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asian parents
15/f.
im the oldest in my family, my parents are both asian and the strictest on me.i guess i can say im "white washed" but there still really strict. anyway theyve always told me to go to university and always tell me education is very important, and i know it is. but up until this year i didnt really know why people didnt go to university after high school, i kinda thought it was the only thing to do.(also i am lucky because i get to go on vacation a lot..they give me lots of oppurtunities)
what im trying to say is, ive lost my motivation and i dont even know if i want to go to university after high school, do you think im just over reacting becuase i feel so restricted and im lucky(becuase i get sooo mad that my parents are strict, i cry about it a lot), or do you think maybe university may not be right for me.
-also i dont really feel like going to university because how far can it even get me? and how far can i get without it?
oh and do u have any advice about hwo to deal with my parents, becasue i dont know what to do!
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If I were you, I'd go to university. Universities are better than community college in the fact that they look good on resumes, and they can get you some really good careers. A community college can do the same, but everyone usually goes to one of those right after high school because they're easier to get into.
A university will get you very far in life. You'll have better job opportunities. Life will be easier if you go to a university. Also, you can live on campus if you choose. :) That could help with your parents being strict because you won't always be under their watch.
As for dealing with your parents, I think you should try to see it their way sometimes. They are the adult, and they know what they're talking about. What you have been through, they have already experienced so take their word for it when they tell you something. Strict parents aren't a bad thing. There is nothing wrong with worrying about your children and wanting the best for them. You will likely be the same when you're a parent. You only want to see your child succeed and have a good life. They are doing their best to give you that.
You sound like you're very privileged, and I think your life sounds pretty awesome. Just try to see it from their perspective. It could make things a lot easier for you. And you should realize that they're doing this for you. I'm not saying you're not appreciative but things would be easier if you put yourself in their shoes & accepted what they told you. Their word is final. The sooner you understand that, the sooner things will be better for you.
Also, be happy you have the opportunities that you do. I was kicked out of school in my junior year and things have been crappy for me since. And that's because my parents didn't really give a flying yoohoo what I did. :|
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I think you're probably just wanting to break free from the restrictions your parents have given you. You're wanting to rebel against what they want you to do. Trust me, you need to go to university. It's very hard to get much above minimum wage without a degree. It is possible to move up the corporate ladder. But it takes years of extremely hardwork that you could forgo by getting a degree and being a step ahead to begin with.
You need to talk to your parents. Try to sit them down and tell them that you're feeling oppressed and pushed down my their constant strictness. Tell them that because they're pressuring you into doing everything, your heart isn't in it. They need to know that unless they lighten up, you're going to rebel against what they want you to do.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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