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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Okay, im getting a tattoo this week
and I need to know where is the best place to get it hidden?

Back, shoulder or hip.

im 16/f i live in arizona
i want to start working and i dont know how to start
i read that i had to get a work permit
-so do i need a work permit or can i just apply without a work permit
-how do i get a work permit
-who hires 16 year olds

I'm pretty sure you do need to get a work permit. The only way I know of that you would need one is if you were over 18, but since you're not, you do need one.

Usually the counseling center, or main offices in schools have them. You just need to ask. If they don't have one, go to town hall. You need to fill out the application, have your parents sign some parts, & you need a recent physical & then you need your doctor to sign & then you hand it in. You can get your permit right there when you hand it to them. That's what the lady at my highschool told me when I went.

Not a lot of places hire 16 year olds, but I know places like Target, or a grocery store will. You can also try some of the stores at the mall, or some fast food places.

13/f.

I shop at hollister and abercrombie and all those places but i kinda want to change like my style to scene or skater? Like i love alternaive music ans stuff also. But where do i buy these clothes? && i want to slowl ease into this because i dont want to one day show up being skater when the day before i was preppy?

I like skiny jeans, etnies, and alternative musice also.( i also like pop, miley cyrus, hollister, talor swift)?

You can buy clothes like that at:

Pac Sun.
Zumies.
Wet Seal.
Delia's.
Hot Topic.
H&M.
Forever 21.

Some people will argue that some of the stores I listed would be considered "prep," but there is more than one style that can be made from those stores. :)

what stores have applications online

There's a lot of stores that have applications online like Wal*Mart, Anchor Blue, Target, & Zumies. You can go to any stores website & have the possibility of applying online.

However, it's better to apply in person because that way they'll know who you are & remember your face. Applying online tends to be lazy & you should usually only apply online when THEY ASK you to. If they don't say to apply online, go in person. It's better that way.

can someone be attractive but not good-looking?

Yeah. There can be a physical attraction (where you're attracted to their body & not their face) or a personal attraction where it's their personality that you're in love with.

15/f

I really think babies are cute. I know there not cheap. But since 2 years ago I've desired to start my own family, I've always wanted one- Twin girls, boy, girl...(married of course) something along that line. I've never had a date/boyfriend. I really want my own kids! Or atleast try sex... My desires are really bad right now... My crush K isn't helping me fight my urge of it either. He is are schools 'player', also my friend of a few years. Any tips & or suggestions?
-Kaori

Don't have sex.

You are 15 years old and there's a lot more valuable things you could be doing with your time. Just because other girls are irresponsible and become teen mothers, doesn't mean you have to follow in their shadow.

I can understand the want to have a baby. I'm 18, and I would like one too - eventually. My life is still beginning & I'm too young to put the burden of a child onto my shoulders. I'm not saying I don't like children, or I disapprove of them. I love children, but do I love teen mothers? Not really.

Continue with school, go to college, get a career & then start a family. Having a baby at your age will most definitely end bad. Wait until you're an adult. You're a baby yourself, and you cannot take care of another living human when most kids your age can barely take care of themselves.

14/f

Ok if you looked at the title, obviously, its about cutting. I cut myself. I've been cutting since the beginning of 8th grade. I'm in 9th now. I stopped off and on in 8th grade and I only did my wrists. I stopped for awhile after that cause my friends saw and they sorta helped me.

Then beginning of freshman year I started again. I have stuff going on so I'm doing this for no reason. I think you would know that though.

Then I stopped for a couple months and I started cutting my ankles since no one saw there. Then a couple months I've been cutting myself everyday. I got really bad on this. I started cutting my ankles, waits, wrists, legs, arms, shoulders, and mostly my thighs. I know I should stop but I don't know how. It does make me feel better and it helps me get through the day. I'm 14 and ruining myself. What should I do?

Lastly, I want to know if anyone else has ever gone through this here. And if they were around my age. And if I'm crazy.

My parents never knew about this. But I had a bad influence on my younger brother. He did it once and my parents found out but they didn't really do anything. But its weird how you'll do it to yourself but you start crying when someone else you know does it. Like my friends have done it before and I found out after I started doing it to myself last year.

Thanks, please help.

You're most definitely not crazy. I'm not saying this is normal behavior, but a lot of teens go through this, so you're not alone.

I cut from the age of 12 to 17. I'm 18 now, and haven't cut in a year.

You need to get down to the core of your problem. What is making you cut? Is it school, home, your friends? Whatever it is, you need to find the resource, and look at all of your options.

You definitely need to tell your parents. I told mine, but they didn't really know what to do with me. I mostly got punishment threats such as if I cut again, they'd hit me or something stupid like that. However, your parents deserve to know. They can get you the help that you need. Cutting is a horrible addiction that nobody should have to surrender to. I can understand the urges, and the distress, and the disappointment in ones-self when you don't give in. But, I can also understand the disappointment when you do.

You really need to realize though, that cutting does not take your problems away. It only makes them worse. After cutting, the problems are worse, still there, and much more of a burden.

I saw a counselor at school. It kind of helped, but I mostly used music & friends to help get me through the bad times. I suggest you see a therapist though. They are professionally trained to help in situations such as this.

If you don't like your therapist, do not be afraid to speak up. So, talk to your parents, and your friends & see if your parents will take you to a therapist. You need to see one or the addiction will never stop.

So I'm 15, and pregnant. My mom says I can't keep the baby. She wants me to get an abortion, and at the most an adoption. But I couldn't bring myself to do either. She doesn't want me to keep it! What can I do?
I know it will be hard, and I don't have a job, but before it is born I will be old enough to get a job, and so will my very supporting boyfriend. It's tough, but I have supporting friends, a supporting family, and a supporting boyfriend. But she doesn't want me to have it :( what can I do? What can I tell her?

I realize that this is your body and your decision, but I'm going to have to side with your mother.

You're 15 and pregnant. If you were smart before you had sex, this situation could've been avoided. Finding a job in this economy is hard, and the chances of you & your boyfriend finding one are slim. So is the chance of your boyfriend staying around.

Get an abortion, and go on with life. Being a teenage mother isn't easy, and isn't very smart either. Wise up & listen to your mother.

How many days does it take for a package to reach new york from Las Vegas? I would really like to know.

Thanks

It depends how you send it.

If you send it overnight, the answer is pretty clear when it gets there. If you send it priority, it should take 3-4 days. Sending it normally (dropping it in the blue mailbox) would take 3-5 days, and express would take about 2-3 days.

Sending it normally would probably be best since sending packages directly from the post office gets pricey.

so im 17/f, and about a week ago i found this lump in my neck that felt like a cyst (i would know, because i had one on my face when i was younger) so i found it monday, and now its saturday (5-9-09) and its almost doubled in size, and is painful to touch. my other cyst merely felt like a lump. but this one on my neck is about the size of a quarter now, and you can see it under my skin. what is it?

I'm not sure what it is, but it doesn't sound good.

Get yourself to a doctor ASAP so that they can give you a check-up and let you know exactly what's wrong.

so a guy I was talking to he was very flirty i spent the night with him a few times slept in the same bed cuddled, told me hed be so lucky to be with me told me im part of his life, saying hes happy as long as hes talkin to me, told me i was gonna move in with him, said theres always been something about me, said wed make pretty babies (i kno stupid), but anyways he up and got back with his ex fiance sayin im his best friend and that he likes me but doesnt want to date me right now. what the hell??? what does he mean?

He doesn't know what he wants to do relationship wise with anyone, so he ran back to what was most comfortable to him.

I wouldn't waste time waiting around for him. If he's that unsure and doesn't know what he's doing, don't keep an interest in him.

okay my mom has cancer and im scared that i might lose her any day . I love my mother alot i dont want to be alone . All that will be left is my sister and me but my sisters going with her dad and im all alone because i dont have NO contact with my real father . I dont want to leave alone im only 15 and im only 1 month pregno . My ex boyfriend said i can leave with him . But he has a girlfriend I dont want it to be weird because what if a boy wants to come over with me ? Im super confused because i wanted to have this big family but it just gets smaller and smaller each day. What should i do ?.

I'm sorry to hear about your mother, but I want to get this point across:

Cancer is not always a death sentence. Not all people survive it, but not all people are killed by it too. There are a lot of details that go into what ends up happening. Please do not immeadiately tell yourself that your mother is going to die because if you surround yourself with negative thoughts & jump to conclusions asap, your life will only get harder when it doesn't need to be. Stay positive for your mother, for your family, and for yourself. This is a time where being positive really counts and matters. You need to be positive or you will get nowhere.

I suggest you talk to your mother. Ask her what's going to happen with you IF she happens to pass away. Does she have any siblings? Maybe she has a brother or a sister that she can pass on custody to. Certainly she will have to talk to them and see if they're willing to help, but I'm sure they would be considering the situation. If she doesn't have siblings, is there a really close family friend around that wouldn't mind taking you in? I'm sure there's someone. I'm sure you will not end up alone.

As far as living with your ex goes... I don't see that as a serious option. Neither of you need the drama of having the other around, especially if he has a girlfriend. It will only cause problems & you don't need the added stress when dealing with the situation at hand, and when dealing with your pregnancy.

Please do not worry though. Stay upbeat, and positive. And remember to talk with your mother. Everything will work out for the best.

are u allowed to move out at 17 or do u have to have parents permission before you can go....?
cause mine probably wont give me permission
am i allowed to just leave?

No. If you left, you would be considered a runaway and it could get you into trouble. The only way to leave home without getting in trouble is to get their permission, wait until you're 18 like I did, or emancipate them.

If you can't get their permission and don't wish to deal with emancipation, then you'll have to wait.

Hello im 17 and my mom is 34. She recently brought up that she wants to get mther and daughter tattoos. I really like the idea. I just have no idea what to get! Is there any websites that have good ones on there. I just want something small and cute. Like a heart with something. I dont know but we want to get matching tattoos. Does anybody have any ideas or websites that would help? Thanks a bunch

Before I moved to California, my older brother and I got matching tattoos. Mine is on my hip, and his is behind his ear. We got yin-yangs because they match our personalities, and pretty much go hand in hand as we do.

If there's something you and your mother both like such as stars or diamonds, you could get that tattooed. You can either get each others initials or your birth stone colors. Or maybe even something with your favorite colors. She can get something and have it colored with your favorite color and you can get yours colored with her favorite color.

The tattoo parlors have some portfolios depending on the artist so you can see their work and if you like something they've done, you can get that. They also usually have pictures of tattoos up. You should try and take a look around the parlor because it could give you a lot of ideas.

if you have a problem would you want your friend to force/get it out of you or just gives up and wait till you tell them? and why?

I'd want to go to my friend on my own time. Forcing something out of someone isn't the way to go about things & will likely make their problem worse.

15/f.
im the oldest in my family, my parents are both asian and the strictest on me.i guess i can say im "white washed" but there still really strict. anyway theyve always told me to go to university and always tell me education is very important, and i know it is. but up until this year i didnt really know why people didnt go to university after high school, i kinda thought it was the only thing to do.(also i am lucky because i get to go on vacation a lot..they give me lots of oppurtunities)

what im trying to say is, ive lost my motivation and i dont even know if i want to go to university after high school, do you think im just over reacting becuase i feel so restricted and im lucky(becuase i get sooo mad that my parents are strict, i cry about it a lot), or do you think maybe university may not be right for me.

-also i dont really feel like going to university because how far can it even get me? and how far can i get without it?

oh and do u have any advice about hwo to deal with my parents, becasue i dont know what to do!

If I were you, I'd go to university. Universities are better than community college in the fact that they look good on resumes, and they can get you some really good careers. A community college can do the same, but everyone usually goes to one of those right after high school because they're easier to get into.

A university will get you very far in life. You'll have better job opportunities. Life will be easier if you go to a university. Also, you can live on campus if you choose. :) That could help with your parents being strict because you won't always be under their watch.

As for dealing with your parents, I think you should try to see it their way sometimes. They are the adult, and they know what they're talking about. What you have been through, they have already experienced so take their word for it when they tell you something. Strict parents aren't a bad thing. There is nothing wrong with worrying about your children and wanting the best for them. You will likely be the same when you're a parent. You only want to see your child succeed and have a good life. They are doing their best to give you that.

You sound like you're very privileged, and I think your life sounds pretty awesome. Just try to see it from their perspective. It could make things a lot easier for you. And you should realize that they're doing this for you. I'm not saying you're not appreciative but things would be easier if you put yourself in their shoes & accepted what they told you. Their word is final. The sooner you understand that, the sooner things will be better for you.

Also, be happy you have the opportunities that you do. I was kicked out of school in my junior year and things have been crappy for me since. And that's because my parents didn't really give a flying yoohoo what I did. :|

so im engaged to this guy..have been for two years... he lives in iowa and i in cali..dont worry he just moved there.. well he went there cuz i thought i didnt wanna get married now i do and i know for sure. my family dont want me to talk to him and dont know i do and i think im gonna just up and leave and marry him.. is it a bad idea. i dotn have a job there and he hasnt gotten a place yet i was gonna wait a lil while before i go but wat should i do

Stay in California. You don't have a job, I'm pretty sure he doesn't, and he doesn't have a place to live.

Does that sound like a good life to you? Wait until he's more settled & has his life together before you do anything rash.

a skinny girl or a a thick girl. not fat but curvy.

All guys are different. I've dated a few guys who didn't mind a curvy girl, and I've dated guys who have preferred a thin girl but went curvy instead with me.

It honestly depends on the guy. No guy is the same so the preference is different too.

16/f

Right, so i really like this guy(who is 16), but the problem is he has a girlfriend, but liek two weeks before he started dating her he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said no cause i didn't think i lieked him liek that, anyway now i do. Would it be so dreadful for me to flirt with him a little and try n win him back? Any tips are useful, ty.
:3

I would say yes that doing that would make you a bitch.

You wouldn't want someone to flirt with your boyfriend so don't do it to another girl. It only causes trouble & brings along a lot of unnecessary drama. Save yourself the drama & just wait until he's single again, but just remain his friend.

I really wanna live in Manhattan when i'm older, but i've been told that it's really hard to get a job there and that i'd really struggle with paying rent on an apartment near Times sqare.
Is it really that hard to earn a living in Manhattan?

Living anywhere now-a-days is hard. I just moved to Los Angeles two months ago, and I'm struggling so much. However, I moved in with my boyfriend and have a place to stay so my worries are mostly about jobs & school.

I can tell you right now that Manhattan is a really expensive place to live. You would need to get into a place with roommates. You can put ads up to look for one, or maybe if you make a friend & they're looking for someone to move in you can do that too. As far as finding a job goes, that's hard whether you're in Manhattan or whether you're in some really small town. The economy is suffering tremendously & getting a job during this period is going to be really difficult and almost impossible. I'm going back to school first before I get a job because I've tried for 2 months and nobody has been calling back. No doubt I'll keep trying though until school comes.

So yeah, it's hard to earn a living in Manhattan. It's hard to earn a living anywhere.

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