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I sometimes take long breaks from the site. I'm more than happy to answer anyone's questions, but just make sure they're not too time sensitive. :)

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*married
*large extended family
*bisexual
*advanced college degree
*no kids (yet)

advice

Is it normal to be on your periods twice a month for more than 3 months?

No, it isn't, but I'm sure you knew that. It may or may not be an issue. A friend of mine was having a very heavy period twice a month for awhile and she ended up needing thyroid surgery. I believe that she was 16 at the time. It could be something serious or nothing at all. An irregular period could be a sign of something being wrong, but it isn't always. Many teenagers have irregular periods and don't need surgery. You should see a doctor to find out either way. Good luck!

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How can i gain weight fast? I search online but nothing seems to help. Im 5'3 weight about 90 pounds and very skinny. But not annoeractic. Im 13 also. Soo any suggestions

You want to remain healthy so don't pig out on junk food. Just eat more of what you're already eating. It's really as simple as that. To gain one pound, you need to consume an extra 3500 calories. You can't do this too fast because you'll get sick. Try adding 500 calories a day and you'll gain 1 pound a week. Please talk to a doctor or nutritionist about this as well. They'll be able to guide you through it. Good luck!

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First I want to apologize if this is in the wrong section!!

17/m


On sunday, March 17th I had sex with my girlfriend, who is 15.

We did use a condom. While having sex I came in the condom still in her and continued to thrust a bit.. I pulled out and the condom was like 1/3 off my penis. She had white stuff around her vagina. I immediately took off the condom and checked for a break and even filled it with water to see (I'll always fill it with water to make sure there is no breaks) and I was scared because this was our first time together. We both have had other partners. She said she didn't know if she orgasmed or not. The next day on the 18th I gave her a morning after pill to just be cautious. She said she was not ovulating.

I looked up when she was suppose to be ovulating and it was the 13th to the 15th or something like that. It was up till the 15th I just don't remember the start date. Tomorrow (Wednesday March 26th) she is suppose to get her period. Today she said her boobs have hurt really bad and has been craving water. I am very worried about this because I can't have a child. I just got a new car and make payments on that and I go to college in a year. Our parents would be very upset with us. Plus I don't want any charges filed on me.

I am really scared and nervous. What are the odds she is pregnant? She is starting to get nervous and stuff too.

I need help and advice.

I got freaked out and took the plan b pill once. It completely messed up my cycle. I got my period 2 weeks early and it was much more painful than usual. That pill is a huge dose of hormones so it can really screw with a woman's body for a short time. Her boobs probably hurt because of the pill.

Yes, it's possible that she's pregnant, which is the risk that you take every time that you have sex. If it's this big of a deal to you, you probably shouldn't be doing it, but I'm sure you know that. She should start taking birth control pills if the two of you plan to continue having sex. If it helps you feel better, it is unlikely that she's pregnant. You did use a condom and she did take the morning after pill. Next time, don't continue after ejaculation if you're using a condom. Better yet, even with the condom on, pull out. Pulling out isn't effective on its own, but it's an added layer of protection with condom use especially if she's not going to be taking the pill.

Good luck!

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I am a college student. Male. Living in Houston. I am form Vietnam.

I am missing an academy year because I failed a course last semester. However, when I reviewed my final exam, I strongly suspected there was a falsification my record. It's a pretty complex problem. What organization/lawyer should I seek help or counsel? How much does it estimately cost for the service?

Thank you in advance for your advice.

tphu

Depending on the college that you are attending, they may have what's called an "ombudsman" or "ombudsperson". Figure out if they do and get into contact with this person. They will be able to help you with your situation and figure everything out for free or direct you to someone local that can help you if they feel that you have a case. Make sure that you save EVERYTHING. Good luck!

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So I took my birth control pill at around 6pm and then drank a bit of alcohol with my boyfriend. We had sex at around 11 or 12 and then I threw up at around 2:30am .__. I'm not sure if It was due to the alcohol or cause I ate something wrong cause I had some outdated mayonaise >-<
Anyways I couldnt keep anything down until 1pm but then everything was fine again.
So should I be worried about the birth control pill not working correctly?

Everything should be fine since you threw up more than 8 hours after you'd taken the pill. That pill should have been long gone and already in your system. Just don't eat any more spoiled food. :)

If you want specific information about the pill's effectiveness, just call your doctor. This kind of thing happens and they'll have a good answer for you concerning the specific pill that you're on. You don't want to get so stressed out about it that you miss your period anyway. Good luck!

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Hi I'm starting to get worried about my best friend and we're both in middle school. He has such a big heart but he has been bullied since kindergarden and I am starting to get worried about him. He has told me he thinks life stinks and he has stopped believing in happy endings and he wants to die. What if he tries/does something stupid? I have already told him how much he means to me and that I will always be here for him no matter what but I often find him putting himself down. He has told me that his brother is always picking on him or beating him up. Please help me! I really care about him and I can't stand seeing him so hard on himself all the time. What do I do about him?

This is bigger than you. It's not a situation that you alone can handle. Your friend needs more support than just one person to feel like he's worth something even if you give him the support of 100 people, you're still just one person on his list of people who care. If he's saying things like this and is refusing to seek help on his own, you need to tell someone. Schools are really cracking down on bullying these days. It's the best thing that you can do for him to clue other people in to the situation and get them to show their care and support as well. You as one person cannot prevent him from making the wrong choice. I'd rather have a friend with hurt feelings that I betrayed him in some way by telling than a dead friend. I wish you the best of luck.

Here's a link with good advice that may help:

http://www.healthyplace.com/depression/articles/how-to-handle-a-suicide-situation-for-teens/get-help-for-a-suicidal-person/

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I have a baby and with this man and once was in love and I just don't feel anything when he kisses me or when we talk but I do care for him we was going to get married but it kept getting cancelled we don't fight really but heres the thing this guy I have known for years we got together before I got with who I'm with now and we really had something crazy we felt like it could have been love at first sight but then he had to go away for 3 years and we just started talking again and all the feelings came back that fast and I let the one I'm with know everything and he said he will change and the other one won't give up its like a Bella Edward Jacob thing lol should I stay and try to fall back in love with the man I made a family with or do I go with the unknown and the possibility of love at first sight but with more passion then most can dream about remember I have a home a baby what should I do I'm so lost im 24 they are both really good guys the one I'm with wants to make our family work the other wants to start a family with me and love my son as one of his own what should I do this is so hard

Don't leave the relationship that you're in. You owe it to your child to make it work. Now that you have a kid, your life isn't just about you and the temporary passion that you want anymore. Yeah, this other guy seems awesome and if you were to leave your current man for him, things would be great for awhile, but the passion would subside with him just like it did with your current guy. That's just how things work. Relationships change over time. You can either move on to the next level or end it, but trust me, if you end it over this, you'll be ending every relationship from here on out for the very same reason and dragging your child through hell. You have to commit to grow with a person or break up with guys all the time because the "passion is gone". Guess what, relationships mature. You may as well stay in the one that you chose to have a child with. Good luck.

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there is a huge back story so I'll just bullet point in the chronological sequence of events however before that, I am M and was 16 when this happened.

1. I found out the person(lets name her X) I liked got an anonymous card for valentines day
2. I told my best friend that I liked X
3. Next day, best friend said He liked X and then told me he was the one who sent the card to X when I queried if he knew who sent the card.
4. I talked to X, if she knew who was the person who sent the card (since I know), she said no, she said she could 'wait'
5. I asked X a week later, about the card issue, turns out my best friend and X have already started going out secretly and privately for like a week after I found out best friend liked her. and they said they didnt want anyone to know and it was my best friend's Idea. (So B.P 4 was an act)
6. They both lied to me for a week, and thought their acting skills could last their whole relationship.
7. X actually already told heaps of people before I knew, so why am I left out, and i believe that B.F told X I also liked her.

8. BF has lied to me occasionally on important events before

9. I wasn't actually into her as much since the highschool courses are important for tertiary courses, and i knew being in a relationship would distract me. However my main issue is TRUST.

My question is "Should I trust the two of them again?"

My current stance is: No, B.F lied many times. X Followed B.F mindlessly, but even still, told her whole year level, apart from her close friends. So X followed like a sheep against me but also betrayed B.F by spreading it to the year level. But my way of knowing is simply reason and logic, not emotion, authority or morals

You can't really "trust" most teenagers. I've been there, I know how it is. Unfortunately, the brain isn't fully developed until you're 25 or so, which is probably why your friends are making silly choices and doing "untrustworthy" things. My guess is that they did this in an attempt to try not to hurt your feelings. Obviously their logic was flawed and it blew up in their faces. There probably wasn't any ill will though, and while you can't ever really fully trust your fellow teenagers, that doesn't mean that you can't be friends with them.

This is a fantastic article explaining what I was talking about with the brain: http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/teenage-brain1.htm

Don't be too hard on your friends. They seem like good people. Good luck!

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14/f My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We'll call him Chris. Chris and i got together at my party through a game of 7 minutes in heaven. After that, we snuck off and made out in a dark corner where nobody could see us. I've wanted to kiss him again ever since, but every time that i see a possibility for him to kiss me, he doesnt. Its been three months and my best friend and her boyfriend kiss all the time. Telling him straight up is out of the question, so how can i tell him without telling him?

I think that I can help get my point across by rewording your question.

14/m My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 months...I've wanted to kiss her again ever since, but every time that i see a possibility for her to kiss me, she doesn't.

Why does he have to be the one to kiss you? Maybe he's afraid that you don't want to. Clearly he likes kissing you and wants to kiss you or you wouldn't have gotten together after the party. I mean, it's how your relationship started! Maybe he's just a really great guy and doesn't want to take advantage of you.

Quit being crazy and just kiss him. That's the best and only way to tell him without telling him. It's not as hard as you're making it. There's no way you should spend another minute thinking about this. Good luck! :)

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I've always known about my husband needing to crossdress from when we first got together I've helped him with clothes etc to help him feel more comfortable. Even go out for walks , always sit and listen if he wants to talk. The last 4 months he hasn't had chance to dress up etc as its been hectic im 6 mths pregnant his eldest child lives with us and is constantly in the house with his girlfriend. I noticed he started to get angry aggressive and like he can't cope with stress. I nearly left it got so bad. I pointed out he hadn't dressed etc for a while so he did and has complete chilled out again. I know his crossdressing was a stress reliever but does it really have this affect if left so long without? Any advice would be great. I try so hard to be supportive but I've been so devastated by recent behaviour, especially in a high risk pregnancy, could this be a valid excuse as he now seems his happy self.
Thank you for reading.

I think it's great that you're supporting your husband with his crossdressing. As I'm sure you're well aware, a lot of people wouldn't so good for you. I don't have a problem with it and as long as you're fine with it, great. The issue is that you can't think that it's okay for him to become so angry and stressed out just because he has this fetish. I mean, if it was some other habit, like surfing the internet, watching Disney movies, or wearing a hat and he started acting aggressive if he hadn't done it for awhile, you'd think that there was a huge problem and that he should see a therapist. It's fine for him to enjoy crossdressing, but he should NOT be acting like that if he can't do it. He needs to get a grip and gain some control. I exercise to relive stress, but if I can't exercise for awhile I don't freak out. If I did, I'd be thinking that maybe I needed some help. Do not make excuses for his behavior. Something is wrong here and he needs to see someone about it. Be very careful in choosing who it is, though. You want to make sure that it's not going to be someone that is going to judge him for his fetish and try to get him to stop doing it because it's "wrong". The issue isn't necessarily the crossdressing, it's how he acts when he can't do it. And it's a huge issue that needs to be addressed ASAP. Both he and you deserve to live happy lives and with this type of response, he really isn't. Nothing should have that much of a hold on him. Good luck.

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Umm well my mom still won't let me shave my legs so is there a way I can hide the hair or something tht makes it look like I shaved without actually shaving. I'm dark skin. Just telling u that in case it might help. Thx!!

The best way to deal with this isn't to go behind your mom's back. If she's not allowing you to shave your legs and one day she notices that there's not any hair on them anymore, you could lose her trust.

I started getting picked on in gym class when I was in 7th grade for not shaving my legs. It was mortifying, I remember it like it was yesterday. My mom didn't want me to, and wouldn't get me a razor. I couldn't just walk to a store and get one because I lived in the middle of nowhere so one day I just used hers. I ended up cutting myself with it and she ended up noticing. She got really mad, but did end up getting me a razor and showing me how to use it properly. I wish that I had just had the courage to talk to her about it.

Moms are really understanding if you give them the chance. Why do you want to shave your legs? Is everyone else doing it? If so, I'm sure it's extremely embarrassing and you don't want to end up becoming a social outcast over something so silly that you actually want to do. Be real with your mom and tell her exactly what you're thinking and feeling. As long as you're just trying to fit in and avoid getting bullied rather than wanting to do it to impress guys, you should be able to get what you want. You don't want to feel like you have to wear pants every day because you're just to embarrassed. I wish you the best of luck and please try to talk to your mom about it before doing something stupid like I did.

You may be thinking to yourself "but I've already tried talking to her and it doesn't work". Sure you're tried asking and perhaps whining or begging, but have you really had a deep conversation about it in which you talk about your feelings and how this may be negatively affecting your social life and self confidence? She just wants you to stay a little girl and enjoy your childhood while you can. It's a pain to have to shave all the time and always have to look your best and she's trying to save you from all that. If she realizes that she's truly affecting your confidence and holding you back by doing this, she'll likely give in. Let her know that you're ready. The best way to start is by having a mature conversation about it.

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i have been with him for 5 years and reading all the things i have been reading on this website is showing me that he may just not be inlove or hes sick in his head and loves two women. so... he has been wanting me hard for the whole time however doing things that dont make sence on the side. he has this friend thats a girl. they owned a bar and a house together. I have not been welcomed to ethier of those places. now i know how that sounds but!!! he spends all holidays and weekends with me and swears she is just a fat bitch jelouse friend. i met her sister i call the bar and talked to her friends and they all told me they are just friends. but why am i not allowed to meet her? why am i not allowed the house my man owns and she lives in? but there not together? he asked my parents for permission to marry me.. im so confused i dont know what to think... i dont understand there relationship or what hes trying to pull.... mind u .. im hot,, shes fat and has three kids and her baby daddy is in prison and he been playenb baby daddy for her cause there " friends". but he texes me all day everyday how much he loves me. i have met there other roomates that are frie3nds with her and it seemd ok im his girl and there not together. however im not 9okay with not being able to meet her ? and i cant come to my own mans house ? why? wtf am i suppose to think!!!!! or do!! i cant sleep i cant eat.. i cant work.. i have named tatted on my lower parts... im lost and i need to know what could be going on. i dont understand this mentality. i grew up in a good home in nh and he grew uop in a abusive home in oakland.. i dont kinow what to do my heart is so broken i want to write this girl a letter but i dont know if its a good idea... i liked your open comment.. it was right on point with how i feel about things... you are open minded and id like to know your advice... thank you jennifer

This poem is often attributed to Oprah, but I don't think that it's something she wrote. In any case, it should make you think.




If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending.. Compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage.. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary.. not supplementary.

Dating is fun.. Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. When a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says.. You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts... ❤




You're not in a good relationship. He needs to change or you need to leave. What he is doing is not acceptable. The fact that you are questioning whether or not it's your fault should be enough to tell you how very badly he is treating you. No man should ever speak of a woman, especially one that he has daily contact with, by calling her fat, jealous, or a bitch. That says a lot about him right there and how he thinks of women. I wonder what he says about you when you're not around. This is his personality and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is how he is and you do not have the power to cause it or to change it. He is simply just not a very good person. It is not acceptable behavior and you absolutely cannot allow it.

You need to stop calling the woman that he keeps from you "fat". It is extremely unbecoming of you to be so judgmental of and cruel to a person that you don't know. Look what he is turning you into. Direct your resentment toward the person that is actually harming you, not her.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Unfortunately, not only are you the one being harmed, but you are also the one that needs to stand strong and end this relationship as soon as possible. Do not go back to him for any reason, ever. I wish you the best of luck and I can assure you that you will be much happier without him in your life and with some time, you'll find someone that can give you the love and respect that you both need and deserve. He will not change and he will not learn that what he is doing to you is wrong if you do not leave him for good.

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13/F

So I get super bored in some of my classes - Whether if I'm done with everything, or if my teachers are doing something for a long time.

I can't have my phone out, so what else can I possibly do to make class time to go a little faster? Thanks!

I used to get bored in class when I was younger. I had these little metal puzzles that I'd play with and I got really good at origami. Something else that you could try is a Sudoku, crossword puzzle, or word search book. You can do these at your desk and the teacher probably wouldn't even notice because it would look like you were working on something for the class. Just don't stop paying attention to the lessons entirely because you might miss something important! :)


There are lots of places that you can get these from:

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My ex has recently decided to start telling everyone that I'm pregnant with his child (I'm a virgin, by the way. It's not true at all). I'd just avoid him, but he and all of his evil friends are always everywhere I go. They glare at me when I walk within a fifty-foot radius of them, and many of my friends have said that they all talk about how I'm apparently "spreading **** around everywhere" and about how terrible I am whenever I'm not around as well. I haven't done anything to them to deserve the level of hatred that they have for me. A lot the people that used to come up and talk to me are now starting to subtly avoid me now, too. They don't say anything, but I'm pretty sure that it's because of that stupid rumor.
I'm afraid to do anything in retaliation to him because he's suicidal, and I would never be able to forgive myself if I were to cause his death.
I'm lonely, scared, and I don't know what to do. I'm afraid to go back to school because that entire group of people just lurks around the entryway during the morning, and it is impossible to enter the building without encountering them.
Help, please!

This is the textbook definition of bullying. It is not okay. Believe me, your ex is not going to commit suicide if you report him to your school for bullying. Suicide is something that you should take very seriously, but sometimes people will threaten it as a way to manipulate you. You as a person do not have the power to cause him to kill himself or stop him from killing himself if that is what he chooses to do. It's a choice that he would be making himself. Because you don't have this power either way, it's very important that you report him for this as well. Along with reporting him to your school for bullying, you report his threats of suicide. If he is serious about it, this could get him some help, help that your silence is not giving him. If he is not serious about it and was just using it as a tool to manipulate you, then he deserves getting reported on it and having to go through all of that. He should never make those types of threats and not mean them and he needs to learn how serious a suicide threat really is. Honestly, you are being seriously bullied here and you need to stand up for yourself. It's unfair that you have to deal with this, but most schools now have really good systems for dealing with it. There's no way that a person should be treating another person this way, you don't deserve it. Find an adult at your school that you feel comfortable talking to and get the bullying officially reported so that it can end soon. It isn't tattling or anything to protect yourself and you should never feel bad about doing so. This guy is an evil person and he needs to be stopped. Something as simple as an adult standing at the front of the school and in the halls where these incidents are happening could stop all of this, right? I wish you the best of luck! :)

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Soooo basically, I liked this guy for a very long time and he knew. I sort of thought he liked me back because of all the blushing and staring ( he was extremely shy)but he had stopped talking to me because there were rumours he liked me back. but then this really close friend of mine asked me out..and I realized I had feelings for him too so I said yes to him. Later, the guy I had liked found out and he seemed shocked but was laughing and he randomly asked my bf about me in a teasing way. However, recently, like YESTERDAY, he began talking to me after FOUR months...like totally random and while he was talking ( it was about studies) he kept looking down, wouldn't meet my eye and kept smiling. What does this mean?

For many people, there's something exciting about wanting something that you can't have. He may be doing this just because you're in a relationship. It's just one of those things. You do need to figure out if you want to be with your current boyfriend or him, though. Don't play games with these guys. If you really are interested in this other guy instead, figure out if he's interested in you too by ASKING HIM, and let your boyfriend go before things get too serious. If you're not interested in this other guy, then stop worrying about it. There will be people in this world that like you and people that don't. Your boyfriend likes you so why wouldn't others? It's not something you should react to or wonder about so much. Good luck! :)

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I'm a 15 year old female.I'm still a virgin. My boyfriend and I were messing around and he cummed after he jerked off, and he touched a little bit his cum. 5 or 10 minutes later his hands were dry and he touched a few objects and then tried to finger me, he only got up to my clit when I realized he had touched his cum before and didn't wash his hands so i smacked his hand away. Me and him have been freaking out all this week and I'm experiencing mood swings, a milky discharge, constipation, and I'm waiting on my period but I have it irregularly. Could I be pregnant from? it's only been a week.

Is it possible? Yes. You do not need to have sexual intercourse to get pregnant. What the two of you did was risky and I'm sure that you'll be more careful in the future. Is it likely that you're pregnant, though? No. Your body is having a reaction to the stress you're experiencing. During a "pregnancy scare", when you think that you might be pregnant by accident, you may become so stressed that you miss your period and experience other symptoms because of the stress, not because you're pregnant. Try to relax a little. You're probably not pregnant and even if you are, there's nothing you can do about it now. In another week, go to the store and get a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease. I believe that most of them are effective 2 weeks after the incident. While I'm sure the two of you will be way more careful in the future, if something like this ever happens again, get a Plan B pill. That way, you won't have to worry so much. The plan B pill isn't an abortion pill, it just prevents pregnancy. Some people consider it to be an abortion pill and believe that it can cause an abortion, though, so if you have strong beliefs or religious convictions regarding that, do a little research on the Plan B pill before taking it. Really, though, you shouldn't need it because you're going to be more careful from now on right? Good luck! :)

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I'm 21/f and I've been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, we're both very happy. Where I work there is one guy who I've been having dreams about every other night for the past 2 months. These dreams get more and more steamy to the point where I wake up feeling as if I've already cheated. Me and the guy at work are friends, and to make matters worse he has a fiance. I don't plan on pursuing these feelings but every time we stand even remotely close to each other at work my hormones go into overdrive and memories from past dreams almost push me into doing something stupid. What should I do before I completely lose it?

Thanks for any advice,
StupidHormones

The best way to deal with this is to tell your boyfriend about it. You know him better than I do so you know if this would really upset him or not. I think that what's bothering you the most is that you feel like you're cheating, but you've done nothing besides hide a secret. Telling your boyfriend about this will take a huge weight off of your shoulders. You don't have to make a big deal out of it. Many years ago, I had a few dreams about my boyfriend's good friend. I was mortified and I had no idea what to do because I wasn't interested in this guy at all. I decided to tell my boyfriend about it and he thought it was the funniest thing in the world. He still picks on me about it to this day. The best part was that after I told him about it, the dreams stopped and the weird feelings I had for his friend when I saw him in person went away pretty quickly too. It may be horrendously hard to tell your boyfriend your secret, but once it gets out, as long as you can laugh at yourself, you will feel so much better. You haven't done anything wrong at all and dreams are completely out of your control. If your boyfriend has a problem with this he is not the guy for you. Part of the intrigue and intensity in your situation is the fact that you've kept it secret. Once it gets out, you'll be able to relax, trust me. Good luck! :)

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well im 18, female.

Basically its been like 8 months since my ex boyfriend and I ended, we've become friends even though the conversation is awkward at times we still have jokes and stuff. We talk about our memories sometimes I do intend to bring them up, we haven't seen each other since we broke up I told him we should meet up as friends like he agrees he just said wait till he finishes with University work.
The past two days we've had amazing conversations, I tell him that i'm still waiting for the University i applied to which is the same one he goes to, before while we were dating we wanted to go to the same one, now hes saying it'll be nice if I went there.. Is this a sign like his feelings haven't gone away? he always agrees with what I say, he said that what we has was the best thing he ever had that it was a shame we ended like that.. Like he said if we done the things we done before his feelings will be there, and that if they came back he wouldn't do anything about it.
I know I was his first love, like if he didn't still like me he wouldn't agree with what I say right? he told me he doesn't like anyone at the moment, i got really happy but obviously i'm not going to get my hopes up. I'm not a clingy girl so i don't intend to speak to him every day , once in a while i do say hi.
Something in me, like my heart says he still has them feelings for me that they never went away, I know he wouldn't find someone like me, i know him well, i was the only girl to make him love and to feel loved.
I know he wants me to go to his university too.. what can i say it'll be amazing seeing him there, i do have a feeling that if we did see each other again our feelings will be there, we always connected and got along very well..
i still love him, more than anything.
Sometimes our conversations are weird but i try and make them seem like before, however once something has gone wrong it's hard to get it perfect.
i don't know what to think ...

Of course the feelings are there. You had a close bond with this person in the past. There's a reason for that. There's also a reason why you're not together anymore, which, in your euphoric state of bliss over your rekindled romance, you failed to mention. You cannot forget the reason for and the fact that you did break up. That's so important! Why wouldn't you explain that to us? It's a huge piece that you cannot brush aside and neglect to deeply consider along with the good aspects of the relationship what you once had with this person.

It's easy for these feelings to come back for him and for you because they were once there. That doesn't mean that you should pursue anything with him, though. It may be difficult not to now that you're caught up in it. You have to consider if it's a good idea though. If it's not a good idea, you need to stop talking to him. You don't want to make a bad decision based upon your emotions. This is a time where logic must prevail and you have to make a decision based on your head, not your heart. Why did you break up with him? Is that issue still present? Like you said, something did go wrong with this relationship so if you were to try again, it would, in all probability, end again. Was he that great and was the breakup not so bad that it might be worth trying again?

Do not base your decision on your current nostalgia. Memories can mislead you if you don't focus on all of them. Think about the entire relationship and the entire person. I wish you the best of luck and while I don't have all of the information, I really would suggest that you stop what you're doing before it goes too far. What didn't work then will probably not work now. You don't want to be wasting your time making the same mistake for a second time while the perfect man for you ends up with someone else.

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14/f
I'm currently a sophomore in high school, and for most of my life I've wanted to be a doctor. I've taken several medical classes in school and have done a lot of research about different medical careers that have helped me decide that this is really what I want to do for the rest of my life. I've been talking to my parents recently about college because I believe it's never to early to think about it, and I recently found out about joint medical programs at some universities where you can do 2 years undergrad and the go straight into med school. Does anybody know of a list that has all the colleges that offer these programs or just some more information about it over all? Also, if anybody on here has done one of these programs, any personal experiences. Thanks in advance!

You can use a search engine just as easily as any of us. What you should do is talk to the guidance counselor at your school. Your guidance counselor would be able to find this information for you. They should be your go-to person when it comes to these types of questions. Who knows, maybe they already have the list you're looking for! They will be more than happy to meet with you and discuss/plan your future. Good luck!

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im fat. i want to reduce my weight. i have decided to walk. now im 75kgs. i want to reduce 20 kgs. how long should i walk to reduce my weight faster?

If my numbers are correct, you're saying that you weigh about 165 pounds and you want to reduce it to 44?? Depending on how tall you are, I understand that you may want to lose weight. However, becoming that small would not only be unhealthy, but you would probably die. I really hope that this was a typo. If it wasn't, you need to get help. You have a distorted view of human size, weight, and beauty.

If it was a typo and you really just want to lose a little, counting calories is the way to go. You don't need to cut anything from your diet, just cut the amount that you are eating. It's the most sustainable way to loose weight. You see people all the time who are dieting and losing weight, but once they get to the place they want to be and stop the diet, they gain the weight right back again. Counting calories won't do that. I lost 10 pounds in a few months by tracking my calories. I've kept it off for a year and I'm really happy.

What you can do is go to the website http://www.livestrong.com/myplate. Just make an account and type in everything that you eat each day and it keeps track of the calories for you! Sitting around looking at packages and doing all kinds of math takes too much time, work, and energy, but taking a few minutes to type in what you eat each day isn't too difficult. The website keeps track of how you're doing and it tells you what your goal is for each day. Honestly, I had pizza, cookies, and cake quite a bit. These food choices made it difficult because then I had to cut in other places, but you can even lose weight if you're eating junk. I wouldn't recommend it because you won't be as healthy, but it's definitely possible, which was really encouraging to me. If I really wanted a cookie, goshdarnit, I had a cookie and I didn't feel guilty about it. The worst thing we can do is make ourselves feel guilty about eating. It messes us up.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you choose this method. It really does work! There aren't any rules and you are in control. Again, though, if you are actually wanting to weigh only 20 kg you do need to talk to someone because that is not okay. You will die trying to get there. Use this website to figure out exactly what you should be aiming for. http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/bminojs.htm. Good luck!

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