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Leaving an old friend
I have this friend, let's call her Ace. Well, Ace and I have known each other since we were toddlers. She moved away for two years in elementary school and we were both devastated, but she ended up coming back and we reconnected. We've been friends ever since... Or at least that's what I thought until a couple years ago when she and I went on a road trip and spent three days together.
I couldn't take it anymore. I started to notice things she did that annoyed me to no end. She would cry if she didn't get what she wanted, she would ignore me when I was talking, she would act like a child and embarrass me. She also started dating this guy who is the stereotypical "Men are better than women, get used to it" kinda guy. And she says he's changed, but I really doubt it. He doesn't seem like the type to change just because someone made a complaint. And I wasn't the only one who told her that this guy was rude. All our other friends agreed and she only got angry with us and told us we didn't understand her love or something like that. I'm honestly getting sick and tired of her and she's one of the friends that, since high school graduation, I do not want to have as a friend anymore. Unfortunately, I'm having trouble... dispersing this friendship. I don't want to be mean about it, and she's really clingy since we've been friends for so long, but since our road trip, I'm seeing sides of her I never noticed before and are now becoming a bit of a nuisance.
And she expects us to spend more time together and is planning a get together this weekend, and because I was a stupid idiot that didn't want to hurt her feelings, I told her I'd go. I really don't know what to do. How can I do this without hurting her feelings? And should I go to this thing this weekend and just kind of pretend or should I just cancel? This is really hard for me because I'm a people pleaser (a trait I hate about myself), so I'm not sure what to do...
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I understand the whole people pleaser and trying to keep everyone happy.
Honestly, this is something you know you have to do for yourself. When she realizes that you don't want to be her friend anymore, she's going to be hurt and most likely mad.
You can go if you want to the weekend thing but that part is all up to you. If you really don't want to go, then don't.
I would just gradually stop talking to her, hanging out with her, ect.
I know you don't want to hurt her feelings, but after reading about how she is, she probably will be hurt and very mad. She might also talk about you and who knows but this is about you and why hang out with someone who makes who feel miserable?
Just stop hanging out with her, you don't have to be rude or mean or anything. When you see her every so often, you can be kind but that doesn't mean you have to be her friend.
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