't really care about you.
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my boyfriend is coming to my house soon for the first time when my parents are away and i need stuff to do...besides making out.I dont mind other flirtin activies. I dont want anything like watch a movie because that is not very interactive. im 16 by the way
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Cooking dinner is a classic. Perhaps you could light some candles (but keep them away from drapes, and other loose cloth items. Perhaps you should have music playing in the background. You could also make games out of it or something.
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So yeah I'm like 15 and i'm a teenage girl who is having a really hard time with life and I think I should just kill myself. Nothing ever goes my own way. Guys never like me. People hate me in general I'm just an annoynce to everyone. I hate life. It never gets better it just changes and it still sucks after that. I'm sick of being depressed. Really I just want to lock myself in my room and cry then starve myself then die. I hate being a teenager its not like being a kidd its diff. Everything is confusing and nothing is ever how you imagined or wished it to be. So I dont know what to do ? Any advice? (link)
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Nothing is ever what you imagined or wished, at any age. No, the 83 in my name isn't my age, it's the year I was born, so I was a teenager not too long ago. Believe me, killing yourself is not the answer. I suggest that you sit down in figure out a game plan. Decide what you want, and try and set things in motion to complete them. If you want a boy friend, maybe you should look at how you dress and present yourself to boys. If you feel you are an annyance, try to find out how and do your best to work with it. I have a friend who is an annoyance, but I am still friends with him. I wish I could help you out more, everyone is different, you just have to hang in there, and eventually things will get better for you. Remember, every dark cloud has a silver lining, just don't get struck by lightning trying to find it.
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most of the time when i have sex i can never feel it
what should i do ???
am i loose
and i have only had sex w/ 4 guys
but they werent even that big (link)
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Maybe that is your answer. If they weren't that big, that may be why you don't feel it. You should try masturbating (I know it sounds wierd having a guy tell you to masturbate). Maybe certain areas require special attention to get things going, and that will help you to find out. Either that, or find someone who is bigger.
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i am trying to find a driver for the hitachi dzmv730 a camcorder. do you know where to get it? i tried hitachi site but the driver was not there. (link)
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You could always try places that specialize in those products. Like Radio Shack or something like that.
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Hi I am 14/f and i am a tom boy i wont wear my hair down or wear a spot of pink or purple and i wont wear make up and i have foot ball practice after school (oh and this is the first time i have asked a quistion i share this acount with a friend) i have never had a boyfriend i only have 2 friends at school and all the boys tease me they call me man girl and lesbian and stuff like that and the girl are always playing pranks on me like one time they stoll my jornal and football diary (my football diary is for the things i did wrong so i can correct them and advode them) my parents are divorced and i cut and im anorexic cause all the girls at school say im fat and every time i look in the mirror i think they are right i want to be like all the other girls skinny pretty have boyfriends wear make up i just dont know how i really want help please help (link)
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Why would you want to be like the girls who are pranking you and making you feel bad for being who you are. There is nothing wrong with liking football, and being a tom boy. You are young yet. My niece is a tomboy, and she is about your age. She is just getting into make-up. But if you want to be more like them, you can try wearing your hair down, or doing something nice with it. You could also start wearing some make-up. Not alot if you are uncomfortable with it, but a little bit to start with. Try adding some pink and purple to your outfits. Just because you play football, doesn't mean you can't dress like the other girls during school.
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if me in this boy was goin together for 1 year and some month and he started talkin to this girl so i broke up wit him and he got mad but we still talk i still love him i still spend a night at his house do u think we should go together again or just be friends? i think about him alot n i can't talk to no other boy cause i think we will get back together someday but i do talk to other people. What do i do? please tell me (link)
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That depends on how he talked to the other girl. Most people get so jealous that they get upset with a simple conversation their significant other has with someone else. You may need to discuss things and if you both want to get back together, then you should go for it, but I suggest more trust or it won't work.
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Hi, i will first giv u a brief summary - i 1st met my ex when i was 16, he was 27. We have always had a rocky relationship due to the lack of trust. I know he could never just have 1 woman from his reputation n i wud often do things to get him back. In Feb this yr we got engaged, due to be married March 08. On bonfire nite we had a garden party with our neighbours n i got the impression somethin was happenin btween him n the girl nxt door. I split up wit him cos i knew i wud never be able to trust him n it wasn fair on either of us. It has been 2months n he is seeing the next door neighbour - so my suspicions were correct. Altho i have a new boyfriend i cant help but get jealous n he plays on that. He has told me he wants me bak n still wants 2get married n wit it bein this time of yr i am tempted but i jus know i'm never gona be able to forgive him. Please advise........ (link)
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You have got to want to help yourself first. It seems to me he wants his cake and eat it too. I have one question to ask you, How can you be in a relationship with someone you can't trust, and who apparently cheats on you. Besides, 27 year old dating a 16 year old is wrong. Sounds like he's a user who is only trying to get sex.
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I will try to make this as short as possible.I'm a thirty year old female.........Five years ago, I met a man online and we fell in love but he was afraid of commitment at the time and kept going back and forth about what he wanted. I didnt hear from him for about a month and moved on. Then he calls me up and tells me that he is ready to commit, but I had already moved on and told him that I couldn't just end my relationship like that even though I never denied that I loved him deeply. He felt that I betrayed him and he was very hurt. We didn't talk for a while but eventurally we started talking again...and we have tried and gotten closer over the years. He has been through a lot in his life and has some issues because of some of those things. I ended up moving to his city about two years ago and soon after he had a bad car accident which made his issues even worse. He already feels as though every one he loves, he loses and he feels as though he might die because he has migraines and nose bleeds that he thinks may be from an anuerism but he's scared to go to the doctor. While he was getting better we talked about being together and having a baby..possible moving..etc..although we were not together. Then his mother died and he was devasted...on top of everything else that has happened and he has become almost completely emotionally detached from everyone and everything... He is very intelligent and knows that he has issues...he says he sees his mother lying in the floor and giving him her last breath and he can't stand for anyone to touch him and he has hardly goes out of the house. After him mother died, he was left with all of the bills and the house and so shortly after my son and I moved in with him..We sleep in seperate rooms and we are rarely intimate. He says he loves me, but that he can't be in love with anyone right now. He tells me that I should know that I'm special and that once he gets himself together we will work on us. I have now been here about 9 months. At first I didn't believe that he had all of these issues, but I have seen that he really is messed up...I love him with all of my heart and I feel that when he's not being depressed he is a good male influence on my son. I get mad and tired of waiting and everytime I turn around I feel like I should just leave and let him deal with this stuff on his own. but because I told him when I moved in that part of the reason I moved in with him is because I wanted to know if we could be together...now he is very clear with me that if I leave, there will be nothing left in him emotionally...and I only want to leave because I just don't want to deal with everything between now and whenever he gets himself together...I mean I have been waiting for years as it is....but I love him and everytime I think about leaving I feel like it would be the end of my life.....I love and adore this man even though we are not as intimate as I really need him to be at least a little bit to be happy. I need him to be affectionate with me and he can't because everytime anyone touches him he freaks out....I see him try sometimes and I appreciate it, I need to be held sometimes....he has even told me to go find someone to "fill in" emotionally for me until he gets over his issues. I get upset and I don't know what kind of advice I'm even looking for here......but I WILL appreciate any advice that anyone has. (link)
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I think you both need to sit down and talk. I mean really talk. It seems like he is trying to keep you there with guilt by telling you that if you leave, there will be nothing else left in him emotionally. From what you say, it seems as if he hardly has anything as it is. The relationship you want may never come around if he doesn't make an attempt. It seems that you are the only one trying here. He says he will lose what emotions he has left if you leave? Well, how about the emotional trouble you are having by staying. If he thinks he is dying, you should tell him to see a doctor because it's too hard for you to stay when he seems like he isn't really trying to fix himself so you two can work on you together. What does he expect you to do? Sit around and wait until he decides "HE'S" ready? Think about your son too. He may think it's ok to push people away who try to help him. This man is not only in your life, but your son's life as well. It isn't fair to put yourself through this if he isn't willing to try to work on it. I hope I helped.
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Ok well my bf is taking me to the book store and hes buying me a couple books but i dont know what to get him and I am going to a hockey game with him so idk i guess our gift is just spending all day with each other. We actually arent dating yet but we r best friends and have taked about dating (we can talk about anything :] ) and i think hes going to ask me out before the game at his house anyways so bascially im calling him my bf in here. Back to the question: i asked him if I had to get him something and he said no of course not i dont care if you do and i told him i want to write him something instead. he knows i looove to write (want to be an author! i've already published a couple poems!) so i told him i was going to write something instead. i wanted to write him a note and the words to 'our' song. Does that sound ok? he sometimes just tells me when hes listening to it and loves it and that he loves me and so i thought writing him a note and the lyrics would be a good idea. i want to show him i care and i dont think a gift would work. plus im terrible at getting guys gifts! also is giving him one of those big solid hershey kisses cool too? its not the huge ones but the bottom is like 2/3 the size of the palm of my hand. and then maybe give him a real kiss? thanks SO much and if you have any other ideas PLEEEASE share! :] and he always wants pics of me so maybe a picture too? again THANX (link)
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I think writing him something is an awesome idea. Not every gift should be measured in dollars and cents. Writing is something you are good at and enjoy doing, then you should put your joy, and heart into what you give him. So writing the letter would be perfect. The Hersey Kiss is a nice touch. Especially if it's followed by a real kiss. And if none of that works, men love power tools. lol. Just messing. Your idea is a great idea, you should go for it.
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I had a question on here a few months ago about when my boyfriend cheated on me. I decided that it was best for us to call it quits officially and we haven't spoken since. However, he is best friends with my older brother. As far as i know they have never even talked about what happened and i assumed my brotherr would take my side on the whole thing but it seems tht he has decided to still act like nothing is wrong and nothing ever happened. Is this normal and i am just over reacting or should m brother be on my side about this whole thing? (link)
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Well, you can't really expect your brother to just stop a friendship with someone because you don't like him. Perhaps your brother just wants to stay out of the problems that you and his friend have had. But, if he does get dragged in, he should defend your honor, but he may also tell you that he isn't judging him the same way you are. As long as his friendship isn't interferring with you and your brother's relationship and you don't get put into situtions where you have to deal with your ex, I don't see a problem.
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ok well ive always thought of myself as straight but theres this girl weve been friends since 6th grade now in in 9th.!>. and she just cam out and told people that she was bi sexual.! but the thing is that recently ive benn wanting her attention and its kind of like a girl crush.!>. and she is the only girl so far that ive thought of this way.! please help me.! im soo confused.!> i mean i think of her as more as a friend but i dontknow i just need some advice.!> (link)
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Trust me it's normal. I had an ex girlfriend, who i'm still good friends with, tell me before that she thought she was bi because she had thoughts about other girls. Turns out it was just curiosity. She soon lost the feelings, but she was confused while she had them. The only thing I can say is to talk to your friend about your feelings. Perhaps she could help you figure out if your feelings are true, or just came about out of curiosity.
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is it possible to cure yourself of depression? and what are some things that help others. i think im mildly depressed and dont want to be a hassle to my parents cause i already am haha i just want to make myself feel better and i know its like something chemically but idk if mine is cause its mild and with God's help maybe i could. idk just tell me what you think and suggestions (link)
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The only way to tell for sure is to see a professional. I did and found out I have depression and a few other things. But mine is caused by something in my brain, because I am most depressed at the happiest times, and a am happier when I am more depressed. (If that makes any sense)But you could try taking a moment to look over your life, and see if you should try certains things different. Perhaps your depression is from missing something in your life, and you won't know what it is until you try something new. Hope this helps.
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i just broke up with my bf today...but i feel so guilty! he looked so hurt when i told him! is it normal to feel this guilty?
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Of course it's normal. I have many ex gf's who are still friends with me. Just because you don't want to go out with him anymore, doesn't mean his feelings no longer matter to you. I have made the mistake of staying in relationships that I shouldn't have because I was afraid of the guilt, and in the end, it only made things worse. Just keep telling yourself that you did the right thing, and let him get over the initial hurt.
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I simply cannot trust my boyfriend. and now this friday i will not be in town and god only knows what he is going to do. he has a crush on his best girl friend and he says he doesnt. he has cheated on me already and lies. but i havent broken up with him. we have been together a year and we decided that we are going to start over and now the next couple of weeks i am not going to see him every second of everyday because i have other things i have to do. and i am afraid. afraid of being hurt my this man that i am in love with. he is going to hang out with his best girl friend without me, everyday. i dont know what to do. how do i get past this and not care so much about what he does? I JUST DO NOT WANT TO CARE ANYMORE, I DO NOT WANT TO CRY EVERYDAY BECAUSE I KNOW HE HAS OTHER THOUGHTS THAN ME. HOW DO I JUST LET WHATEVER HAPPENS HAPPENS AND BE HAPPY IN THE MEAN TIME? in conclusion, how can i stop caring about someone i love? (link)
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It's hard to just stop caring about someone. You may have some sleepless nights, and go thru several boxes of tissues crying over it, but in the end, I think if you end things with him now, then you will be better in the long run. When you are in love, it always hurts to lose it, so you have to expect that. But once you are able to think about it, you will realize that it's for the best. I mean starting over doesn't mean anything if neither person involved tries. All that is allowing him to do is hurt you all over again. Doing the same thing over and expecting different results is not a good way to look at things. It seems to me like you care for him WAY more then he cares for you. Hope this helped.
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hey ive been hookin up with this kid and like im starting to like him alot...the problem is that hes my like ex hookups best friend. we both argreed for now to keep it quiet. im just afraid that im going to start falling for him and not be able to have anything with him. what should i do? (link)
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I think that if you like him, you should find out how much he likes you. It would be very difficult if you fell for him, and he only liked you to a point. If his flirting bothers you, let him know. Lots of people start out flirting, and then it leads to something else. Trust me, I've had gfs who liked to flirt and then they cheated on me. It's not fun. But as for him being your ex hookups best friend, that really shouldn't matter. If they were friends, he should be happy that you found someone who makes you happy, and the same for his friend. Seeing it as "You are hooking up with MY ex, that's not cool." is just plain selfish. As long as he isn't lead to believe you two have a second chance that is.
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Ok, I've been dating my bf Alex for 6 months on the 3rd and I like him alot but I recently met this guy Mike and I'm starting to like him alot too. He is so nice to me and makes me feel pretty but then so does Alex. I'm having a hard time deciding if I should stay with Alex or try things with Mike. HELP ME PLEASE! What should I do? Stay with Alex or try with Mike? Much appreciation!
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I don't know if this will help, but think of it this way. Are you willing to hurt Alex to try with Mike? Also, what if things don't work out with Mike, do you think Alex will be willing to take you back? Maybe you should write down pros and cons for each. A friend of mine did that when she was seperated from her husband and dating someone else. She wasn't sure if she wanted the new guy, or to try and work things out with her husband. In the end, the new guy had more pros and less cons then her husband, so she filed for divorce. Hope this helped, if not, sorry I couldn't do more.
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every night my EX IMs me and talks about us having sex and what we would do if we were alone and how great our sex was.. the thing is he has a gf now.. would that in anyway be cheating? its not like were really doing anything were just talking about doing shit.. (link)
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It seems like your ex is only worried about himself. When you are in a relationship, it's a commitment not only physically, but emotionally, and mentally. Him having thoughts about someone else is normal at times, but to actually go as far as telling you what he wants to do with you, is wrong. Just think if he got with you, and you found out he was talking like that to another girl, it wouldn't feel to good on your end.
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I'm 16/f
I've only ever had two boyfriends, one for almost 5 months, and the one I'm dating now for 1.
Well, we've only been dating for one, but we've been best friends for a year. And we both knew we liked each other while we weren't dating.
Well I've never dated a virgin, including my boyfriend now, and he always teases me about how he's ready for some with me.
And I mean, I don't know if I have a problem with it. I mean, I love him, I've known him for a year.
I am afraid though, of what could happen. You know? I have a lot going for me and don't want to get pregnant. I've also only been to second base before, so the nether regions are a new thing.
I know we should work up to that, and I was fully intending to.
I guess, how do I show my affection in a way to show him that I'm willing to have sex, just not right this second? I think we should work our way there. (link)
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Well, if you guys are close, and he's your best friend, I'm sure he'll understand your fear and not rush you into things. I have been dating my gf for a little while now, and I wasn't a virgin when I met her. She still is, but we tried to have sex before, but she was too scared. I love her, so I understood, and to this day, I haven't tried to convince her to grin and bear it. I am willing to wait until she is ready. I tease her sometimes, but only enough so she knows it's a joke, but if she ever gets hurt by the joking, I look at her and tell her I love her, and I'll wait forever for her. But I don't think you'll ever find someone who is going to have sex for the first time, who isn't scared.
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