I simply cannot trust my boyfriend. and now this friday i will not be in town and god only knows what he is going to do. he has a crush on his best girl friend and he says he doesnt. he has cheated on me already and lies. but i havent broken up with him. we have been together a year and we decided that we are going to start over and now the next couple of weeks i am not going to see him every second of everyday because i have other things i have to do. and i am afraid. afraid of being hurt my this man that i am in love with. he is going to hang out with his best girl friend without me, everyday. i dont know what to do. how do i get past this and not care so much about what he does? I JUST DO NOT WANT TO CARE ANYMORE, I DO NOT WANT TO CRY EVERYDAY BECAUSE I KNOW HE HAS OTHER THOUGHTS THAN ME. HOW DO I JUST LET WHATEVER HAPPENS HAPPENS AND BE HAPPY IN THE MEAN TIME? in conclusion, how can i stop caring about someone i love?
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Steve83 answered Tuesday November 27 2007, 11:01 pm: It's hard to just stop caring about someone. You may have some sleepless nights, and go thru several boxes of tissues crying over it, but in the end, I think if you end things with him now, then you will be better in the long run. When you are in love, it always hurts to lose it, so you have to expect that. But once you are able to think about it, you will realize that it's for the best. I mean starting over doesn't mean anything if neither person involved tries. All that is allowing him to do is hurt you all over again. Doing the same thing over and expecting different results is not a good way to look at things. It seems to me like you care for him WAY more then he cares for you. Hope this helped. [ Steve83's advice column | Ask Steve83 A Question ]
DaAdvicePerson answered Tuesday November 27 2007, 2:55 am: Wow seems as if this guy does not feel the same way about you than you do to him. I know that you want to still be with him, and still have feelings for him, but i think that it is best if you guys just move on with life...break up.
I hate to say that but, it is true, your relationship with him is not going anywhere, and i dont want you suffering the way you do anymore. its just to sad.
Like my mama always says... there are many fishes in the ocean, just got to catch the right one. till then, have fun with life.
ammo answered Tuesday November 27 2007, 2:29 am: First and foremost if you feel you have no trust in this relationship then I will be quite plain and straightforward in saying this is may well be a dead end relationship. When you lose trust in your partner it becomes close to impossible to be able to trust them fully again. Every moment they are not with you you'll find yourself wondering what they are doing or if they might be doing something behind your back. Then when they tell you what they were up to you begin to question their honestly becaue if they lied before how could everything they are saying not also be a lie?
Trying to ignore it will also not help you because you will always have it floating around in the back of your head driving you crazy and as i said before even if you ask him about it and he says nothing happened you will then start wondering if he could be lying about it.
As for stopping caring for someone you love - you can't. The only way I learned to was to give myself time to heal and get over it and move on. It took a long time too but I think I made it eventually. There's no switch you can throw to just turn your emotions off Im afraid. it doesn't work that way. :( [ ammo's advice column | Ask ammo A Question ]
olivia13 answered Tuesday November 27 2007, 2:29 am: wow. just think about what this guy is really doing to you. if you really care about him then talk to him about it....again. find out from one of your friends if he does anything while you are gone and if he does do something then you might wanna think about making different choices and finding a new special someone in your life. there are many other fish in the sea and even if you really care about someone, they still aren't worth you getting hurt. anyone or anything that makes you hurt or cry is totally not worth it. stand up for yourself! hope i helped a little.
-olivia :] [ olivia13's advice column | Ask olivia13 A Question ]
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