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Can I safetly tell college about possible? neglect now that
PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME!!!!!!!!! I AM BEGGING YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am an 18 year old teenager and have a problem. I wondered whether you could possibly offer me any advice
I think i MIGHT have suffered from neglect/emotional abuse in my past. I need some advice.
You see when I first started high school I lost two people of whom I was very close to.one of these was my Grandmother who practically raised me.She was the one who took me places, taught me, supported me and basically looked after me. I used to see her almost every day.I can never remember my real mother doing any of this. However I never noticed the lack of support by my parents…..until she died.
I started to refuse to go to school on-and-off for my first two years in high school because of this...i did not want to move on and lapsed into serious depression and somedays i couldn't find the will-power to get up. I'd just lie in bed all day i felt so depressed. But my parents never helped me.they must have seen how depressed I was and yet they did nothing. Isn't this neglect. They knew I had depression and yet they did nothing.
Then i refused to go to school altoghether at the end of this second year as i could no longer cope any more. I ended up having 5 meagre hours of home tuition per week for the last three years which should have ben spent in school. my parents didn't get me any professional help or anything. Isn't this abuse/neglect.
I ended up failing almost all my GCSEs. the thing is i don't know anything about anything. i haven't been out of the house or seen people for about three years. But my parents won't teach me things such as how to use a bus, how to open a bank account, buy a phone or anything. it's as if they don't care. my mum NEVER offers me any sort or support or advice on anything.
So basically
I refused to go to school for my first two school years
I then refused to go altogether
I ended up having 5 measly hours of tuition per week for the last three years that I should have been in school
I then failed almost all my GCSEs
But throughout all this nobody helped me
I will have to go on a very low level of course at college.However I am worried that i am not going to get the support i need at home and might lapse into depression again as a consequnce and be too depressed to get up in the mornings. Because my parents sort of expect me to raise myself!Is this OK or is this neglect. My mum’s also still not particularly nice to me.
I think I need to tell the college about this lack of support. But i don't want to get my parents in trouble. MY mum is dying of ca.ncer and i couldn't live with myself if she died in prison. But i need help. Do you class what i've just described as abuse? Also thre have been many times when my mother has been emotionally abusive towards me. She can say such thoughtless things she makes me cry. then tells me to 'shut up' or says 'you're always moaning'.
I want to tell the college so that I can get the emotional support I need and also so that they can understand one of the reasons I felt I couldn't cope with school and therefore couldn't cope. I
am 18 years old now, Can i tell the college without getting my parents in trouble with the police? Or in trouble with social services? Can i tell the college without getting my parentts into trouble???? I NEED a definate answer. please help me[:(]
Who would the college contact if I were to tell them about the neglect? I DO NOT want to get my parents into trouble. Can I safetly tell the college (now that I'm 18) about the neglect without getting my parents into trouble with social services or the police??????????? PLEASE CAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME ANY ANSWERS!!!!! I AM RUNNING OUT OF TIME AND NEED ADVICE DESPERATELY.[:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(]
I LIVE IN ENGLAND
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Ok it sounds like yes you have been emotionally abused. Your parents are supposed to provide for your future, not sit aside and let you tackle it yourself. I do not know if there is a way to not tell the college about it. They have to know what to do if you lapse into serious depression. I'm sorry about your mommy. Hope I helped!
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well your pearents arent really cut out for the job of being pearents my mum was like this and still is i learnt to embrace it and lean on others for the support she couildnt give me your grama was probably that for you she can still be that for you just in a different way she is watching over you and is pratically like your gaurdian angel also yes tell the college they wont put her in jail dont worry and you need to get help and stuff but dont be afraid it will be ok everything will be ok if you need help i am here mizztalk_alot@hotmail.com
tell me how it goes
~nikki~
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Hi
Sounds like you've had a pretty rough start to life. What you're parent's did or didn't do does sound a little bit like neglect, but it's VERY doubtful that they would wind up in trouble with the law.
Have you talked to your parents about it? Do they know how you truly feel?
You're 18 now....it's time that YOU took over your life and do what needs to be done. I think it's great that you are going to college, and I think it would be a great idea to give them your history. Because you are an adult there's nothing that social services or the police can do without you initiating it.
You're old enough now that you can get yourself professional help if that's what you choose to do. I think you are going down a path right now that is about to fork in the road. One way will keep you in the rut that you are in right now, and the other one is a whole new life full of challenges and exciting new beginnings. Take it and run with it.
Take control, live your life, and don't be afraid to get help if you need it.
Good luck,
Brenda
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wow babes, as im not qualified for something like this and i have never known anyone in a situation like yours, all i can do is suggest you go see a doctor about the depression. it is clear at this stage that you are not going to get any help from your parents, and the only person who can pull you through this is you. The doctor will be able to help you and then perhaps when you are ready you can speak to a careers adviser and get your education sorted, get a job and move out. things are going to be scary and i can only imagine how you feel but if you go to a doctor they will be able to help you get your life sorted. I don't know if your parents will get in trouble for this but it is doubtful they will go to prison, you will probably just be removed from their house and put in a youth centre for a while until you have a job and can afford your own place. Dont worry during this time im sure you will make friends and they will teach you thing's about the world you have missed or more correctly what your parents have failed to teach you. im sorry i couldnt help more love jem xxxxxx
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