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Life Dilemma
im 15 and it seems like nothing i do is right anymore, i try to keep ontop of everything -- schoolwork, a social life, and all the time i just feel an empty space inside of me, and i feel almost like lonely? can anyone relate?
i think if i had a relationship, with a guy, where we can talk and just know eachother so well, and not necessarily a boyfriend, but preferably. the only thing is, im so bad as talking to people, i always over analyze every word that comes out of their mouth, and i always assume and they always mean more to me then i ever will to them.. and i dont feel atractive at all, i dont know what to do, and i really need some help right now, please!
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Omg. I can totally relate to this problem.
I had this exact same problem not that long ago.
I always tried to do good at school (and i still did), it was hard to do it, becuase the thought of a "missing space inside me" kept me off track of things that I was supposed to do. I used to always make myself feel down by saying, "I'm not attractive enough to get anyone." and, "I'll never get the perfect person for me." I had to remind myself that it is MY OPINION, and MY OPINION meant nothing. All you need to do is gather some self-confidence in yourself. Ask your friends on topics to talk to the person you wanna talk to. If you have nothing to say, tell them "So.. Whats up?" or "How was ur day?" ask basic questions to start a conversation. There's ever NOTHING to talk about. There's MILLIONS of things to talk about. Just be yourself, and don't stress yourself on thinkin of what to talk about next.
Hope this helped. :D
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i can TOTALLY relate!! i'm 14 and i'm going through some of the same things. just do your best with everything your doing. a really close guy friend [[or even a boyfriend]] can help a whole lot. they will listen to alott of stuff you have to talk about. when your around them, don't try to impress them, just be yourself and i'm sure they'll like what they see. and remember, even though your probabaly gorgeous, looks aren't everything. if you think you aren't attractive, that doesn't mean everyone thinks that too. i'm sure tons of people think you are a really pretty girl with a great personality. and don't worry about the relationships with them because you probabaly mean just as much to them as they do to you. trust me. hope i helped.
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Wow I was in this exact situation when I was 15. It's weird that I say that when I'm only 16, but many many things have changed in that time, and I assure they will for you too. When I was a freshman and 15, I was soo socially awkward and I felt extremely lonely. Of course, I took it to the extreme and developed an eating disorder because I wanted to get a boyfriend so bad and I thought that getting skinnier would achieve that. It didn't. It actually made me miserable and shut down to everyone. My low self-esteem ruined my freshman year because I couldn't open up to anyone. That's the one thing I regret, not just opening up to people and making friends. You probably hear all the time "Boys aren't everything," etc. But it's the truth, they aren't. Or at least, the ones that you feel like you have to work for, or not pretty enough for.
What I would suggest is just make FRIENDS with a ton of interesting/nice/cute guys, and don't hang out or talk to them expecting to become something more, and eventually, if its the right guy, the friendship WILL turn into something else all on its own.
Enjoy every moment with or without a guy at your side, and then you'll find happiness.
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