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me and my boyfriend are expecting a baby in february. we are obviously not married- but im wondering if when it comes, will it obtain my last name or his?- i was thnking itd have to be mine- since hes not really my spouse- but is there any way can request that it has his last name if needed? (link)
It doesnt matter if you guys are married or not! my sister baby daddy left her after finding out she was pregnant but the baby still has both of their names! the hospital told her she could pick any last name she wanted so it shouldnt matter with you!


is it necessary to breast feed? like does it HAVE to be done or will the formula stuff work just as well ? (link)
alot of mother breast feed but my niece and nephew were both on formula and their just fine!


Hey i am 13/f and i am pregnant my baby is due in a week. No im not a slut or anything i would have kept my virginity until i was married but i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend. And I dont believe in abortion... my family is 100% supportive of this pregnancy and any decision i make. I just dont know if i wanna give him or her up for adoption. I really love the baby and i want whats best and i know that would to be with me because we have a good family and we have enough money to support the baby but i dont know if i will see the baby's dad in him or her and if it will scar me... I know its not the baby's fault. But anyway I could use support oh and baby names could help too! idk if its a boy or girl but i like names like nevaeh (nuh vey uh its heaven spelled backwards) and savannah and jayden, cayden, and skyler... anything else???

please help!!! (link)
well i think you should keep the baby because many kids get treated really badly when they have foster parents! i mean its all up to you and i understand that you dont want to see the father in the baby but god makes thing happen for a reason! u may want to give it up now but when its born you may just fall in love and dont want to let the baby go! after you have the baby its best for you and your family to talk bout how it may effect your life and if you keep it who would help you and things like that! if they all agree to help and you can still get your education then i say keep it! i would try to give some names but i dont want to say the fathers name on accident! i think u should pick like 5 name for each sex that you love and wait til the baby comes out and see which name best fit it! GOOD LUCK and i hope you make the right choice!!!


If I was 15 and pregnant and my boyfriends was 18 does my mom have say in abortion and adoption? (link)
I actually dont know what the law says about that but i know they're suppost to ask you what you want to do first! i think they go by what you want but im not sure! you can always call a clinic or a hospital and get information on that because it should be your choice!


I'm 16 years old, and I'm a female.

Just recently I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, of whom I've been dating for close to a year. I don't regret it, but I know I need to go on the pill because we're going to have sex often. My mother and eldest sister always reassure me that I need to tell them when I start having sex so we can go to the doctors to put me on the pill.

Problem? He's 24 years old. My parents are completely fine with me dating him, he's a close family friend, and I've known him since I was very very young. He means more then anything to me, and y'all are probably sitting there, like, "eww" but it's the truth.

My sister just told me the other day, "You know I'll take you to the doctors when you're ready, to.. you know, but you're ONLY twelve." It's because I'm the baby of the family, and to them I seem still very young.

I don't know how to ask, I'm so confused.
We've already decided not to have sex again until I actually go on the pill, just because of everything bad that could potentially happen if I were to get pregnant.

Thanks tons. [:
For even reading this!! (link)
yea i understand where your coming from 100% because im kind of in your place the only difference is i actually think i may be pregnant. my mom told me the same thing but you know how parents are! im not saying not to tell her but i think you should try to do this on your own(get the pill) and then tell her so just in case something might happen she can look back and say well she was mature enought to take things in your own hands and handle your business! but i dont think you should tell her but just when the times right!


my boyfriend and i had sex on monday night and it didnt hurt when we were doing it but that morning when i went to use the restroom and peed it really hurt it was a burning feeling and when i was peeing i got up and it still kept feeling weird like it was hurting down there. i can't explain the feeling its like i have to go pee but when i do go sit on the toilet i dont have to go its like a feeling i have to go it hurts to down there. today is wednesday and it still keeps hurting. i don't know what is wrong with me i mean what is wrong with me will this every go away because its been two days and its making me cry. someone please help me give me some answers. i have made a doctors appoitment but i have to wait until october 13. to go and that is like two weeks away and i cant not wait that long. someone please help me! Thanks in advance!!! (link)
well you probably just have some kind of minor infection. It could be from almost anything like not drinking enought water or something. if yall used a condom it could be an irretation from the condom but i dought that its serious. you need to go to your Gynecologic(i think thats how you spell it) not just to a regular doctor. try to call another place and see if a gynecologic can fit u in sooner! :-)


13/f

i want a belly button ring so bad. not this year though. next year, in 9th grade. the thing is though, my mom won't let me. she said i have to wait til i move out when i'm 18. SIX YEARS?! um no i'm not waiting that long lol. i know a ton of people who have them and they haven't had a problem. i know they can get infected, but that's only if you don't take care of it and stuff. how can i convince her to let me? it's not fair 6 years is too long lol.
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i get wat your sayin cause i wanted my chin or wateva you wanna call it pierced but i myself think you should try 2 talk her into let'n you get it when your n 10th or 11th grade. Im 15 now n im bout to get my first pirecing thats not im my ears. you may say yea everybody els has it but u still have to think of the effects it could have. other people belly rings may not get effected but yours can be different. my cousin got hers done but she went into shock n got put in the hospital! im not tryin to scare you or nothing cause i dought this will happen to you i just think you should do ALOT of research on it and u should kno your body so you can see what you can or cant take. Its also good to ask alot of people to truthfully tell you how it is.


ok heres my question. what are the steps on dateing, like on the first date do you kiss? or on the third date do you hold hands? what. i really need help, when should i expect sex? the girl i'm going out with we both really like each other, and she is really shy too, also if you both agree to take it slow, then what would the # of dates you go on would you wait untill you kiss or have sex

1. the numder of dates you should wait for the kiss/holding hands/ pdas/ and sex

2. if she is shy and you are takeing it slow, what are the numders

(ps.sorry if this is confuesing, i have a problem with wording questions) (link)
to tell you the truth theres really not a number of dates you have to go on to get to that stage. i mean its how you and him feel about each other, if you guys feel yall are ready for the kiss then it would just happen you never really plan it and thats the same for sex but sex yall will probably talk about it before it happens since its a bigger deal. just dont rush into anything serious and talk everything through before you make a big move.




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