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Too Attached
Ugh this makes me so upset because I'm way too obsessed with my boyfriend. Granted i do love him and he loves me I just feel like I have to be with him all of the time. I don't really hang out with my friends that much because my whole life is based on him. We almost broke up because I don't like him to not pay attention to me after I had spent 5 hours with him that day. We are on a break right now, but I need some help because we are getting back together on Monday. But I would talk to him and still crownd him while we were on our break. We've been together for over a year so it's not just a fling. I want to do anything I can to save our relationship. I really really love him and I don't want to lose him. Can someone please give me adivice?
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I would just sit down with him and talk to him about everything explain to him that you haven't talked to your friends really and that you miss him, (cause he probably misses his friends too) you just need to realize you can't alwyas be together. You need your own lives too =/ just whenever you guys go out with your friends, how about whenever you get home, just give eachother a call and talk some about what they did and everything? And then some days you hang out with your boyfriend. You just need to balance everything out =] I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
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Alright, you MUST trust him. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you don't trust him, but you need to give the lad some space. If you don't, that break could last forever and you would've lost someone and regretted it for a long time. Just lower it a level and I'm sure things will turn out ok in the end!
Best of luck and I know it's easier said than done!
x Steph x
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It sounds like you are too clingy to him. Give him some space. Find some friends you can hang out with when he is with his friends. I have a brother that had a girlfriend that was too clingy and he broke up with her. Do you think she was haapy? I dont. I would definatly give him some space. Its okay to be with him for a long period of time occasionaly.
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Answer: Spending too much time together, to the point you are obsessed and get on each other's nerves, is how a relationship dies.
I will use my aunt and uncle as an example for this one. They are happily married with two grown sons. They have never had any *big* marital problems. The reason is... they both have their own separate lives! She spends time with her girlfriends, while he goes out fishing with the boys. If it works for them, it should work for you!
I've made the same mistake as you. When you're in love, you want to spend time with the person who makes you happy. However, you can't lose yourself. Your friends will resent you if you blow them off for your boyfriend. Your boyfriend will resent you for being so clingy.
Ask yourself why you feel this way. Are you afraid of losing him? Have you been hurt in the past? Has he ever done anything untrustworthy? If you truly love your boyfriend and you have no reason not to trust him when he's not with you, you should respect his wishes. Give him some space. When you finally get to see each other after spending all day doing other things, you'll appreciate each other even more and the love will grow stronger. :)
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though you love him think about what he wants. everyone wants a little time to themselves or for their friends. If the break is because of this then think about it. do you really want to continue to act this way? If you love him you need to give him some space. I know it's unbearable to be away from someone you care about that much trust me, but you just need to do it.
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