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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.

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well theres this boy i like and my best friend knew him before me but never talked to him or anything. she said he was ugly but after i said he was cute and that i liked him she said it to and she starts flirting with him and kissin him on the cheek when im standing right there. He wants us to blow him but take turns. Have one of us blow him while the other one makes out with him then switch. my {best} friend is all like "ya lets do it sexy" and stuff like that and im soo freakin mad cuz she knew i liked him alot!! i told her about this and she just said that im makin a big deal out of nothing and that hes mine. what do you guys think am i overreacting or should i be mad? i mean would you want your best friend making out and givin bj's to the boy you like?

Your definately not overreacting. I wouldn't want my friend to blow my crush. This guy also sounds like a perv! You deserve better than some slob.

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is there any way to get a picture off of your phone uploaded onto your computer? i really need help & am getting so confused, and i really need the pictures. thank you. :D

E-mail it to your e-mail and upload it from there.

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My sisters fiance recently broke up with her and she is now living back in my house with my parents. (im sixteen and my sister is 18) I feel bad because she crys alot and seems really lonely. What are some things i can do for her or activities i can do with her that would make her feel better?

Get her mind off of him. Do a spa weekend together, let her know your there for her whenever she wants to talk or just hug her and tell her things will be ok.

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Hey my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and whenever I go over to my granny's on the weekends she goes throgh my overnight bags and goes through my dresser drawers and takes out whatever she thinks isn't mine for some reason she thinks other people put stuff in my dresser when they don't she takes stuff out that she dosn't think is mine and that is actually mine and when I go looking for it I end up having to go ask my granny where it is and she dosn't even say sorry and sometimes she says rachel havn't you gained a little weight in the past 2 weeks every time I go over which is every to weeks and iam only 5 foot and weigh 149 lbs I know iam a little chubby,but it really hurts my feelings what should I do?

Well it bugs you right? Talk it out with her and tell her why its bugging you why she goes through your things. If things don't get better, talk to your parents or other relative about it. Hope I helped!

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PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME!!!!!!!!! I AM BEGGING YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am an 18 year old teenager and have a problem. I wondered whether you could possibly offer me any advice
I think i MIGHT have suffered from neglect/emotional abuse in my past. I need some advice.

You see when I first started high school I lost two people of whom I was very close to.one of these was my Grandmother who practically raised me.She was the one who took me places, taught me, supported me and basically looked after me. I used to see her almost every day.I can never remember my real mother doing any of this. However I never noticed the lack of support by my parents…..until she died.

I started to refuse to go to school on-and-off for my first two years in high school because of this...i did not want to move on and lapsed into serious depression and somedays i couldn't find the will-power to get up. I'd just lie in bed all day i felt so depressed. But my parents never helped me.they must have seen how depressed I was and yet they did nothing. Isn't this neglect. They knew I had depression and yet they did nothing.

Then i refused to go to school altoghether at the end of this second year as i could no longer cope any more. I ended up having 5 meagre hours of home tuition per week for the last three years which should have ben spent in school. my parents didn't get me any professional help or anything. Isn't this abuse/neglect.

I ended up failing almost all my GCSEs. the thing is i don't know anything about anything. i haven't been out of the house or seen people for about three years. But my parents won't teach me things such as how to use a bus, how to open a bank account, buy a phone or anything. it's as if they don't care. my mum NEVER offers me any sort or support or advice on anything.

So basically
I refused to go to school for my first two school years

I then refused to go altogether

I ended up having 5 measly hours of tuition per week for the last three years that I should have been in school

I then failed almost all my GCSEs

But throughout all this nobody helped me
I will have to go on a very low level of course at college.However I am worried that i am not going to get the support i need at home and might lapse into depression again as a consequnce and be too depressed to get up in the mornings. Because my parents sort of expect me to raise myself!Is this OK or is this neglect. My mum’s also still not particularly nice to me.

I think I need to tell the college about this lack of support. But i don't want to get my parents in trouble. MY mum is dying of ca.ncer and i couldn't live with myself if she died in prison. But i need help. Do you class what i've just described as abuse? Also thre have been many times when my mother has been emotionally abusive towards me. She can say such thoughtless things she makes me cry. then tells me to 'shut up' or says 'you're always moaning'.

I want to tell the college so that I can get the emotional support I need and also so that they can understand one of the reasons I felt I couldn't cope with school and therefore couldn't cope. I

am 18 years old now, Can i tell the college without getting my parents in trouble with the police? Or in trouble with social services? Can i tell the college without getting my parentts into trouble???? I NEED a definate answer. please help me[:(]
Who would the college contact if I were to tell them about the neglect? I DO NOT want to get my parents into trouble. Can I safetly tell the college (now that I'm 18) about the neglect without getting my parents into trouble with social services or the police??????????? PLEASE CAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME ANY ANSWERS!!!!! I AM RUNNING OUT OF TIME AND NEED ADVICE DESPERATELY.[:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(]
I LIVE IN ENGLAND

Ok it sounds like yes you have been emotionally abused. Your parents are supposed to provide for your future, not sit aside and let you tackle it yourself. I do not know if there is a way to not tell the college about it. They have to know what to do if you lapse into serious depression. I'm sorry about your mommy. Hope I helped!

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Hey i am 13/f and i am pregnant my baby is due in a week. No im not a slut or anything i would have kept my virginity until i was married but i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend. And I dont believe in abortion... my family is 100% supportive of this pregnancy and any decision i make. I just dont know if i wanna give him or her up for adoption. I really love the baby and i want whats best and i know that would to be with me because we have a good family and we have enough money to support the baby but i dont know if i will see the baby's dad in him or her and if it will scar me... I know its not the baby's fault. But anyway I could use support oh and baby names could help too! idk if its a boy or girl but i like names like nevaeh (nuh vey uh its heaven spelled backwards) and savannah and jayden, cayden, and skyler... anything else???

please help!!!

Well first of all, the baby's daddy should be helping. And second of all, I'm sorry it happened. If your family doesn't believe in abortion and is willing to help you with the baby when you go to school, ask them for help. I'm sure they'll be willing to help you out. Also, ask the dad to help otu with the kid too. If you both find you can't support the kid, then put it up for adoption. An older family can deal with the baby. Hope I helped!

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im a female thats 14.I know a guy named robert that I knew since 4th grade.He's my bestfriend and I really care about him.Near the beginning of 5th grade I found out from one of his friends that he really likes me.Robert didnt know his friend told me and he didnt want me to know...yet.I just acted like I never knew he liked me and nothing changed.

A year later robert and i got to go to the same m-school,and we started to hang around more.robert was really shy for some reason and people started to tease for that.I stuck up for him and people stopped cause i was one of those people that every one called `popular`.he started to like me even more and he finally got the courage to ask me out.I said yes cause i started to like him too.

Now 2 more years later wich is right now weve been going out since then.I find out he's cheating on me with some bitch.and then i find out its true.I break up with him and tell him i dont even want to be his friend.he is pretty emotional so i find out from one of his guy friends that he was crying in the bathroom.im one of those people that hate when people cheat but im also a nice person that hates to see people cry.he ends up going to my house after school and begging for me to forgive him.i tell him ill think about it.now should i forgive him or not?

No because if he did love you, he wouldn't do it in the first place. Maybe take a break from your friendship too for a while and let things boil over. Hope I helped!

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I'm absolutley crazy about my boyfriend (Of one month) So crazy that I can't stop thinking about it, thoughts of him totally make my mind drift off in class. I don't have like ADD or anything, its just when I get bored in class my mind wanders on about thoughts of him, then I fall behind on the lesson. What should I do?

Focus your mind on the lesson, if you have a picture of him don't carry it and maybe if your completely lost go up to the teacher after class and ask for help. We've all done that, its important to correct the problem before it becomes a problem.

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PLEASE HELP IS NEEDED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.


14/f- lives with mom, aunt, grandma, grandpa, dog.

today i went over to celebrate my 2 month anni with my boyfriend. we were going to go swimming and then out to dinner at the mexican resturant guatalajara. my mom dropped me off about 11am. about 2pm we get a phone call at his house saying that my grandpa was mad and wanted me home at 5:30. i asked if i could stay later so we could eat dinner. he said flat out no and that he was going to pick me up right away. i was lke then can you wait til 5:30. he said no. my mom came to pick me up from his house in tears. he had pushed her out the door to pick me up. once we got home, we yelled an cussed at he which led up to him hitting me, my mom, and my aunt, who had to separate me from my grandpa. he hurt my aunt and broke 2 of my mom's fingers. the reason he is so mad is cuz i was out with a boy. just that. nothing else. he yelled at me and told me to move out. like he wants me out on the street without a home.

does he have the right to hit me like that? why would he be so mad that i was out with a boy? what should i do? should i tell someone that he hit me, enough to possibly cause a bruise? what should i do?

If he doesn't want you dating, he should of just said so, not having to hit you. Its smart for you and them to move out. Best of luck!

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ok well i have acne. lots of it, i mean its like almost every wear on my body my back my face my chest even my butt. how do i get rid of it?

Thanx in advance!

Try showering more often, rub all over with lots of soap and get some acne cream. I suggest Proactiv.

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okay im 14 years old and im having sex with my boyfriend i dont want ne lecture about im too young i have been with this guy for 6 years and i wanna hint to my mom that i need put on birth control...she has said shes gonna take me but she never does what can i say to hint her to take me...nothing involving the sex thing..i mean could i say my period is jumping around the month or sumthing like that plzzz help me lotsa love

kaitlyn

Well if you're serious about this, tell her straight out, "Mom, I need you to take me today to the pharmacy." Ditch your mom at the pharmacy and get some. Hide them under something and pay for them later. I'm not here to lecture you love, we just wanna help. Hope I helped!

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Lately I have been studying 3-6 hours a day. After about an hour I start getting that weird feeling like I can't stand to sit still anymore, a cramp in my wrist, and my neck hurts. So I get up, stretch, take a short break and go back to work. Like half an hour later I'll start getting all ancy all over again. What are some good tips to help me study longer without easily getting wrist cramps, neck pains and ancy feelings? Thanks.

Take 15-20 minute breaks. Get up, go get water, stretch yourself out, get food if you want then get back to work.

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I often have a stiff neck and shoulders, or if not stiff, at least they're tense. It annoys me, to say the least, and sometimes I can't resist the temptation to crack my neck (which is a Bad Habit, I know). Besides seeing a chiropractor (which I do, but not too frequently, unfortunately), are there any exercises (such as stretches) or remedies that can alleviate the tenseness?

You can try and relax your neck with a hot bath. Stop cracking your neck, that may be what's causing the problem. You neck gets stiff when you do crack it and it gets harder and harder to do it. Hope I helped!

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age:13
gender:female

ok well this may be a weird question but i wanna know.i am bisexual and i wanna know how it feels to kiss a girl not a guy.i was almost in a relationship with a girl but she moved away.i have a bf but if i ever dated a girl i just wanna know how it feels.i always knew i liked girls more than friends ever since i was in 3rd grade.some of my friends know that i'm bi but my bf doesn't know.so i'm just asking if any of you know how it feels to kiss a girl.so if anyone can give me any info please let me know.
peace up,a town down.

Hey congrats for coming out! I'm bisexual too and I've also kissed a girl. Its no different than kissing a guy, you just have to be ready for it. Hope I helped!

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ok.. so today.. my boyfriend broke up with me (after 17 amazing months of making out)
before he broke up with me.. he told me that i made him gay.. and that he now has a boyfriend that he's been seeing for a little less than half of our relationship..
He told me that he loves him and is going to get married to him.. and now i feel like crap
I mean.. all we did was make out.. and he says I sucked and he turned gay...
then to prove he was gay.. because i thought he was kidding- he showed me a picture of his boyfriend on a gay porn website.. then he showed me that he was on the website too..
I still thought he was kidding- so i went to give him a kiss- and he said "sorry- I'm really gay, Kayleigh.. i'll show you my boyfriend and i'll make out with him".. so he showed me his boyfriend (who was sitting about 20 feet behind us) and they made out for like 5 minutes..

so now i don't know what to do.. i feel like crap because I turned my Ex-boyfriend gay.. and now i've got his parents on my back yelling at me because he's gay now...

WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I need help!

I thought about suicide.. but i'm not sure?
am I going crazy? am I really that bad of a kisser? please help!

~Turned-My-Ex-Gay

Well technically, you can't turn someone gay in that short a time. Its something your born with and its not wrong to be gay. The best thing to do is to let him be happy. As for the parents, if they love him, they'll accept him for who he is. Hope I helped!

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hii. i was looking for some advice. i'm not sure if this is normal or not. but i've always disliked my body, i've always considered myself fat- even if everyone says i'm fine and its just muscle. but i constantly count all of the calories in my food. i'm extrememly self concious...and i wish i wasnt. once in awhile if i feel gross after i eat i'll purge it up. but it's not like i do it constantly. once in awhile i'll avoid eating but yet other days i'll eat regular. i don't weigh myself every single day.. but i'll stand infront of my mirror and point out my flaws and how gross i am. i think i'm the "fat" one in my group and i hate it because all of my friends are thin. do i have a problem or is this okay? help pleasse . thank you

Its usualy normal but you need to stop purging becuz there may be complications in the future. A lot of girls don't feel as pretty as they could be. Just love you for you.

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What's the difference between the original Xbox model and the new Xbox 360?

The new XBox 360 has better graphics

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Hey, ok well ok im 14, and i recently lost my virginity a few days ago. I didnt use a condom, and im scared. Do you think i could be pregnant? But we probably only had sex for a minute. Please help im wooooried!!

Well you probably didn't get pregnant because you had sex for like 1 minute but I would check it out because you didn't use a condem.

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Im really really scared about getting my perdiod i have no idea when its comming like no idea. Im scared one of my friends will find out or i will be the last one. My crush is in like all my classes. And the nurse had pads and tampons and stuff but Im scared when im gon aget it

Just be aware of your body and always have a few pads handy! If you start to get a cramp, go check in the bathroom if there's blood. DO NOT ignore this.

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Does anyone know of any sites where I can find sweat shirts or hoodies of bands besides their own sites? Some of the bands I want are:

Underoath
Fall Out Boy
From First to Last
Hawthorne Heights
All-American Rejects
Taking Back Sunday

Those are just some. But if you know of any websites that you can buy band clothing from besides their own sites id greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much you guys!

Go to google and type those in

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