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virgin?
if you give head, and you've been eattin out are you still are virgin?
also, im a 14/f and me and my boyfriend are having sex soon for the first time. im pretty excited, but is there anything i should know.
dont tell me im to young, ill be mad :/
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I think traditionally you have to have
penis/vagina penetration to lose your
virginity. However, one who has done
other things sexually is really no
longer pure as snow. :)
I do think 14 is a bit young for sex.
But, I've been around long enough to
know my (or anyone else's)opinion
is unlikely to sway your decision. So
be safe about it and as protected as
you can possibly be.
This is an excellent source of
information about anything you could
want to know or need to know. Please
read things on this site before
you take that next step.:)
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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In the United States it's actually illegal for people under the age of 18 to have sex with anyone especially those 18+. Having said that the likelihood is high that you'll proceed regardless of us advising against it. If that makes you mad than tough. I can deal with the wrath of a 14-year-old.
You need a dose of reality here. You're 14-years-old if you have sex and wind up pregnant what will you do? What will you do if you get an STD? If you can't afford to have a baby in your life don't proceed at least not without a trip to a gynecologist to get on a method of birth control other than condoms.
Are you sure your boyfriend is going to stick around after you have intercourse with him? Don't be so sure as a lot of boys will promise the moon and say anything to get into your pants at this age. You don't want to be the girl he did it with and dumped or talked about at school.
If you are going to do this (which I hope you won't) wait a few months and learn all you can about birth control options, visit a gynecologist and plan it out so it goes smoothly and you are totally and completely protected.
When it comes to virginity what you have been doing falls under the definition of sexual acts. Some believe it's a form of actual sex while others think it's fooling around. The standard definition for virgin is someone who hasn't had vaginal intercourse. So technically that makes you one.
Here's a good article on what you can expect and things to consider that may not have entered your mind. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
The first time is always the most difficult and anti-climatic. You might feel pain especially if your hymen has never been stretched by masturbation or tampons. You may bleed a bit and feel pain especially from friction and thrusting. He might not feel a thing either at first and perhaps nor will you. It's probably not going to live up to the glamour and build up you've had around it or told to you.
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Most people believe that a girl loses her virginity when a penis penetrates her vagina. But this raises a lot of questions for me - for instance, what about lesbians, who choose to never be penetrated by a man? They may have been having sex for years and years but by that definition, still be a 'virgin'. Another question would be, are women who have only had sexual contact within the context of rape considered non-virgins? There are plenty of arguements about this sort of thing, so as far as I'm concerned, 'virginity' is a matter of personal opinion. You are no longer a virgin when you come to that conclusion on your own.
And in reference to your first time, there are plenty of things I would suggest. First of all, plan for and obtain your method of birth control long before the actual act. It's always good to be prepared. Secondly, use lube. Lots of it. You can obtain it at your local grocery store and even some convenience stores. It's not very expensive and it will save you a world of pain. But make sure to purchase a lube which is sugar-free, even if it's flavoured, or else you may risk getting a bacterial infection.
Before the actual act, make sure to include lots of foreplay. There is no need to rush. The more time the both of you have to explore and to become aroused, the better it will be. When you get turned on, your body releases natural lubricants which will also make the sex less painful.
Finally, make sure you have a private place and plenty of time to spend together afterwards. It's not unusual to feel sad after your first time, and that's okay. Having him there to bond with afterwards will be a great comfort.
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your still a virgin till his penis enters your vagina.. theres not much to really tell you except to relax and it might hurt a lot the first time depending on the girl
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