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Q: I'm 146lbs, and 5'5.
I'm looking for a way to be 130lbs by the end of the summer.
My Meal Plan will be:
Breakfast-
Oatmeal (low-sugar)
1/2 Bannana, Orange, and Apple with Non-Fat Vanilla Yogurt on Top.
Water and a Multivtiamin
Lunch-
Wrap with ToFurkey, Cheese, Lettuce, Cucumbers, and Carrots
Applesauce
Water
Dinner-
Garden Burger w/ Ketchup
Salad
POM Tea

and then i was planning on working out for an hour a day, which would include, running/tredmill for forty minutes, 50 jumping jacks, "core" excersises like crunches, and then Lifting weights.

How fast will i see Results?
Even if I don't loose the EXACT weight i want, I want to at least have a waist line of 34inches. Its 39 right now.

Think I can do it?
and How healthy is that for me?

Any Feedback will be appreicated. and if there's any veggie dinners that can be added for different days, that would be awesome.

THANK YOU.

You're going to get awfully bored eating the same thing every day.

As the person before me said, try mixing it up.

Also, just because fruit is good for you doesn't mean that you should eat tons of it. It's full of sugar, which you should really minimize in your diet.

Make sure you plan snacks into your diet, or else you'll always be hungry! Some of my favourite snacks are sunflower seeds (I eat them like chips), sugar-free candy and home-made popsicles made from Crystal Light. I also love raw broccoli with salad dressing.

Meals? You can work wonders with spices. Garlic, curry, lemon juice and herbs are very low-calorie, and tasty, too. For breakfast try an egg and some cottage cheese. The key is mixing it up so that you don't get bored.

As for vegetarian recipes, I'm not a vegetarian, but I love some dishes. Hummus makes a great snack, spread on pita wedges. Portobello mushroom sandwiches are really tasty, just like hamburgers.
Here's a recipe. http://www.kraftfoods.com/Recipes/SoupSandwiches/MeatlessSandwiches/GrilledPortobelloMushroomSandwich.html

Just a warning; make sure you keep your protein intake up. Beans, nuts, seeds, etc. It's especially important for teenage girls, because you're still growing!

By the way, good job on the reasonable goal! A lot of girls come on here trying to lose 10 pounds in a week, and it's just not right. Slow and steady is the way! Just make sure that whatever changes you make are a lifestyle change, or else you'll just put the weight back on when you stop.

Q: 14/f
is it true that if you dye your hair while on your period that your hair turns green or yellow or whatever?

Absolutely not. Sounds like an urban legend to me!

Q: if your a vegetarian or vegan can you eat eggs? my personal opinion is that you shouldnt because it was once living (sorta). but is it REALLY considered living. i dont know. please help. im confused lol

Eggs never were living. Not even 'sorta'.

You know how human fetuses use the placenta to gain nourishment? Eggs are pretty much chicken placentas. They're just nutritious goop. In the eggs that are sold, there never was a baby chicken. The eggs are not fertilized, so no fetus would have formed.

So strict vegetarians can gobble up as many eggs as they want.

Q: Is there an age limit on buying midol?
If so, how old?

Seeing as it's pretty much just Tylenol, there should be no problem with anyone buying it.

Q: hey.

i have superr-duperr bad allergies.
i'm allergic to pollen.

my nose itches & runs.
my eyes are swollen, red, watery, and sting in the corners,
my throat itches.

i am:
- showering & washing my hair everyday
- putting all my clothes in the laundry everyday
- taking medication (zyrtec & allegra, benadryl)
- keeping the windows closed / minimizing how much i go outside as much as possible

and i wash my face when i get back from school & spend 5 minutes a day pulling out "gooey stuff" from my eyes which, people say, has a LOT of pollen. and that really helps.

is there ANYTHING else i can do to avoid the symptoms of pollen allergies, esp. for my eyes?

thanks!

Have you considered allergy shots? You get them once a week or so, and it's supposed to help a lot.

Have you talked to your doctor about this? They may put you on a prescribed allergy medication.

Q: Can anyone think of what to say for fuck off instead of using the word fuck off?

Somebody said fire truck..pretty lame!

Needs to start with an f and is one sylabol and goes with the word off =S

And can someone answer my question called Topical Sillicone Gel? It's a very important question but for two days it hasn't been on the BE THE FIRST ONE TO ANSWER or QUESTIONS THAT MIGHT NEED MORE ANSWERS.

I know this is incredibly nerdy... but in Battlestar Galactica, they say 'frack'.

So... frack you :)

Q:

ok im almost 18 and when i was younger i experminted i was like 6or7 at the time it was like 10 or more years ago and the kid i experimented with was like 8or9 only like 2 years older than i am and i havent done anything since than nothings been in there fingers or nothing and i want to know can i still consider myself a virgin it happened so long ago and do you think that ill be tight still i dont even remeber if it fully went in or not i mean he was only like 9 how big can it be so will i still be tight like a virgin please help

I think that's pretty common, actually.

If he actually managed (somehow) to get his penis inside of you, you're technically not a virgin. However, what you consider yourself is all up to you. I'd probably say I was.

As for tightness, you should be. I went away for 4 months during the summer, and regained all my tightness (according to my boyfriend) so things should be allright.

Q: what are the requirement/rules or w/e for the south beach diet first stage?

thankss :]

I'm on the South Beach diet (in the first phase!)

Pretty much, no carbs. None. Nothing that contains sugar, no grain products.

So,

No fruit, cereal, bread, pasta, rice, etc.

You're also not allowed alcohol or much caffeine.

By the way, it works. I've probably lost a pants size, and I'm only on day 10!

-- Uh, silly question... how was my answer any less satisfactory than the other?

Just wondering. I'm always looking for ways to better my advice giving!

Q: okay so long story short ive been diagnosed(SP)as suicidal--im on drugs---and i rented the movie the virgin suicides because i heard it was very good and mom saw it and freaked out she wants to watch it with me(15/f by the way)to make sure it dosnt have to do with suicide. so my question(S)-
is suicide a big part of the movie and would it be akward or wierd to watch with my mom?
thankyou

It's my favourite movie.

Unfortunately, it will not be a good movie to watch with your mother. Pretty much, the movie centers around the suicides of 5 teenage girls. It's quite depressing.

Q: is limewire illegal? i heard it's not because its bases are located in australia or something..? is this true? and could someone explain to me the jist of why/why not its illegal

It all depends on where you live.

For instance, in Canada (where I am) it's fully legal to download whatever you want from the internet.

It is, however, illegal to use it for non-personal uses (i.e. giving it to someone else).

Q: 13/f punk goth. i love photagraphy. my mom hates me as a punk goth how i dress act and my friends and everything else about me jewelry makeup my pictures as in subjects and poses my music drawings writings everything. my friends are
~aaa13/m prep ~bbb13/f punk ~ccc12/f skatergoth ~ddd13/f punk ~eee14/f goth ~fff13/f emo ~ggg14/f prep in order as bestfriends all but ggg when were all together were always doing stuff to someone or eachother were the trouble makers were very rough to eachother do anything to get eachother in trouble. cuss out flipp off everyone talk sooo sick. whats wrong with it isnt it normal. my pictures are either black and white flowers or animals and people or me with dark around the eyes and bright eyes in color sepia or black/white or negatives. i draw eyes hearts roses people flowers gore anything i feel at the moment. i write all in gore or EV calig.
my mom always wants ggg to come over and we dont really have same intrests but we were best friends since kp. my mom hates the most out of everyone ccc and doesnt trust me at all around her shes the youngest but acts and talks like the oldest shes fun always doing something shes the mastermind. aaa is my best of best friends since kp and he cant come over because hes a guy whats wrong with it he used to always come over. only ggg can ever come over. me and aaa love eachother and dono where to take it from there. we dont wana lose our friendship. i love music and photography and my friends its all thats left to live for. all but ggg is there for me 24/7 she ignores me at school shes not a real friend. why does my mom hate my friends and i? what do i do now with aaa? what am i doing wrong with my mom? my mom loves me being artistic but critisizes everything and ripped up a poster i made that i loved that took all i had and felt and took forever ~open opinions nothings wrong~ what do you hate about goths punks emos skaters is there anything bad? is this fair? whats so bad about my pictures or drawings or writings? i might add later. ~randomgrl777~

Well, I don't know many goths, punks, emos or skaters [GPES] (they're incredibly rare in university) BUT I can see in your question exactly what people don't like about them.

"when were all together were always doing stuff to someone or eachother were the trouble makers were very rough to eachother do anything to get eachother in trouble. cuss out flipp off everyone talk sooo sick. whats wrong with it isnt it normal."

No, it isn't normal. It's rude and disrespectful, actually. That is probably why your mother doesn't like your GPES friends... she associates this behaviour with their coming. She likely wants you to hang out with 'ggg' because you were a little nicer back then.

I'm sure your friends are wonderful people, but you have to take a look at how you treat other people.

As for the artwork, the only questionable topic I'm seeing is 'gore'. Ick. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

Silly question... what was the topic of the poster your mom ripped up?

Q: Can people with REAL relationship experience please answer? People that have been in serious relationships that lasted more than a few months? Thanks.

I'm 17/f and he's 21/m. We've been together since July 5th of 2005. It's the first serious relationship each of us has had.

Everthing was going wonderfully between us until the beginning of this year. We fought over stupid things. I kept getting really angry with him because he wouldn't go get a job and all he cared about was playing his computer and video games. He IS in college though and is going for internet security, so that was a good thing. Most of the time we worked through whatever problems we might have had, though. I really got better at respecting his hobbies and such. Plus he finally has a job now. Okay.

Lately though, I just feel like I don't want to be around him because I know it will be boring or he'll just make me angry in some shape or form. I don't want to hang out with just him because I know we'll just sit around and be bored because there's nothing to do.

Whenever he calls to say goodnight or something, sometimes I don't even pick up the phone because there's nothing to talk about or I don't even want to talk to him.

The point I'm getting to is that I think I might be falling out of love with him. I don't know if maybe it's because I see him too much or what, but I see our relationship more as really best friends instead of loving boyfriend and girlfriend. I know I care about him because I would never want him out of my life.

So my question is, how do I fall back in love with him? How do I make our relationship more fun and loving? We've been together for nearly two years and I can't figure out a way to keep things as lively as they were the first few months we went out.

At this point, I'm not sure a "break" would work for us because I'm going to college in the fall. If we took a break, that would be it and I know we'd be done. So that's a last resort.

I know that deep down, some part of me needs to stay with him and keep loving him because I'm asking this question. I want to find that part of me and bring it out. I want to be just as much in love with this man as I was the first time I told him.

Any advice?

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is nearly 21... and he sounds a lot like yours! We've been living together for a few months now, and that's quite the uphill battle.

There's no problem with being best friends with your partner. You SHOULD be best friends with them. It sounds to me like the romance is gone, which is a problem that my boyfriend and I had recently.

Try doing little romantic gestures. A love letter, maybe? If he sees how nice it is, he'll probably reciprocate.

If that doesn't work, talk to him about it. That worked for me. My boyfriend came home with a card and a balloon last night apologizing for having ignored me :)

I agree with you that a break is a bad idea. Stick with it, because this is a hurdle that everyone in a serious relationship encounters.

Q: Can someone PLEASE tell fill in the blanks for me?!

"The good old ____ game is the best ____ you can ____."

Its the National hockey theme song in Canada. Thanks!

The song is by Stompin' Tom Connors, if you were interested. It's entitled "The Hockey Song"

Also, some might argue that the "Hockey Night in Canada" song is the hockey theme song here :P

Q: so this is a kinda weird question ... but i'm dieting and watermelon seems to fill me up really quickly. i don't think it can have too much sugar since it's a fruit, but why does it make me so full? i know it's mainly water, but how much water can it have... because drinking water doesn't flil me up that much

You're actually wrong. Fruit contains a lot of sugar... one apple contains about 10.5 grams of sugar! It's naturally occurring, but it's still sugar.A 100 gram serving of watermelon contains 6 grams.

The fact that you don't get full when you drink water may be attributed to the fact that you're not chewing or tasting anything; in other words, it's probably all in your head.

Q: Well, yesterday I got sunburnt SOO bad. My arms are completely red, my legs, my face... Everything. And it hurts so bad. It burns and people have been calling me tomato all day.

I have been frequently applying aloe vera, but it hasn't been working, and it makes me feel gross and slimy... I just want to know, is there anything other than aloe vera that will make the burning and the redness go away fast?

Thanks in advance.

A great thing for the pain is Solarcaine. It's got a topical analgesic which makes the pain go away. You can't use it too often, but it feels really good.

Other than that, I find for my face I love Burt's Bees carrot soap and lotion, because it helped me heal up really fast after I got a nasty burn.

Q: lately i havent been eating anything because the public pool opens in 2 weeks and i dont want to look fat in my swimsuit. please help me. i dont know what to do.

Fasting won't help you at all. What it will do is slow down your metabolism so that when you do start to eat again, you'll gain more weight back than you lost.

Try the slow and steady approach. There's no easy way to lose weight fast.

Trust me as a heavy person saying this... nobody is going to notice if you're a bit chubby.

Q: Sorry for asking this question, we get a lot of these and they are annoying. However, I have tried everything.

There is this song that I heard in like October on the radio. It is an older song, from the 90's. It is a female singer, and I believe (not positive) it was featured on one of those 90's drama shows (Like Felicity or Dawson's Creek). I have no idea what the words are, but the singer sings "na na na na na na na" in a melody quite frequently. The song is slower, and its the same type of song as Breathe by Anna Nalick or Built This Way by Samantha Ronson.

Advicenators is my last resort. I have searched google, lyric sites, asked everyone I know, searched for old tv shows' soundtracks, and even tried that song tapper on bored.com. If you have any idea what the song is, please let me know. Even what show it came off of, or any of the lyrics. This has been driving me crazy for months! Thanks!

It took a lot of work to figure out what song it was, but I knew exactly what you meant! I had a CD with the song on it when I was about 10 or so.

It's Kind and Generous by Natalie Merchant, if I'm thinking of the right one.

Here's a link to the video on YouTube, just so you can check.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=rdG618TMc5E

Q: What's the difference between 'gold' and 'golden?' For example, you would say gold necklace, right? But I'm reading a book and it says "... golden apple ..."

Pretty much, gold is used in a context where the item in question is made of gold. So a 'gold necklace' is made of gold.

Golden, however, is used in a context where the item is suggestive of gold, or if it's of great value, like 'the golden apple' or 'the golden calf'.

Q: we're learning about africa and how so many people have aids and are dieing of it and i was wondering do people mainly die of aids because of unprotected sex or what?

Well, they die of AIDS because there isn't any easily affordable and widely available treatment.

They get AIDS because of lack of information regarding safe sex practices, and because there isn't a system for distribution of protection against it.

Also, a lot of children are born with AIDS, because their mother was infected.

Q: what are good songs about friends like im making a slideshow of my friends and i and i need a good song about friends but nothing gay

I'd add in "You Make Me Live" by Queen. It's fun!

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