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friends and life and a hated artist
13/f punk goth. i love photagraphy. my mom hates me as a punk goth how i dress act and my friends and everything else about me jewelry makeup my pictures as in subjects and poses my music drawings writings everything. my friends are
~aaa13/m prep ~bbb13/f punk ~ccc12/f skatergoth ~ddd13/f punk ~eee14/f goth ~fff13/f emo ~ggg14/f prep in order as bestfriends all but ggg when were all together were always doing stuff to someone or eachother were the trouble makers were very rough to eachother do anything to get eachother in trouble. cuss out flipp off everyone talk sooo sick. whats wrong with it isnt it normal. my pictures are either black and white flowers or animals and people or me with dark around the eyes and bright eyes in color sepia or black/white or negatives. i draw eyes hearts roses people flowers gore anything i feel at the moment. i write all in gore or EV calig.
my mom always wants ggg to come over and we dont really have same intrests but we were best friends since kp. my mom hates the most out of everyone ccc and doesnt trust me at all around her shes the youngest but acts and talks like the oldest shes fun always doing something shes the mastermind. aaa is my best of best friends since kp and he cant come over because hes a guy whats wrong with it he used to always come over. only ggg can ever come over. me and aaa love eachother and dono where to take it from there. we dont wana lose our friendship. i love music and photography and my friends its all thats left to live for. all but ggg is there for me 24/7 she ignores me at school shes not a real friend. why does my mom hate my friends and i? what do i do now with aaa? what am i doing wrong with my mom? my mom loves me being artistic but critisizes everything and ripped up a poster i made that i loved that took all i had and felt and took forever ~open opinions nothings wrong~ what do you hate about goths punks emos skaters is there anything bad? is this fair? whats so bad about my pictures or drawings or writings? i might add later. ~randomgrl777~
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Maybe your mom hates how you dress and your friends because you guys are bunch of a (pre) adolescent bohemians("individuals") In other words, I'm calling you guys kids who dress and act differently for the sake of acting and dressing differently. Honestly, you guys are 12-14 years old, you don't have to label yourself as punk, or emo, or goth.
You also have to understand it from your moms perspective. She has a 13 year old girl that self labels herself "goth" and she hangs out with a punch of other kids who self label themselves punk, emo, prep, etc... Her daughter(you) also happesn to wear eccentric clothes and act differently. How the hell is she supposed to feel? She has every right to worry about you.
Also, I read your about me in your advice column, I'm sorry for the deaths that has ocurred in your life, but you've got to stop viewing life as a horrible journey that's just out to get you. You mention that you're hated by most people, which probably isn't true. MOst people are probably just intolerant of you because you act so differently. I'm not saying you shoudl conform, I'm just saying that they don't hate you, if anything, they're probably a lot of scared. You also say your whole family hates you, which is complete bullshit. If your mom hated you, she wouldn't care so much about what you do or what your friends do. The reason your mom tries to control you is because she cares about you. But of course, since you're 13 years old, you might not understand that concept yet.
Anyways, you also mentioned your mom wnats your female prep friend to come over. This is probaby because she is the most socially acceptable of all your friends and is a fellow female. Your mom simply wants reassurance that you're not hanging out with the "wrong" people. You can't blame her for that.
I probably sound like a 50 year old adult now, but the truth is, I'm still in highschool. If you met me, you'd probably think i was a comformist tool trying to fit in wtih everybody else. But i've done more "emo" shit than most emo kids have done in their lives. I've done more "gothic" stuff than what most gothic people have done, and I've just about as much "punk" stuff as what most punks have done. I've also seen a shitload of emo and punk bands live.
overall, what I'm trying to say is that your mom loves you and she's just worried about you(for obvious reasons) You also need to stop labeling yourself and your friends as punk or emo or whatever. Just be yourself, don't worry about the stupid sub cultures. You're also an emotionally angsty teen, have you ever considered doing something productive such as a sport or a club that would increase your self esteem so you wouldn't be so insecure about yourself? Also, you might want to talk to a therapist to sort out any emotional problems. Send me a message if you have any more questions.
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Hey Randomgrl777 again. I am not sure where you are from, but I live in New England, and in my town everyone just loves emos, goths, and punks. They love them because 3 out of every 4 kids here is one. Our High School is filled with them, and for the most part they are really cool and interseting people. For the shallow people that dont like them, i think it is because they are use to the normal person. They expect everyone to be perfect, but dont understand that society doesnt work that way. If I were your mom, which I arent, I would actually be happy that you were drawing instead of getting caught up in other mischievious activities. Drawing is a good way to express your feelings, and your emoitions. She may just be frightened, or disturbed by the gore, or the eyes with the dark underneath them. She just needs to understand that you draw whatever you are feeling, so I would explain that to her. I hope I helped, and if you need help with anything feel free to go to my inbox!
good luck
oh p.s.
what the user below me said i read the feedback she got, gpes= goths punks emos and skaters.
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Well, I don't know many goths, punks, emos or skaters [GPES] (they're incredibly rare in university) BUT I can see in your question exactly what people don't like about them.
"when were all together were always doing stuff to someone or eachother were the trouble makers were very rough to eachother do anything to get eachother in trouble. cuss out flipp off everyone talk sooo sick. whats wrong with it isnt it normal."
No, it isn't normal. It's rude and disrespectful, actually. That is probably why your mother doesn't like your GPES friends... she associates this behaviour with their coming. She likely wants you to hang out with 'ggg' because you were a little nicer back then.
I'm sure your friends are wonderful people, but you have to take a look at how you treat other people.
As for the artwork, the only questionable topic I'm seeing is 'gore'. Ick. But hey, whatever floats your boat.
Silly question... what was the topic of the poster your mom ripped up?
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