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if you give head, and you've been eattin out are you still are virgin?
also, im a 14/f and me and my boyfriend are having sex soon for the first time. im pretty excited, but is there anything i should know.
dont tell me im to young, ill be mad :/ (link)
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I think traditionally you have to have
penis/vagina penetration to lose your
virginity. However, one who has done
other things sexually is really no
longer pure as snow. :)
I do think 14 is a bit young for sex.
But, I've been around long enough to
know my (or anyone else's)opinion
is unlikely to sway your decision. So
be safe about it and as protected as
you can possibly be.
This is an excellent source of
information about anything you could
want to know or need to know. Please
read things on this site before
you take that next step.:)
http://www.coolnurse.com/
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Lately my boyfriend has been really busy, which is a huge 360, because I was always the busy one. Now, I'M the one who has nothing to do and always wants to hang out, but he's always working.
Then, when he has a day off, he'll call me and we make plans, but when that day finally comes, he's sleeping in. I understand he's tired, but I'm tired too. I'm tired of the false promises he's making me and I can only put up with so much.
I call him up while I'm upset and flustered (I'm only human and I have the right to be), then he'll say something on the lines of, "See, this is why I don't want to hang out with you, because this is how you act."
I thought he'd be more understanding because he used to be in my position, but now, it's like he's taking advantage of it. I'm the only one who's being understanding because I keep taking his crap. I'm so tired of getting my hopes up and being letdown.
Now, he made plans with me again to hang out on his day off, and I don't know how to respond.
I want to decline because I feel like he doesn't deserve me, that I'm not some lightswitch he can turn on and off as he pleases, and that I've had it. I don't want to give him what he wants.
On the other hand, why should I be so spiteful? Because in the end, that's what I wanted.. to spend time with him, and I'm gonna pass it up? But I don't want to give in. Like I said, I don't wanna play on his terms and play whenever it's "convenient" for him.
What should I do about this? Any thoughts or help would be appreciated. (link)
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Don't play games. That is just a waste of time.
If you don't feel he has time for you, end it.
Find someone who does.
If you want to make it work, you will have
to be more understanding, as I assume he
was when you were to busy. If he makes
plans and then is inconsiderate enough
not to show up...assume he doesn't care
about the relationship as much as you do.
Find someone who finds time to spend with
you. That is my advice. :)
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I was diagnosed with mono a little more than a month ago. It lasted about 4 weeks and then I felt completely fine, even though I know i still had it. I stayed pretty unactive because I know you're supposed to stay rested as long as possible. Recently, I've been running and going to pom pom practice at school. There is also a guy I'm with who said he did have it a long while ago... but i didn't think it'd matter to kiss him since we've both already had it. Now I'm going through a mono relapse. What is most likely the cause?
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Once you have infectious mononucleosis,
you don't get it again. However, if someone
resumes his normal activities too soon after
having had a case of mono, he can have a
relapse of symptoms until he has a chance to
fully recover. Symptoms of mono can last up
to 6 months or so. So, I think it is possible
that you just returned to being active to
soon.
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Okay, Im 16/f and here is some background info.
So my dad has had cancer since 2001 and he keeps getting rediognosed. and this realli makes me upset, i can barely handle it anymore. Im constantly crying and ive been having suicidal thoughts(i dont think i will ever accually do it, i just think about how much easier it would be for my parents to get my dad better if i wasnt here)
Well a few days ago (aka the worst day ever) we had to call 9121 because my dad was so sick and the ambulence had to rush him to the hospital...
Im pretty sure im depressed, i cant talk to any of my friends because i know they try but they can never help me the best thy can do it "im so sorry im here for you" and i commend them so much for dealing with me though
Im just always sad and nothing makes me happy, ive been crying so much more lately, sleeping massive amounts, and not eating. I dont knwo what to do? How can i get myself to be happy and not so depressed.. i try to stay positive. i pray alot, but nothing helps me at all. it seems ive tryed everything.... should i seek professional help?=[
thanks so much
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My dad died this past year so I know it
can be upsetting. He had cancer but they
found it when he was being xrayed for an
abdominal aneurysm. Couldn't fix the
aneurysm because of the cancer. He was a
walking time bomb. The aneurysm busted and
that is what took his life in th end.
You are going to be depressed. It is not at
all unusual. You have to try and live in the
moment right now because thats all you can do.
His cancer is not going away and it probably
won't. Don't let sadness of knowing that keep
you from making memories with him right now.
They will be important one day. Share with
him your hopes and dreams for the future.
Talk about things you've done in the past.
Let him know what he means to you. Say "I
love you" a lot!
If mom agrees discussing this with a doctor
can't hurt at all. It is very normal though.
Don't even think that your death would make
things easier on your family. It would make
things much worse. I'm sure your mom has
very depressing thoughts herself. Try sharing
your feelings with her. I know she could
probably use a shoulder to lean on too. :)
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My best friend was playing basketball, and he fell on his wrist, he went in for X-rays and he hasn't gotten them back yet, we thought he broke his arm or wrist. Well like now im on the phone with him, and he like got his arm in hot water, and then he started freaking out because his vien hurts really really reallly bad. What could this mean?! Please help. (link)
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He needs to call his doctor and find out.
Just ask for the doctors nurse and she will
answer any questions he has and advise him
if he needs to be seen by the doctor or not. :)
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yep. like i know he can be an asshole and immature..but i know of a side of him that no one else does.
and i was talking to my mom and she asked again why were werent friends..and shes like 'and your not gonna see half these people ever again so why should it matter..?" and im like "thats why i refuse to listen anyone else opinion.." i mean no one may like that we are friends again..and they may think we are wrong for each other..but we know how to have fun and be there..and we just understand each other better..obviously we if didnt think the other one was worth it..we wouldnt even bother at all. =] (link)
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Thats absolutely right. It is worth trying
if you get along. These days with being able
to talk to people around the world via
instant messengers and myspace, makes it
easier to stay in contact after high school.
That wasn't possible when your mom and I
were teens.
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I had a quick question for you. It is somewhat medical, but I thought since you've had kids and are older and more mature, you might be able to give me some input. If not, is there anyone you know of that is a doctor or a nurse? Basically, I'm getting my wisdom teeth extracted this summer. I'm not worried about the procedure itself. I've dealt with pain before and I realize that if you keep them in, you could have trouble also. I'm really worried about my condition from Anorexia. It began over a year ago. I stopped restricting myself from food, but can't get around to eating lots of sugar and saturated fat. I really don't concern myself with calories too much. I'm probably getting around 2000 a day with limited exercise so I don't lose anymore weight. I'm approximately 5'7 and weigh 117-118 lbs. I heard that anesthesia may have serious affects with anorexic patients. Like I said, I definitely have enough calories, but its very hard for me to add extra fat to my diet. I eat alot of the same foods, but eat alot of fruits & veggies. I still cut out junk food and desserts. I only eat chicken & turkey. I never really liked beef or dairy. I know my diet isn't perfect, but I feel that I improved. When I'm getting my wisdom teeth pulled, they're using a general IV anesthetic. Basically they are going to put the IV in so that I fall asleep while they're doing the procedure. I will be breathing on my own and the dosage is given by your weight. Should I be worried? We called the office and they said it is distributed by weight but they will put it on my chart. I'm worrying myself about it. Any suggestions? Thanks! (link)
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If the office knows your history they will
take care with the anesthesia. It sounds like
they are doing tests to keep you safe. I think
where people run into problems is when they
get the procedure done while actively just
not eating. It sounds like you are doing fine.
Low fat diets are fine. More people should
avoid fat and extra sugar. Diabetics have to
do it and get anesthesia for procedures all
the time. You will be fine.
I have had my wisdom teeth removed as has
my daughter. Any surgery is scary but it
wasn't real bad. Having to keep gauze in
your mouth for a time was probably the most
annoying part. The pain is controllable and
not as bad as you might think.
You will do just fine. :)
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yep yep.
well we started getting into a tad bit of an arugement though while texting.
i got a bit hurt that he isnt willing to take a risk with me and turn this into a serious friendship and maybe become best friends again, though i said i didnt want to be best friends again..
and that upset me..and i went to go see indiana jones with my parents...and my battery was low..so i asked my dad for his phone..and my mom is why..im like i gotta call nick -_-. and i was gone for the 1st 10 minutes of the movie..and i came back and my moms like is everything okay..and i said yeh.
and on the way home my mom goes "so are you in love with this boy and your not telling us?"
and i go "no" and she goes "i think your lying" and i go "fine i am.." and she goes "a mother always knows..you dont know maybe an year from now you'll hook up..or you'll realize he is an asshole.."
well i already know he's an asshole on some levels..but this guy..turn my world from black and white to color.
i was miserable without him. who knows. :-\
heh. =[ oh well. (link)
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Yes mothers are pretty intuitive sometimes!
And most guys have their asshole moments.
We ladies probably do too. :)
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yeah who woulda thought?
i mean all my friends are dissappointed in my decision.. but you know he and i went though a lot and we are able to work it out.. its fun to have him around again. i couldnt stop smiling all day monday. =] (link)
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So glad to hear it! Friends mean well but
don't always know exactly whats good for
you.
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soo this first week of the friendship was amazing.
we spent all afterschool on thursday together at the end of the year/goodbye seniors party for our club.
and it was purely amazing. =]
then he sat with me on the bus on the way home.
and yeah.
we had 2 rainy days in gym.
so all 3 gym classes were inside the gym, so we got to joke around and etc. during our warm up jog..
and yeah it feels great.
no awkwardness no nothing, just 2 friends having fun. =] (link)
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WOO HOO! Sounds like things are looking up.
Keep up the good work because it sounds
like its working very well. :)
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My wife says I need to understand her need to have an orgasm, what or how do I help her achieve one? (link)
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Of course you need to understand.
Women have the same needs a man does.
I'm sure you wouldn't want sex if
you didn't get pleasure from it! :)
The answer is really simple. SHE
needs to help you by letting you
know what she wants you to do. It
isn't just something YOU have to
come up with on your own.
Everyone is different. Work together
and have her tell you what she would
like. You do the same. Pleasing her
will make your experience much better
too. :)
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I am a 41 year old man. I have been divorced for 5 yrs. I have been dating a woman on and off for the same five years. We had split it off about a yr and a half ago. I missed her very bad and had began seeing another woman. She started coming around my house and kept trying to get me back. Finally I gave in and blew it off with the other girl. We started seeing each other again and I ended up asking her to marry me last year in Feb.
I have a 16 yr old son who lives with me. He has been thru alot since the divorce. His mom not only walked out on me, but also the kids. My daughter is now 21 and on her own. My son is a big concern.
Last year I purchased a home about 30 miles away in the hometown of my fiance and she moved in with me. My son was upset about the move but in the year since, he has come to love our new town.
My fiance and came up with a financial agreement that She'd pay the mortgage of $1300/month and I'd pay the rest of the bills which total about $2000/month.
Here's the big issue. We used to have a pretty decent sex life except for the fact that she will not give oral sex. The rest of the relationship I thought was good enough that I thought I could probably look past it. I love oral, both giving and receiving.
Our relationship, though not perfect, is extremely good and we are best friends. Except, now she is not interested in sex at all and she's decided that we can have sex every other night. There is no flexibility in this with her. And when its MY NIGHT, then she says to hurry up and let her know when I'm ready. There is no foreplay, no arrousal. She doesn't even participate, at all. Now she don't even let me give her oral, though I'm good at it and she orgasm's every time.
She says I have the problem. It's to the point that I don't want to do anything at all or even be around her if it's not MY NIGHT. I long for passion and romance and she gives me none.
I've tried to talk to her but she refuses point blank to talk about it. I'm very unhappy and very unfulfilled in this relationship.
Two things worry me the most. My son, who has been through so much, is finally beginning to feel stable. If I dump her, then he's hurt again.
Secondly, I love my home very much, though, had we not made a plan, I wouldn't have bought it. It takes both incomes to manage the bills.
I really love her. Either I dump her or resign myself to an unfulfilled sex life.
Also, I've been cheating on her with a 29 yr old. (she's 45). The 29 year old is a freak in the sack and satisfies me immensly. I'm not making a decision based on my affair, but I can't take it anymore. I hate drama, and breaking up is big drama.
I see no more use. She just don't satisfy me. I don't like cheating and can and would be faithful to someone who put a small effort into pleasing me. I think a lazy lover who does not even try to please me is in way being unfaithful.
Is dumpsville the enevitable? Or am I being unreasonable and should change my thinking? (link)
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You may be very good friends, but if
you aren't compatible sexually it isn't
going to work out in the long run. You
are already cheating on her, thats a good
sign it is over.
You didn't say how old your son is, but
if he is a teen, you need to have a long
talk with him. He may be hurt, but I think
you could make him understand. It isn't
like you hate the woman, you just are not
compatible enough to enter into marriage.
If you really want the one you're living
with you need to have a very long and
serious talk. If you have had a good
relationship sexually in the past, then
she needs to get help to find out what
went wrong for her and get it fixed. If
she isn't willing to speak with a doctor
about it you have no choice but to end it.
Cheating and staying in a relationship you
don't want isn't helping your son at all.
It will eventually turn ugly and that would
be much worse than a clean breakup.
So, my advice is if you see no changes
ahead please do not get married. Getting
married will not fix a thing.
If you have to move again into a place
you can afford, do it. Try your best to
find a place that won't move your son
away from school or friends, but if you
have to just do it.
Don't move any babes in unless there is
a ring on her finger (yours!) and you
have no doubts at all it is forever.
Good luck. :)
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13/f
Well its kind of a long story but we were at my house for my birthday party and my friend is going out with this guy and my friend really hate kiley like REALLY HATES HER and so we texted her boyfriend on my fone pretending to bve "kiley" to see what he would say and he told "kiley" that he wood go out with her if he wasnt going out with my friend and so he didnt know it was us so now she knows that he would talk to kiley like that and not even tell her and so now they are in a really big fight and mite break up does this make me a bad friend for like letting her know that he would talk to other girls like this and what should I do Like he said that if he and my friend broke up he would go with kiley WHAT SHOULD I DO???? (link)
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OK, I don't have a kiss up answer for you. :)
What did he do wrong? He simply answered
a text message. Does she want a rude boyfriend?
He put the fake Kiley down as easy as he
could. He told her he has a girlfriend.
He didn't say "I have a girlfriend but I'm
willing to cheat on her, come on over."
What else would he be expected to do?
There is nothing wrong with the answer
he gave unless there was more we aren't
being told about.
I think she needs to tell him what she
did, which was worse than what he did.
If she doesn't chill out he will be
looking Kiley up, who has no idea of whats
happening. OOPS, he'll look like the fool
again.
If you want an honest answer, there
isn't enough maturity there to be in
a relationship. There is already lying
and petty little princess squabbles.
Tell your friend to grow up and try again.
If he never talks to her again he will
be the one in the right.
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what are the charges if you get into a car accident while drunk. and what are some drunk driving story survivers? (link)
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If you hurt anyone you will most likely be sued.
Since most states are really cracking down hard
you will probably be paying the rest of your life.
If you actually kill someone or cause them
to be crippled or brain damaged forever you
will be sued and probably spend a good deal
of time in jail. Not to mention the psychological
problems of dealing with what has happened.
There is no excuse for drinking and driving
and not meaning to cause harm to another
isn't an excuse anymore.
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I hear alot of people talk about different positions, for example; military style. I cant even think of half of the other positions I hear about so often. lol. can someone name and explain what they are? (link)
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Since we aren't allowed to go into any
detail concerning sex stuff, here is a
search that provides thousands of sites.
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just wondering whta the symptoms of this is
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For females: a cloudy vaginal discharge, painful urination, vaginal itching. Often no early symptoms for women
For males: a yellowish, pus-filled discharge from the penis, burning with urination.
taken from chart you can access here for more information. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/std_chart.htm
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Hi im 18/f i need a job and im really lazy and don't really want one, but nonetheless. My mom says i need to call and follow up like say did you get my application and whatnot, i applied to a dozen places online. is this necessary? (link)
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Yes, its a very good idea to follow up.
It lets a potential employer know how
interested you are in working for them.
Someone who shows interest is more likely
to be noticed. Its nice to hire someone
who is eager to have the job. :)
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I am 17 and I was driving home tonight, and as i was driving up a hill (i'll admit...probably a little too fast) i realized by lights were off- so i turned them on...and then a second later i saw a cop car behind me so i pulled over. When he came over he was just like (nicely) "I saw you fly up the hill with your lights off" (i wasn't going insanely fast). But he asked for my license (which was valid and everything), and he was just like alright have a good night. He didn't ask me for my registration, he didn't give me a ticket, and he didn't specify a "warning"
So my question is:
Am I on some kind of record now? like as far as i could tell he didn't write my name down (he was right in front of me the whole time).
And should i tell my parents?? I am kind of scared too- but i feel like i should- but idk whyy...
THanks soo much!!! (link)
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He more or less gave you a verbal warning.
It won't go on any records or anything.
More than likely he wouldn't have bothered
with you had you not popped your lights on
at just the time you did. It made him wonder
if you had been up to something. :)
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he's back....hah.
the 2 weeks were over and at midnight june 1st he was gonna IM me or call me to tell me he still wants to be friends. but he got grounded so he didnt get to tell me till today.
i purposely went the way i did to first period because i knew he would most likely be going that way. we passed each other, and right after we passed he touched my arm, i turned around and he said "its an yes." after 1st period..we saw each other..and just smiled. and after 2nd period. i told him..that i was gonna tell him no. and that i honestly started to hate him. and he was like "oh... :-("
because i told myself no matter what happens i was gonna say no.
i saw him throughout the day..and i couldnt stop smiling all day..and i kept thinking about what i said to myself how i wouldnt be friends with him. but i did tell him that if he did say yes that id need space to figure out what i want..and im un sure..if i should go for that risk or not. because it was great to talk, joke, hug and laugh today.
i just dont know..my friend..said this may be the start of a new better friendship..i just dont know..because if something goes bad ill never see again after june 12th anyways..even if we live right around the corner and what not.. heh
what should i do? =[ (link)
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Your friend may be right. It might
be the start of a new and better
relationship.
Life is taking risks. Just let him know
up front, and you keep it in your mind
too...this is it. If it doesn't work out
you will move on. :)
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The month of May i started my period around the 5th or 6th, sometime during that week my boyfriend and i engaged in unprotected sex. I am a 19 year old female... my periods always seem to come a little sooner then the one i had before.. anyways, i should be starting my next cycle within the next week. I am concerned however, that I may have become pregnant from this unprotected intercoarse. I took an "early response" pregnancy test, which came back negative. However i also have many symptoms relative to both pregnancy and period.. bloating.. constipation.. fatique... what do you think?! (link)
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Retake the test if you miss your
period completely. A lot of your
symptoms are for later on in a
pregnancy when you have put on
some significant weight.
Here is list of symptoms to look
for AFTER you have missed your
period. :)
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