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stay with the man that i made a life with or leave with the man i love
I have a baby and with this man and once was in love and I just don't feel anything when he kisses me or when we talk but I do care for him we was going to get married but it kept getting cancelled we don't fight really but heres the thing this guy I have known for years we got together before I got with who I'm with now and we really had something crazy we felt like it could have been love at first sight but then he had to go away for 3 years and we just started talking again and all the feelings came back that fast and I let the one I'm with know everything and he said he will change and the other one won't give up its like a Bella Edward Jacob thing lol should I stay and try to fall back in love with the man I made a family with or do I go with the unknown and the possibility of love at first sight but with more passion then most can dream about remember I have a home a baby what should I do I'm so lost im 24 they are both really good guys the one I'm with wants to make our family work the other wants to start a family with me and love my son as one of his own what should I do this is so hard
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It doesn't sound like anything is really wrong in your current relationship other than you wanting another man. What I would do before you call it quits, go to counseling. I mean, this whole thing can't be just about you anymore since you have a child. For the kids sake, try again and see what happens. If you truly aren't happy with this man anymore, then ok, move on. But right now, I suggest you try.
If you do give up on this guy and go for the other one, what if you aren't happy with him eventually? What if your crazy feelings don't last you very long? You don't want to be running back and forth. It's not fair to him either.
So I suggest before you make the decision to leave, go try talking things out and see what happens. During this time, don't continue talking to the other guy.
I hope everything works out for you.
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Don't leave the relationship that you're in. You owe it to your child to make it work. Now that you have a kid, your life isn't just about you and the temporary passion that you want anymore. Yeah, this other guy seems awesome and if you were to leave your current man for him, things would be great for awhile, but the passion would subside with him just like it did with your current guy. That's just how things work. Relationships change over time. You can either move on to the next level or end it, but trust me, if you end it over this, you'll be ending every relationship from here on out for the very same reason and dragging your child through hell. You have to commit to grow with a person or break up with guys all the time because the "passion is gone". Guess what, relationships mature. You may as well stay in the one that you chose to have a child with. Good luck.
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