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Need birth control.
I'm 16 years old, and I'm a female.
Just recently I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, of whom I've been dating for close to a year. I don't regret it, but I know I need to go on the pill because we're going to have sex often. My mother and eldest sister always reassure me that I need to tell them when I start having sex so we can go to the doctors to put me on the pill.
Problem? He's 24 years old. My parents are completely fine with me dating him, he's a close family friend, and I've known him since I was very very young. He means more then anything to me, and y'all are probably sitting there, like, "eww" but it's the truth.
My sister just told me the other day, "You know I'll take you to the doctors when you're ready, to.. you know, but you're ONLY twelve." It's because I'm the baby of the family, and to them I seem still very young.
I don't know how to ask, I'm so confused.
We've already decided not to have sex again until I actually go on the pill, just because of everything bad that could potentially happen if I were to get pregnant.
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For even reading this!! <3
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It sounds like your parents have a HUGE amount of trust in you...they're allowing you to date this guy, number one, and your mom has already encouraged you to come to her when you start having sex. So, don't betray thier trust. The smart thing to do is to go to your mom, or sister, and come clean. The alternative? Either complete abstinence or the possibility of a pregnancy, which will probably be a big mess.
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i hate to say it...but its rape...even if its concentual.
Good luck with everything though.
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Mums are pretty intuitive about things like this. She may have already guessed something was brewing and wants you to be sensible about it.
It's not easy for Mums to accept that their daughters are growing up and having a sex life of their own, but we do get over it. You may want to say to her that you have discussed sex with your boyfriend and would like to know more about contraception and could she please help you out. You don't need to tell her you have already had sex, it's no-ones business but your own. She has already offered you help and you should take her up on it. However, if you still don't feel comfortable talking to her, please ask your sister as she has said so too. Again, if that doesn't appeal to you, ask your boyfriend to go with you to the doctors or the family planning clinic. He is as much a part of this as you are.
Be proud of the fact that you are making sensible choices regarding your welfare, but you need to also make sure you don't pick up any STDs etc, so use a condom as well. I know you have known him for a very long time and he may be willing to take a test to prove he is in the clear, but until that time protect yourself.
As for the "eww" factor - the age gap is okay. 8 years difference time-wise has nothing to do with maturity. Good luck.
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Congratulations on making the choice to start having sex, and on being responsible enough to know that it's time to start taking the pill.
I think your sister may have just made that comment because she doesn't know you're already at the point that it's time to go to the doctor, and she doesn't want to push you into anything your not ready for.
If you still feel like you don't want to tell your mom and/or sister you can always make the appointment yourself, or have your mom make the appointment for something else and when you are alone with your doctor discuss your options.
If you don't want to go through your family doctor, you can always go to the local health department and get birthcontrol from them (look them up in the phone book.) Or if there is a Planned Parenthood Clinic in your area, they will set you up wil birthcontrol pills too.
Good Luck!
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yea i understand where your coming from 100% because im kind of in your place the only difference is i actually think i may be pregnant. my mom told me the same thing but you know how parents are! im not saying not to tell her but i think you should try to do this on your own(get the pill) and then tell her so just in case something might happen she can look back and say well she was mature enought to take things in your own hands and handle your business! but i dont think you should tell her but just when the times right!
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