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Hey i am 13/f and i am pregnant my baby is due in a week. No im not a slut or anything i would have kept my virginity until i was married but i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend. And I dont believe in abortion... my family is 100% supportive of this pregnancy and any decision i make. I just dont know if i wanna give him or her up for adoption. I really love the baby and i want whats best and i know that would to be with me because we have a good family and we have enough money to support the baby but i dont know if i will see the baby's dad in him or her and if it will scar me... I know its not the baby's fault. But anyway I could use support oh and baby names could help too! idk if its a boy or girl but i like names like nevaeh (nuh vey uh its heaven spelled backwards) and savannah and jayden, cayden, and skyler... anything else???
please help!!!
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Ok. I know that you absolutley love this baby and you will do good with it but and adoption would probally be the most apropiate thing to do. If you still want to see the baby you could do an open adoption wich basically you get updates on the baby as he grows up and stuff. But hey I am just saying that might be the best thing to do for you. And for names I like Nevaeh. It is a very pretty name.
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I would keep the baby if he/she were mine, and my family would support me too. It would be hard for me to put my baby(if I was in your position) up for adoption. If I did it would probab;y be open adoption. That were the adopted parents keep contact with the birth mother.
But I don't think I'd put my baby up for adoption just cause I'd adopt ANY baby like THAT!!! I absolutely LOVE children!!! (I have 9 siblings! LOVE it!:D!)
Ooh! Names!! I like the names:
For girls!:
Page
Skyler!
Colette
Clodette
For Boys:
Blake
Jude
Skyler!(I like it both for girls and boys!)
Good luck on your Journey!
Yours Truly
Abigail
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well if u read the date on mine it was december first so its not my fault
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Well first if you want to do what’s best for your baby then you have to ask yourself questions about your environment is it clean, do you have enough money to take care of it, can you take care of it, you are only 13 years old, have you talked to your parents about adopting it maybe that would be a good choice, I don’t believe in abortion either so I would ask your mum or dad if they will adopt it if you think you wont be able to take care of it. And you can love this baby with like everything in you and sometimes that isn’t enough for the baby to grow up properly but I do no one thing is for sure the baby is not its father and yes it has some of its fathers genes but I believe good overcomes always so there is more of you in the baby then him I hope I helped.
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my favorite names are
girls:
chanel
oakley - mine =]
ryland
tierra
ciera
boys:
michael
owen
seth
liam
let me know the baby's sex and name please!!!!
ps. i really like nevaeh!
xo <3 oakley
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You are absolutely correct, it's not the baby's fault at all. It's the scum that did this to you. It may be hard to deal with the fact that you were raped, but imagine how hard it would be for the baby to realize that it was the product of rape. It's going to need it's real mother as much as you are going to need it. From the way it sounds, you want this baby just as much as I want you to keep it. [most likely much more] Once this baby pops out of you, I know you are going to want to keep him/her. Babies make all situations better in my opinion. Your family sounds really supportive and like you said, i'm sure they will stand by any decision you make. I would advise you to keep the baby. Don't focus on who the biological father is, focus on the love you will share with this beautiful baby. I know you are going to love him/her or else you wouldn't have picked out a name. I really love the name Nevaeh Skyler. It's beautiful.
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well i think you should keep the baby because many kids get treated really badly when they have foster parents! i mean its all up to you and i understand that you dont want to see the father in the baby but god makes thing happen for a reason! u may want to give it up now but when its born you may just fall in love and dont want to let the baby go! after you have the baby its best for you and your family to talk bout how it may effect your life and if you keep it who would help you and things like that! if they all agree to help and you can still get your education then i say keep it! i would try to give some names but i dont want to say the fathers name on accident! i think u should pick like 5 name for each sex that you love and wait til the baby comes out and see which name best fit it! GOOD LUCK and i hope you make the right choice!!!
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Congratulations on the birth of your sweet baby girl! Thanks for letting me know the other stuff was taken care of, too. Good luck and bless you both always!***
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First of all, I am sorry that you were raped. I hope that you are getting all the support from family, friends and a couselor. There are support groups for rape, and teen moms. If you keep the baby, you will need more help than you could imagine. You sound very attached to this baby already, thinking about names and the baby's dad. Is he really out of the picture? Did you report the rape to the police? If you keep the baby, is there a chance he would want visitation? There is no way to see the future, and you need to think about possiblilities before you finalize a decision for yourself and the baby. Have you talked to an agency about adoption or taken any steps to find out whether a couple or single parent might adopt? You can opt to pick out who would get to adopt the baby if you go this route. It will not be the end of the world, no matter what you decide, but both decisions have emotional and physical real consequences that will change your life and the child's forever. Bless you and the baby that you are bringing into this world. Motherhood is one of the hardest jobs requiring continual sacrificing of your own needs for the child's well being. It is also a lifetime commitment. The final decision is yours, and I pray the best one for both of you.
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Well first of all, the baby's daddy should be helping. And second of all, I'm sorry it happened. If your family doesn't believe in abortion and is willing to help you with the baby when you go to school, ask them for help. I'm sure they'll be willing to help you out. Also, ask the dad to help otu with the kid too. If you both find you can't support the kid, then put it up for adoption. An older family can deal with the baby. Hope I helped!
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I think i would try and keep the baby .. we went through the same thing 2 years ago and kept the baby .. and it is great.. i dont have a lot of extra time with school and trying to do stuff with him.. but i dont no what i would do with out the baby in my life now. ..
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I would keep the baby if I were in your situation, but it would be 100% understandable if you wanted to put him up for adoption. I don't think I would like the idea of some other family raising my baby. For girls I love Sophie, Mona and Elodie. For boysI think Max, David and Ben are beautiful names.
May God comfort you and your loved ones. May he bring peace and understanding to all of your wounded hearts.
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. I don't think the father should see you nor the baby at all. After what he did to you, he doesn't deserve to. He doesn't even deserve to be a father. But I think that's great that your family supports you, [ most sadly wouldn't support their kid ] and if they're willing to help you out and they have the money to help support you and the baby and of course you want to keep him/her, then I think you should. The baby would be much better with a good family who loves and cares for them, then wind up in some orphanage or foster home not knowing who their real mother is. Like one of the people said below, since you are young, I also suggest discussing with your doctor what would be the best birthing method, because he might find a C-Section better. I like the names you suggested alot, especially the heaven spelled backwards, that's a really neat idea, and I've always loved the name Skyler [ that's what I'm going to name my kid in the future :D ] but I also like the names Hart, Chase, Harper for boys and for girls I like Ashlee, Stephanie/Stefanie, Scarlett, Reese.
Good luck to you and the baby!
I really hope I helped. <3
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ok well if you arnt sure whether to keep the baby or not what you could do is keep it and have your family help out to raise it for now now thats all i have for advice for you sorry if i'm not any help at all but what i mean is to have your family help raise it for now then when you get out of high school or college then you could go live out on your own with te baby well it prolly wont be a baby anymore but anyway if i am any help to you please tell others of me and if you ever have anymore questions please ask me cause i can relate to alot of things i am 13 too so yea ok good luck with the baby i mean so you can focus on school you would still handle the baby but your family help like if your doing school work
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I think that since you and your family can support the baby, you should keep it.
Talk to your doctor aboiut the best birth method. Since you are so young, a C-Section may be a better option for you. Talk to your doctor.
I like the names Seth and Scott for boys, and Meredith, Louise, Tiffany, Marisa, and Michele for girls.
I wish you the best of luck.
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omg you poor thing.That basterd doesnt desserve to see the kid at ALL.I think you should take care of it.Yes it is a big responsibility but imagine giving it to someone eles,they wont take care of it like its mother will and it will grow up being depressed not knowing how it got there and who its mother really was.Your parents can help you take care of it when youre at school or out.Your parents need to help you make the decision though because youre too young to make one,especially in your circumstances.If its a girl you can call it(these are new names) fareeda,marwa,jaida,layla,laialy,pick something new.If you need help in anything please contact me,i have myspace,yahoo and msn.Good luck .
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I am so sorry to hear that you have found yourself in this awful mess and I am glad that you have support around you.
Yes I can understand that you may think you will not love your child because of how it was conceived, but you will most certainly fall in love with your baby when you actually see it and hold it in your arms.
In my own opinion, I would not be able to give up a baby for adoption - I would be constantly worried that they were not happy or being cared for properly. It would also hurt me badly knowing someone else was bringing up a part of me.
You may feel better about it all if you could go for some counselling. Ask your doctor if there is any possibility of arranging for you to talk this through with someone not connected to your family.
I love the name Nevaeh, it has got a really lovely sound to it. I am not very good at suggesting names for new babies because I think the Mum has to look at the baby to see what would suit them. Anyway here are a few suggestions:-
Sorrell
Larkin
Aoife (pronounced Eefa)
Candra or Kandra
Destiny
I wish you all the very best for the future as a new family. Hold your head up high and be proud that you are going to be a mum.
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