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how do you move on??
how do you get over your first??? Yeah he did do me wrong..he cheated on me with his ex the first week we was going out..he broke up then he starts dating her again...i go back out with him after that we go out for awhile..he takes my virginity...then he tells me he still likes her..
suicide runs through my head who does that to girls...do they do it for fun...he says it was his first time too and he 'cares' about me...he with her now..."they're in love"....omg i've shed so many tears over him...its so hard watching the person you love..love someone else..he said he was gonna try to get over her and we was gonna get back together but i told my mom and she would never let us be together and she had already knew about us having sex....WHATEVER bs....just an excuse...they kiss and hug all the time and i just have to be around when they do that...im breaking down what do i do!?!? he has put me through so much and i know hes gonna come runnin back to me when they break up and i wanna blow him off but its SO HARD...i just wanna move on let him go..but....can someone please help me
<3 brianna (15 yrs)
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I wish I could say this gets easier as you get older.
I'm in pretty much the same situation. My girl cheated and left me. She doesnt want me back right now, but there are parts of me that definitely want her back, and if she came back right now, not caving to what she wants would be incredibly hard.
I mean, I loved her more than anything. I was ready to make her my wife. But sometimes, betrayal runs too deep to truly forget. You can forgive the action, but that doesnt mean the trust ever comes back.
This is coming from a guy in his 20s by the way.
My best advice to you, is hold out. If he talks to you, just say "no" and "get away from me" and dont explain it or let him get you into conversation. Refuse to listen to him, walk away, avoid him. Its the only way you can really prevent yourself from doing things you dont want to do in this situation.
Because if he gets enough time alone with you... just avoid him at all costs. Eventually you do hit the point where its easier, and you dont care as much. But when its still fresh, and you still feel like you're in love with him, its hard to have that self control.
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Right, I understand how hard this is. BUT DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK.
You deserve better. He's cheated on you and broken up with you for this girl, who's to say he won't do the same again if you get back together?
And if you take him back, he'll think he can do whatever the hell he wants and he can always come running back to you.
I have a friend who dated this guy who done the same to her, and she's taken him back so many times now, and each time he acts worse and worse, because he knows he can get away with it.
You can't let this guy do that to you.
I know you love him, but if he's not treating you right, you're going to put yourself through too much by dating him again.
So, now, how to get over him...
Firstly, you're not going to get over him if you are constantly being reminded of him. I know it might be hard not to be if you are always seeing him around with his girlfriend, but you can at least make sure there's nothing to remind you at home. Get a box, then take everything around the house that reminds you of him (photos, cards etc.) and put them inside this box. Delete all his texts, but if you really want to, you could write any special ones down on a piece of paper and put them inside the box too. But then delete them.
Stop accidentally bumping into him, if you do, don't avoid him, just act normal, if you see him, you see him, if you don't, you don't.
Secondly, spend an afternoon looking through all the things in this box, remembering all the good times together, what you liked about him, focusing on how you met and how he made you feel. It may be painful, you may spend the afternoon in tears, but it is crucial that you do this before you can let go. After, watch a sad film until you've cried as much as you can. You need to let this out of your system before you can let go.
The next morning, attempt to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Plan a day with friends, doing something fun. And for the next few weeks make sure your diary's packed with fun things with your mates, and keep busy.
After this, you will feel stronger. But you may be starting to think, 'Was it all my fault?' or anything like that. This will probably sound silly, but write a letter, include everything you wish you'd said, everything you should've asked. But don't send it to him. It will help get things off your chest just writing it. If you want you can write his ideal reply, as long as it doesn't consist of getting back together.
Now, you should almost be over him. Be positive, list everything you'd like to achieve in the next month. Then try to do them. Remain optimistic and self confident, and you'll be fine.
Hope this helped, xxx
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Welcome to life, kid. You might as well get used to the feeling of heartbreak, because you will experience it more than once before you find that one guy your heart belongs to.
You don't want to go back to him. He treated you like crap and he used you for sex. So when he comes running back you want to stay strong and tell him to go piss up a rope. Otherwise, you are just going to be knowingly setting yourself up for this same rut over and over with him.
Yah, it's hard to get over someone, but you CAN do it. Keep reminding yourself that you are better than that. You deserve better than someone who treats you like a dog. Remember that he has already made it clear that he will say anything sweet to get what he wants just to leave you hanging in the cold.
As for suicide, he is not worth your life. Nothing and no one is.
Try to find another guy to go on dates with or stick close by friends who are supportive.
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