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My boyfriends older then me, and i think he wants more(its n
Im a 13 yr old girl, and my boyrfriend is 15 and turning 16 soon. we really like each other and we connect so well. and ive already talked to him about respecting what im comfortable doing and stuff. but i feel like he is just waiting. and some of my friends who are friends with him said he isnt a virgin. and that kinda bothers me. but he is so sweet and honestly i love him. but i feel kinda bad that he wants to finger me and stuff but i wont let him. and because he is older then me he has done alot more stuff that i havnt, which makes me feel really in-expierienced. and i worry that if i do something im doing it wrong. he hasnt said anything about wanting me to do more with him but i think im getting some hints. like he is always going up my shirt when we are making out and stuff, but i always stop him, and then it seems like he gets a little frustrated because he just wants to move on, but im not ready, and he said thats okay, but im not sure that i believe him.. PLEASEE GIVE ME SOME FEEDBACK! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!
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Something you will learn. Guys are always horny. I'm in my 20s, still constantly horny.
Accept this. And dont worry about it. He is going to what what he is going to want. That doesnt mean that you should speed up and do more with him, especially at 13.
You are completely in the right here. You should not do things you are not comfortable yet. It sounds like hes pretty much just being a normal horny guy and asking. Theres nothing wrong with him wanting more.
If you're not comfy with him touching you, make it clear. Tell him that his hand needs to stay outside the shirt, no matter how horny he is.
I'm going to tell you something else.
Its very difficult for virgins and non virgins to work well together, especially at your ages. He wants what he wants and knows what he's missing. That doesnt mean that its your job to supply it. Do not compromise your values and go further than you want to to make him happy. Trust me when I say, there will be other guys if he cant contain himself enough.
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I really like the fact you don't want to go further.
Anyway, I reckon you should just trust him. He said it's okay, so believe him. If he loves you, he will respect your decisions - and he is - so that's good too.
It doesn't matter if he is more experienced than you. He's older.. and everyone has a past.
If you get to the point where you move further and approach the more sexual side of things, it's nothing to get worried about because you lack experience.. Everyone has to get experience from somewhere and he will help you out along the way anyway - by telling you what he likes and how to do things. So that's really nothing to worry about.
Have a talk with him if you like, so he can reassure you some more.
Only go further when you are ready. You should never ever feel pressured to do things just because your boyfriend may want to. He said it's okay, so he will wait until whenever that time is.
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That is a normal guy, his behavior. Guys think about sex, a lot. Thats something you will learn through time. Do not give in if you aren't ready..virginity is something` special and once you lose it you will never get it back. I think you should wait until you're older and figure out a little more how the world works. I don't think at 13 you're going` to find "the one", so make sure you save yourself...he prolly isnt your first and he isnt going to be your last..i would wait. Tell him he will just have to get over it if he doesnt like that you arent ready because if he really cares for you he wOULD understand..
good luck
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Keep trying to talk to him about it and tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. Also, when he does do it, continue to stop him. If he does truly care then he'll respect what you want and he won't do it. So if you're not ready then you need to talk to him about it because you shouldn't do something that you don't want to do because you might regret it later. Plus, if you're doing it when you don't want to it's probably not going to be special. Plus, I don't see why lots of young people these days are having sex. I'm sixteen almost seventeen and I don't see the need to risk my future for a stupid guy.
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