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try or just give up?
hey ive been hookin up with this kid and like im starting to like him alot...the problem is that hes my like ex hookups best friend. we both argreed for now to keep it quiet. im just afraid that im going to start falling for him and not be able to have anything with him. what should i do?
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I think that if you like him, you should find out how much he likes you. It would be very difficult if you fell for him, and he only liked you to a point. If his flirting bothers you, let him know. Lots of people start out flirting, and then it leads to something else. Trust me, I've had gfs who liked to flirt and then they cheated on me. It's not fun. But as for him being your ex hookups best friend, that really shouldn't matter. If they were friends, he should be happy that you found someone who makes you happy, and the same for his friend. Seeing it as "You are hooking up with MY ex, that's not cool." is just plain selfish. As long as he isn't lead to believe you two have a second chance that is.
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i've been in your situation and you may think that because you've had this physical connection that he'll have an emotional connection too. well let me tell you my story. the guy was my best friend and after people found out what we were doing this they completely abandoned me. not just people but my friends, my best friends that i had been friends with for at least 75 percent of my life and he denied everything because he liked someone else and didn't want that girl to find out he was the type of guy to have random hookup relationships. my guy was very flirty too. he finally got the girl he wanted and after that i found out that when i thought i was his special person, turns out he was hooking up with 2 or 3 other people besides me. so! my point is...don't fall for him, or you'll be falling hard and nobody's going to catch you. girls tend to get emotionally attached with these hook-up relationships where the guys just find it completely physical and dont attach themselves to the other person. its how it works. it sucks but we have to deal with it. if you're really falling for him then first tell him you don't want to hookup anymore. then a few days later tell him that you like him. it is possible that he could like you too but you never know until you ask him.
ya never know
good luck
modelkate11
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Don't let a hook-up stop you. You didn't date him so you shouldn't have anything to worry about (unless this guy isn't over you, then there might be a problem- but that's not your problem to deal with).
At the same time, hiding a relationship never works, especially from best friends. If you like him, go for it.
-LM
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Why would you not be able to have anything with him if you end up falling for each other? Because of your ex "hook-up?"
Falling for someone and starting a relationship with someone holds more importance than what an ex hook-up has to say.
I mean, seriously, a hook-up is ONLY a hook-up.
ygs-29/f
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Honesty is the best policy. Tell whoever you feel should know you two are together now, or going to be soon, or whatever is going on at the moment. A kid should know when his best friend's with his ex.
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