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so, me && my boy have been dating for 9 mounths. now, theres this senior guy && i'm a freshmen. hes amazing. we flirt 24/7 && i have a MAJOR crush on him. && hes gorgeous x84732847322748923742897423847324827489324789324324324324324324324. my b/f lives 30 mins away && this guy is closer. but idk. me && the seniot hug && flirt 24/7 && i told him i thought he was amazing && stuff, do you think there is any hcance he likes me? && do you think it's worth to dump my b/f now?

Well even if the senior guy doesn't like you, you should still break up with your current boyfriend. Cause obviously you don't want to really be wtih him THAT much if you're flirting with other guys and telling them their amazing adn everything. It wouldn't be fair to him. It sounds to me like he might like you back =] Whenever you break up with your boyfriend, maybe write "SINGLE" on your hand and just you know, hintingly make the senior see it and flirt with him alot more and see what he does. Or maybe just even tell him you broke up with your boyfriend, haha. That might work also lol =] I def. think he likes you =] See what he does with other girls though. Does he flirt with them also like he does you? Cause if he does then that means hes just a huge flirter, adn you don't want that, cause huge flirters... are usually huge cheaters =/ I hope I helped.





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MELii

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I cut myself and i want to stop!! How can i make myself stop??
Will rate

well first of all you need to think of the reason behind which you are cutting and then think of better ways to solve it. Confront it head on, talk to a teacher a parent, a friend somebody. And then solve that problem. And then I'd tell your parents that you cut yourself and maybe have them help you get a counselor or go to a group or something. I'm so happy that you've decided to stop before it could get so much more worse. And just remember theres so many better ways to let your anger out. Hit a pillow, write a song/poem, juts draw, listen to your favorite music, go out and get it out of your mind and have fun with your friends, talk to someone friends, parents, anyone. Even the people on advicenators. That's why we are here. If you ever have any problems, just tell us and we'll help. I hope I helped! =]





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MElii

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and like 2 weeks. I care for him a lot, but i'm such a jealous girlfriend and I can't help it.I mean I get jealous even when he says jlo is hot or someone else famous. I don't like when he hangs out with other girl unless i'm there to. I feel this is wrong of me. I trust him with all my heart but sometimes i just can't help it to be jealous. any advice?
Thanks in advance

Its perfectly normal to be a jealous girlfriend. What girlfriend isn't? =] I mean I can see why you might get jealous whenever he hangs around his friends that are girls, but you shouldn't let the celebrities bother you at all. I mean it's not like the celebrities gonna walk on by and steal your boyfriend away from you or anything. And besides, don't you think any male celebrities are hot? =] I know you do. =D With the friend thing though, just try and become friends with them more and get to know them better and they'll invite you to hang out with them so you can always just be there and keep your out eye on everything, and plus he'll be happier knowing you want to be friends with his friends =] I hope I helped.




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MELii

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Ok i like my bestfriend -joe- and we do everything together! i know he likes me and i dont know how to tell him i like him back!

Well you have to think: he likes you. Its not like he's going to reject you then or anything, so theres really no bad pressure. Just sometime ask him something like,"What do you think it would be like if we ever went out?" and then just be like," i like you alot, would you consider going out with me?" or something like that, haha. I hope I helped =]



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MELii

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i am about to go to this really important dinner but i have no idea how to use all those forks and spoons and stuff...which one do i use for each course? help me i rate high!

The smaller fork is for the side course ( or the salad )
The bigger fork ( and the knife ) are for the main course
The big spoons for the soup
and the smaller spoon and smaller forks are for the desserts.

Or you can just think left to right. =] I hope I helped.





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MELii

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im so confused! i am going out with ( lets call him bob ) bob but i feel like im using him just to get to ( lets call him fred ) fred. i know its not right but i actually love fred! what should i do. i dont want to hurt bob but even if i break up with bob doesnt mean that i will get fred. HELP!

You should break up with 'bob' because the longer the wait, the more its going to hurt him. And its not right to lead him on like that =/ just try to get 'Fred' without using 'Bob'. Just try talking to 'Fred' more and flirting with him maybe just a little. You never know.. Fred could like you and just didn't act upon it because you were already going out with someone else. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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I think my ex might like me. Please dont say " talk to him or ask him" Cause Im not readyy for that. He always smiles at me and walks me to the bus, and he waits for me in between brakes. Soo Does he?

Yeah it sounds to me like he really likes you =]

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Okay I'm 14 and I have a boyfriend named, austin, and i havent seen him in 2 weeks, and i only see him like once a week and his parents are really stricked, so we never hang out! But one time i went to the mall and at the ice cream store [Haagen Daz] there was this boy that worked there and we made complete eye contact for at least a minute and i feel like [dont laugh] but it felt like Love at first sight, it might sound stupied, but its true and i thought he was gorgeous, and now whenever i go to the mall i always hope he is there and i never think about austin, and like then before i was going out with austin [ he asked me out on November 8th ] i was at this Corona Highschool football game [ i dont go to high school i just went to the games] and i was sitting with my good friends patrick, larry, matt and jen and then they kept spilling water everywhere and knowing me i forgot and i went to sit next to jen and i slipped and i fell on someone and when i went to look it was the ice cream guy, and i just melted cause he was so pretty! WE just looked at each other the whole game after that, and i dont know what i should do, cause ive never talked to him so should i talk to him or not or just forget about him but then i dont know what to do about Austin, i dont know if i like him anymore but if i hang out with him then ill like him but if i break up with him then it will just be plan weird and he'll hate me?

please help me..

- ashlye

Well yeah, you might like him if you hang out with him, but you hardly do. And if your looking at a bunch of other girls like 'love at first sight' looks and everything, then I think you should break up with Austin. Cause it sounds to me like you don't want to be with him at all anymore and you should move on. Just explain to him that you don't have the feelings you used to have for him, and you just want to be friends, if he wants. He might hate you, he might not. If he is pissed off, just give him awhile to relax and try and talk to him. If he talks to you and everything, you guys could become friends again. But if he's still not talking obviously theres a slim chance. =/ So refering to your title..ice cream. And speaking of the ice cream guy, I'd def. talk to him. It sounds like you two could have something going for you two =] Def. talk to him the next time you see him and flirt a little =D I hope I helped.





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MELii

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Alright here is the story. I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 days ago because it didn`t feel right and I kinda wanted to explore with other guys. The problem is I still like my now ex alot and I dont want him to get with another girl! I Don`t know if I should go back out with him or just explore or what to do at all! Any ideas?
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Well obviously you should explore a bit becuase that's what you wanted to do in the first place, and you should also see if you really really wanna be with him. And then also if you do want to get back together with him, then you should talk to him and everything first and see if he wants to get back together with you because he might not want to after you broke up with him. I hope I helped.




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MELii

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okay so the other night, my friend told me she likes me, and 2 nights later I asked her out. And she says "I would love too, but I have to bring my grades up and I have Cheer competitions almost every weekend in in January." I really like her and my other friend told me just to give her time. And i don't know if i should give her time or what to do?

I think you should just give her time. Just hang out with her whenever you can and talk to her ( cause she DOES want to go out with you, so it's not like she's rejecting you ) and then in February give her a call or something and ask her out then =] and then you guys can make up for all the time you lost whenever you couldn't date =D I hope I helped.





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MELii

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My boyfriend and I had been dating for about a year when 8th grade started. He just suddenly stopped talking to me, and never seemed to notice I was there.

I didn't think anything of it at first, but it became a problem, because my love for him just grew....Can you help me?

Well you should talk to him and see why he suddenly stopped talking to you. Ask if him something is wrong and if he needs to talk about anything. Other than that, you might want to break up with him if he's just ignoring you for no reason cause I mean that's really really rude. But just talk to him about it first. I hope I helped.




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MELii

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Ugh this makes me so upset because I'm way too obsessed with my boyfriend. Granted i do love him and he loves me I just feel like I have to be with him all of the time. I don't really hang out with my friends that much because my whole life is based on him. We almost broke up because I don't like him to not pay attention to me after I had spent 5 hours with him that day. We are on a break right now, but I need some help because we are getting back together on Monday. But I would talk to him and still crownd him while we were on our break. We've been together for over a year so it's not just a fling. I want to do anything I can to save our relationship. I really really love him and I don't want to lose him. Can someone please give me adivice?

I would just sit down with him and talk to him about everything explain to him that you haven't talked to your friends really and that you miss him, (cause he probably misses his friends too) you just need to realize you can't alwyas be together. You need your own lives too =/ just whenever you guys go out with your friends, how about whenever you get home, just give eachother a call and talk some about what they did and everything? And then some days you hang out with your boyfriend. You just need to balance everything out =] I hope I helped.




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MELii

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yesterday a boy came over that i really like. Ok so things got heated and we started kissing, makin out a lot.yeah. Then we got into my room and he fingered me. Now im afraid that maybe he doesn't like me or somethin or just doesn't have any feelings for me. He's not the kind of guy that would use a girl like me like that because I know him really well and he treats me differently than other girls (in a good way)but for some reason I'm still worried that he's just gonna forget about me and go with another girl or something. What can I do to maybe prevent this from happening??? thankss!

Well are you sure he wouldn't do that? Cause even though he treats you differently from other girls, he could still want the same thing. =/ Try and invite him over again and don't do anything just yet just sit there with him and talk to him and everything and flirt just normally, but if he begins to be like," wanna makeout?" or somethig like that, it just sounds like he wants you to kiss and everything, and nothing more. So just get his number if you don't already have it and call him and just talk to him and flirt with him and everything =] and if that doesn't work, then you might have to ove on, cause obviously he wants nothing more than that. =/ I hope I helped.




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MELii

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hi my mom called me ugly and now i'm depressed!!!

...ask your friends if they think your ugly or not. I'm sure your not ugly, I don't see why your mother would call you ugly. That's not really something to call your child. And if it was me in your position, I'd take my friends word over my mothers. Um just don't let it get to you?

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A good friend of mine, of my entire school's, died. He was the Spanish teacher and the koolest teacher. He was more of a kid than most of us kids are. It's a middle school, so I mean, just the drama makes ppl upset, let alone someone close's death. I have been doing OK. But a good friend of mine (and an old crush of mine) has been hung up over it. She really loved the guy. I wish that I could help her. Normally, I'm really good with advice, but I just don't want to say something stupid this time. Any advice on giving advice? (I know it's weird but I really care about her as a friend and I hate to see her hurt). She's 14 and already has enough troubles with middle school drama.
-A dude who would appreciate help

Well first of all I'm sorry about your Spanish teacher's death. Just be there for her and tell her if she ever needs anyone to talk or let her feelings out on, that you'll always be there. It's tough dealing with the loss of someone. But slowly after time they get better and better. Just try to distract her so she doesn't think about it as much. You really can't give someone advice to get them over it. You just need to let them get over it in their own time. =/ I'm so sorry once again and I hope I helped.





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MELii

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I cheated on my ex-boyfriend while we were together. I realized I did not love him, and broke it off with him after that. Well, I still loved him very much and he loved me, so one day we decided to hang out as friends. Well, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. Well, I realized how much of a mistake that was, so I stopped seeing him or talking to him completely.

Now I found out I am pregnant. I am 19 years old and he is 20. My ex-boyfriend is a really good person and I think he'd make a very good father. If our problems weren't enough, here is the biggest issue.

He is foreign. He is staying in the country on a student visa. He will have to leave in 6 months unless we get married. I desperately don't want him to leave. Not for me, but for our future child. The flight to his country and back to visit would be 1200 dollars per trip. Everyone is pressuring us to get married so he can fulfill his fatherly duties and our child could have both parents around. We've research all possible ways he could stay, and it basically comes down to him marrying me.

What should I do? I can't see myself being with this person forever, but I can't see my child only getting to see his father once a year or so. I am seriously thinking about marrying him until he becomes a citizen, and then divorcing. Ugh, it's so frustrating, I don't even want to think about it!!!

Hmm that's a really tough situation. Sorry you have to go through this =/ Well I mean, you shouldn't marry someone you don't love. =/ You should look for someone else who you can love and marry and can also be the father figure for your child so he/she could grow up with two parents around.

But if not that, then why not marry him, but just lead like, seperate lives? Not completly seperate lives like dating and everything cause married couples shouldn't do that, but how about have him live in another aparment? But just close by so then he can visit the child alot.

I'm sorry if I didn't help much =/ I tried the best I could. I hope everything works out for you and you make a good decision.




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MELii

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okay, well i like this guy. well, too bad he likes my best friend right? she likes him too. and i try SO hard to be all like "oh, no its fine" but its not! its not at all! well ill tell you an example. i was sitting at the end of the swing thingy or whatever and she comes over and sits on his lap and like, SMIRKS at me! i dont know what i should do.. its so annoying and confusing.. and i just feel like i shouldnt even TRY to get a guy, yeah thats stupid but its true. and i hate crying but i cryed over him, that means i like him alot right? i wanna tell him&her that i hate them soo much but shes my best friend! and I just dont know what to do.. what should i say to him&her? pleasee help me.
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Well it seems like your "best friend" isn't being a very good friend at the moment. If she's sitting on his lap and smirking at you, she's practically rubbing it in your face and that's rude. But there's nothing much you can do. They like eachother =/ Just talk to her and explain to her how it upsets you sometimes whenever you see them two together and sitting on his lap and everything and just ask if they could not do that kind of stuff in front of you? =/ Because if it was you he liked and she was in your position, wouldn't you want her to let you and the guy date? So just let them date. They aren't going to be together forever. But if she keeps doing it, I might suggest getting a new best friend cause obviously she doesn't do a good job at being one =/ I hope I helped.





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MELii

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16.f...My good guy friend, also on my tennis team with me, started to like me over the summer. He like talked to my bff about me, to find out if I liked him? Atleast that's all she could/would tell me. We went on like 2 dates to a movie a couple months ago but I decided I wasn't that into it. So, it's been a few months and I'm successfully tried to not talk to him as much so not to lead him on or anything. But I just found out that he still likes me hardcore-his friends call me and are like "do you like jared?" UGH it's just really annoying. So, now i really just don't like him in that way and now *partly bc of his friends calling me, who by the way i have never met* well, I just don't know what to do. I thought we had moved passed that but boy was I wrong. What should I do?!

Well even though it's gonna suck to do it, you need to call him up and tell him that you just want to be friends, and only friends. Cause if you keep avoiding him the way you are, he's just going to keep doing this adn everything because by avoiding him, your not exactly telling him you don't like him. He might think you do still. So you just need to call him and explain to him that you only like him as a friend and I'm sure since he likes you, he'll understand cause he'll figure better a friendship that nothing at all. I hope I helped.





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MELii

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I'm going out with this guy that my friends just absolutely hate! One of my friends even threatened to stab him in the neck with her pocket knife during church! I don't want to break up with the guy because he's absolutely perfect to me. What should I do?

prettykitty77723

I'd SERIOUSLY talk to your friends. Why do they hate him so much? Did he ever do anything to them? Also, if they're your friends they should be happy with whom you date if it's making their friend happy, thats all that should matter. You don't have to break up with your boyfriend. You shouldn't have to just because your friends don't like him. Just seriously talk to them adn ask them why they hate him and everything. I hope I helped.




Love,
MELii

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Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering...should age matter in a relationship? What's your point of view on this one, like does it matter if both are close in age or far apart...by far I mean less than 5 years or so. Thanks in advance, will rate.

Well like if it's 5 years, then no I really don't think it matters. But if your like 10-15 or more? It might start to matter. Cause it'd be weird for like an 18 year old to be dating a 30 year old. But if you love the person, then who cares? =]




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