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best friend trying to take guy
well theres this boy i like and my best friend knew him before me but never talked to him or anything. she said he was ugly but after i said he was cute and that i liked him she said it to and she starts flirting with him and kissin him on the cheek when im standing right there. He wants us to blow him but take turns. Have one of us blow him while the other one makes out with him then switch. my {best} friend is all like "ya lets do it sexy" and stuff like that and im soo freakin mad cuz she knew i liked him alot!! i told her about this and she just said that im makin a big deal out of nothing and that hes mine. what do you guys think am i overreacting or should i be mad? i mean would you want your best friend making out and givin bj's to the boy you like?
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Sounds like you want a monogamous relationship with this guy, which personally I see nothing wrong with; I wouldn't want to share my girlfriend with any of my friends or anyone for that matter.
The problem is your crush doesn't seem to want to have a monogamous relationship with you, especially since he's suggested he wants both you and your friend. Now if you are ok with that so be it, but if you were ok with sharing your crush you wouldn't be questioning whether you're overacting or not.
So, the answer is you're reacting how you see fit, which in this case means you don't want to share him.
My advice is to look for someone else to crush on who shares your one-on-one relationship philosophy.
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Your definately not overreacting. I wouldn't want my friend to blow my crush. This guy also sounds like a perv! You deserve better than some slob.
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Frankly both your best friend and the guy you like sound not only like complete imbeciles bt as though they couldn't give a crap about your feelings. I'm going to hazard a guess at the three of you being somewhere around the 15 yrs mark (right/wrong?) due to the fact this boy is trying to prove himself to be some kind of "pimp" and they fact that neither one of you girls seems to balk at the idea of being the arrogant little boy's sexual object.
Yes you should be very mad at having him assume you will do something entirely for his pleasure that I'm afraid, once he has spread the tale around all his mates (and he will), will do nothing for you except land you with a reputation that will, however unfairly, put a lot of decent guys off you for years to come. He knows full well that you two girls are fighting over him and he's just exploiting the situation. You may like him but he doesn't care about you and clearly does not plan on having any kind of relationship with you.
Your best friend cuts a bit of a pitiful figure in that she's clearly hugely insecure. Not only does she have to go after a guy you like to prove she can beat you but she is also willing to do or at least say she'll do anything this cretin suggests to prove what a fun girl she is. Leave them to it.
Sorry this is so long and harsh but I've known to many girls walk into this kind of situation and regret it for years. He's an idiot who thinks he can get whatever he wants from whoever he wants- do everyone a favour and don't prove him right.
**EDIT**- That sounds like a brilliant plan. Trust me, you can do better.
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Yeah, I'd be a little ticked off if my friend put moves on a guy I liked and agreed to do something sexual with him. I might not hate her for it, but I would certainly remember that about her and keep my crushes to myself next time.
However, in this case I would thank her for proving that the guy I liked was mindless sex fiend who wasn’t really interested in me or my friend but just wanted to get a cheep sexual thrill with anybody who came along.
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I understand where you are coming from. I know you like him but if he's going to flirt with your best friend, and ask BOTH of you to give him a blow job and shit, that's ridiculous. If I were you I'd tell your best friend how you feel, if she was your best friend she wouldn't have done that, and she would listen to you and understand why you feel that way. You aren't over reacting and you deffinately have a reason to be upset. But the thing is, he isn't yours. He isn't going out with you, he just likes you so its alright if she does that if you think about it. But as your best friend thats messed up and I wouldn't give either of them the time of day.
Just talk to your best friend and don't even waste your time with that jerk.
Hope I helped =/
Sincerely, Abby <3
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That is the sluttiest thing I have ever heard. I mean seriously, have fun with you're future because it's going to really be terrible.
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