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cant seem to understand..
well im 18, female.
Basically its been like 8 months since my ex boyfriend and I ended, we've become friends even though the conversation is awkward at times we still have jokes and stuff. We talk about our memories sometimes I do intend to bring them up, we haven't seen each other since we broke up I told him we should meet up as friends like he agrees he just said wait till he finishes with University work.
The past two days we've had amazing conversations, I tell him that i'm still waiting for the University i applied to which is the same one he goes to, before while we were dating we wanted to go to the same one, now hes saying it'll be nice if I went there.. Is this a sign like his feelings haven't gone away? he always agrees with what I say, he said that what we has was the best thing he ever had that it was a shame we ended like that.. Like he said if we done the things we done before his feelings will be there, and that if they came back he wouldn't do anything about it.
I know I was his first love, like if he didn't still like me he wouldn't agree with what I say right? he told me he doesn't like anyone at the moment, i got really happy but obviously i'm not going to get my hopes up. I'm not a clingy girl so i don't intend to speak to him every day , once in a while i do say hi.
Something in me, like my heart says he still has them feelings for me that they never went away, I know he wouldn't find someone like me, i know him well, i was the only girl to make him love and to feel loved.
I know he wants me to go to his university too.. what can i say it'll be amazing seeing him there, i do have a feeling that if we did see each other again our feelings will be there, we always connected and got along very well..
i still love him, more than anything.
Sometimes our conversations are weird but i try and make them seem like before, however once something has gone wrong it's hard to get it perfect.
i don't know what to think ...
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Of course the feelings are there. You had a close bond with this person in the past. There's a reason for that. There's also a reason why you're not together anymore, which, in your euphoric state of bliss over your rekindled romance, you failed to mention. You cannot forget the reason for and the fact that you did break up. That's so important! Why wouldn't you explain that to us? It's a huge piece that you cannot brush aside and neglect to deeply consider along with the good aspects of the relationship what you once had with this person.
It's easy for these feelings to come back for him and for you because they were once there. That doesn't mean that you should pursue anything with him, though. It may be difficult not to now that you're caught up in it. You have to consider if it's a good idea though. If it's not a good idea, you need to stop talking to him. You don't want to make a bad decision based upon your emotions. This is a time where logic must prevail and you have to make a decision based on your head, not your heart. Why did you break up with him? Is that issue still present? Like you said, something did go wrong with this relationship so if you were to try again, it would, in all probability, end again. Was he that great and was the breakup not so bad that it might be worth trying again?
Do not base your decision on your current nostalgia. Memories can mislead you if you don't focus on all of them. Think about the entire relationship and the entire person. I wish you the best of luck and while I don't have all of the information, I really would suggest that you stop what you're doing before it goes too far. What didn't work then will probably not work now. You don't want to be wasting your time making the same mistake for a second time while the perfect man for you ends up with someone else.
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