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Gender: Female
Location: colorado, springfield
Occupation: student
Age: 14
Yahoo: flygirl_kandy@yahoo.com
Member Since: December 16, 2006
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my hair is a couple inches past my shoulders and light brown with blonde highlights. right now it is all one length and so boring. i want to keep the length the same but i need some pictures of celebrities or anyone with layers or anything fun. (link)
i kno this might not be good advice but just go to www.yahoo.com or www.google.com and type in celeberty girls name or hair styles this just something simple i do


There is this guy that i have liked for about two years and he would flirt with me one day and the next day he is going out with this girl that he has known for two days. I have cried over him so much and he has hurt me alot but there is this part in my body thst i just dont want to forget (link)
gurl 1st thing dont let that heffa see u cry it'll only make him stronger stand up 4 yoself and date another person to see if he gets mad
girl go on with your life forget him


i have my boy friends myspace password. i accidently signed on his and saw that he had a new message. i read it. it was him and this girl have cyber sex. i know i shouldnt have been reading his messages because that is personal. but do i have a right to be mad at him? and what should i so about it?
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that is cheating u should be mad becuase before cyber sexthey had to talk and all that stuff even though its private it dont matter i think u should ask him about her and if he lies then be mad at him


i have very bad pain where my rib cages meets ( i think its called my sternum?) sometimes it feels like its swollen. any idea of what it is??? the odd time i will also feel like my throat is swollen and i cannot swallow (link)
i think you should go to the doctor cause you would never know if it really was or if it is a major thing


like when your both facing eachother? how do you do that? and does it turn a guy on more to do it that way?

also, how do you make grinding crotch to butt more itneresting than just like going back and forth? (link)
ok you can pop on him
you can drow down and come bak up slow
you can roll your body on him and go down


well i had sex with this kid in janurary without a condom for like 2 mins and he pretty much just laid there with it in and he didnt cum and like last week i had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke and he cumed inside me and if im pregnate whoses baby would it mostly likely be ? i had my period in janurary and it was normal and i had my period on the 25 of feb. for like three days but it was heavy and that was like right after i had sex with my boyfriend (link)
i THINK its ur boyfriend becuase he "cummed"


i'm 14 years old and i recently got a boyfriend that i really like, and me and him are doing great. but, since i've got this boyfriend, i seem to be spending less time with my friends. and they've been getting mad at me some. it's not that i don't want to hang out with them, i just somehow make plans with my boyfriend first. if anyone has advice on how i can manage friends & a boyfriend please help. i greatly appreciate it.
thanks,
xo megan. (link)
well megan i think if they have a boyfriends to maybe all of yall should go 2 the movies or do something together. or make plans with him then ur friends like the next day or something im just guessing though


14/f

Im hardly hungry anymore! Is this bad or good? I dont need to lose weight or anything, but I still eat because people will think I have an eating disorder. (I am very skinny)

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girl im just like that im very sinny i weigh 88 pounds but sometimes i dont eat dont nobody care though cause i eat candy mostly and sometimes i eat fast food. but when i do eat i dont gain weight a lot like some people well its not a bad thing unless ur not eating period now thats bad


so i have really really pretty hair. it's blonde with natural highlights on top and natural lowlights on bottum that are dirty blonde. It's great so now i was wondering what kind of hair style i should get because my hair is soooooo plain. I can make it cute but its hard cus its sooo thick. so what should i do about it? oh, and it's length is right above my boob. lol. so how should i cut it? i don't wanna color it at all though and i already have naturaly wavy hair so no perm. would short cute layers make it awsome or make it seem too thin? (link)
Maybe you should go to the beauty salon
dont cut it though cause u might not like it
do twists and curl it
put it on a side pony tail and curl it
or maybe just curl it and wear it down


so i have been in love with this guy for a month now, im totally crazy about him. i want to make the first move and show him how much he means to me and get us to finally be a couple officially. he is 21 and im turning 18. what can i do to show him how i feel and make the move on HIM? i need something VERY good. thanks. (link)
-tell him
-be the better person and tell him you may be young but your in love
-flirt with him
-get close to him
-do something to make him really want you


what does it mean when ppl say like i droped the soap or something along those lines? (link)
its like when you got to jail boys say dont drop the soap cause if you drop it in jail you will get raped in your booty bad
SO DONT DROP THE SOAP IF YOU DO GO TO JAIL
THEY WILL BE WATCHING THOGH


Okay, so this may sound really stupid, but oh well. My friend told me she was like stradling her bf making out and then her boyfriend's best friend was like "Ohh you boned (lets call him billy) Billy". And he said it to her like it was a bad thing for "Billy". and she asked me what that meant. so basically, what does "boning" a guy mean?
...andd why is it bad for the guy?

thanks!! (link)
i think boning a guy means f****ing him
i dont know for sure though


ok theres this guy that i work with and to make a really long story not so long he has a gurlfriend and hes really famous for playing mind games and than breaking hearts hes a want to be player and he knows that hes playing mind games with me and that i being really stupid telling him things that i shouldnt like how much i like him and that i really cant trust myself around him he knows that im vurnable and he uses it against me im a virgin i havent done anything untill i meet him but i gave him head and he fingered me and afterwards i feel really sluty becuase he talks to his gurlfriend right afterwards and than he talks to me about all the other gurls he fucked and left, he flirts and flirts than sometimes nothing until he wants something so should i just drop him or become friends with beneifits you know just get the good with the bad because im 17 and still a virgin and he was my first oral but he wants to take my virginty but i know because of what kinda guy he is so should i stick it out and see what happens and hopefully he turns my way but than i think that hes cheating on his gurl that he suppossidly loves with me and every time i try to say no he sweet talks me and runs down my defenses, or should i just tell him that im better than that and just stay as friends and nothing more and try to work with him and not let him force and talk me down to it please help me lost and afraid (link)
-forget him
-move on it was just a booty call
-plus your seventeen so just wait till you find the one who's right 4 you
-plus your to good for him
-think on the bright side if his girlfriend finds out about his 1 night stands
-he'll be avalible then jk lol


can you have a relationship with the grim reaper?
if so, give your experiences, lol. (link)
i dont know when 1 of my people die he comes and i click on him and all it says is 100$ to come back to live and some other thing about your live


well i've jsut recently found out that im pregant, i took a test after i missed my last period. but me my boyfriend have had sex since then and really still want to have sex but will it harm the baby? we have a very active sex life and i dont know what to do. how can we keep our attraction to each other without sex? (link)
-it could hurt your baby when you are pregnant your are not suppose to have sex until are you have had the baby
-just kiss
-feel each other


I have a feeling I could be pregnant to my ex boyfriend. He left me for his previous ex-girlfriend about 2 weeks ago. I don't know if I should tell him, and I don't know what to say if I did. I would want him to come back to me if I was pregnant and help me out with the baby and all since it would be his but I understand if he doesn't. I wouldn't want to put him in that situation.

I just don't know what to do and I don't know what his reaction would be.

Can someone help me out? (link)
-find out is it his
-tell him if his reaction is bad then raise the baby on your own
-you dont need his lowsy help
-you will need child support money from him that will be the only thing you need from him
-explain to him how your child will fill knowing that her/him own dad doesnt want her/him
-if it goes wrong girl snapp on him


how can i tell that my friends are really my friends?.. i mean i just got out of a fight with a bunch of my friends and well, we've been in fights b4 too (just as bad) and well i just want to know how i can really tell if we are friends.. because i dont want to have to deal with the fighting drama and bullsh*t again.. please help (link)
-real friends dont start mess with each other
-make you happy when you down
-real friends never fight
-real friends have your back
-real friends are honest
-real friends are like your sistas that close
if your friends aren't like that looks like you need new ones


14/f

my chest is extremely itchyyy,, why?? its been like it for 2 days. help? (link)
-maybe irrlergic reaction to something\
-maybe your growing cycle
-type of clothes you are wearing that irratates your skin


14/f
well i have a BF that lives in another state about 4 hours away. i love him so much. but our parents dont know were dating. i met him because our parents are family friends. then his family came to visit for the first time. then i met their 15 yr old son. i do care about him a lot. but a couple days ago i was online and i let a guy my age have cyber sex w/me. and now i have to tell him the truth because i'm always honest w/ him and i think its best for me to tell him. but i learned my mistake and i'm never gonna do something like that again online or inreal life w/ someone i dont know. but i'm starting to have feelings for some guy at school and our winterfest dance is comming up. i love this ohio BF but i dont see how i can stop having feelings for other guys or stop flirting w/ other guys in my hometown. one day i mentioned how hard it was to have a long distance BF, all he said was yeah and he was glad we were together and he trusted me and he was glad he's homeschooled so he didnt have to deal w/ stuff like that. the worst part about it is that b4 we were born his mom lived were i live now. and his dad lives were they live now and now their married. they were in the same situation were in. i dont know what to do. i love this ohio BF but i cant stop having feelings for this other guy-and winterfest dance is comming soon. i dont want a friend as a date. plez help. 5's for all. thank you- i'm desperate for help. (link)
-if you want to tell your bf then tell him
-but you never know he could've been cheating on you or did something with another girl you never know i mean hes in another state
-follow your heart girl if you like the other guy you are going to have to let your other bf go


Hey i am 13/f and i am pregnant my baby is due in a week. No im not a slut or anything i would have kept my virginity until i was married but i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend. And I dont believe in abortion... my family is 100% supportive of this pregnancy and any decision i make. I just dont know if i wanna give him or her up for adoption. I really love the baby and i want whats best and i know that would to be with me because we have a good family and we have enough money to support the baby but i dont know if i will see the baby's dad in him or her and if it will scar me... I know its not the baby's fault. But anyway I could use support oh and baby names could help too! idk if its a boy or girl but i like names like nevaeh (nuh vey uh its heaven spelled backwards) and savannah and jayden, cayden, and skyler... anything else???

please help!!! (link)
well if u read the date on mine it was december first so its not my fault




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