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I am From Pakistan My problem is abnormal vaginal discharge, pain in lower abdomen, heavy menstrual bleeding and very painful, diarrhea and painful bowel movements, poor urinary control and excessive, sometimes painful sexual intercourse, I have three children, my last child was born in Oct 2010, first child was born in 2000 normal birth, second was also normal birth only last child was through a operation although everything was normal but as was very weak due above symptom, my doctor suggested that i will not be able bear labor pains for this should have operation, during operation she has observed that there is soiling due to infection and all parts are like jelly and sticky to each other, she has said it is Endometriosis, please Diagnose as each doctor I visit has their own Diagnosis nothing seems to be working this getting very weak and depressed too.
Hello,
We are not doctors, We cannot for sure give you the answer you are looking for. However, I can give you some tips. ;)
Endometriosis is very painful, Try using a heating pad when you have abdominal pain. Make sure to drink plenty of water as water is known to help with stress! When your body is sick, It causes stress. I'm not entirely sure what your diet is but it will help if you stock up on fruits and vegetables. If your menstrual cycles are unbearable you could make an appointment with your OBGYN and ask to be put on birth control to help regulate your periods. This should ease any pain, The lower abdominal pain could be caused from ovulation but again I am not a doctor I cannot give you a diagnosis. My advice is to make an appointment with your OBGN try to get on some birth control to help regulate the menstrual cycle and if you continue to have these symptoms then try going to a hospital.
If you drink regular milk try giving lactose milk a try, The diarrhea COULD be IBS. (Irritable bowel syndrome)
I'm 230 lbs, 5'8, about a size 20 or 18 depending on brand, typically a 20, though. My goal is to get down to 155 pounds. I know I need to exercise, but the question is, how MUCH is needed?
If I were to do an ab workout, pushups, squats, lunges, and go for a brisk walk every day would that be enough, partnered with eating less?
I do those things (and cardio Tues and Thurs, like running) every week day in P.E., and I did lose 10 pounds, but I am eating the same amount as ever and have hit a plateau.
So... if I were to keep that same routine and eat less, would I start losing again? Or would I need to intensify the routine, too?
The best thing is to do 30 minute - 1hr exercise 3-4 times a week.
Here are also a few great tips: When you eat dinner, Skip out on the big dinner plates and go for a smaller dish.
Take white bread and switch it over to wheat, Any pasta try to make sure it's whole grain!
Avoid anything that is high in carbs, sugar, calories.
Drink a half of glass a water before each meal, You will find yourself satisfied faster without eating as much.
If you work out, You will loose weight but it all depends on how badly you want this. If you are determined then you've got it but make sure you do not OVER do it. Over exercising will put a strain on your body.
If you really want to go hardcore, Eat with your other hand. You are more likely to eat less ;)
Any ground meat, Try and make sure it is lean meat! Instead of ground beef, Go for Ground Turkey Lean. Don't add on the mayo, Instead go for mustard or even ketchup!
Eat small portions, Skip out on the junk food. No soda, No sugar drinks......Stick to tea, water, and flavored water. Soda has acid in it and when you take in soda the acid can cause your stomach to stretch.
This is just a thought....Try looking into some Zumba/Dance classes.
Good Luck
I have this "friend" and her dad abuses her alot..... shes thinking of suiciding... What should "she" do?
Your friend needs to get proof and go to the police. Whether you record it by a cell phone or take photos etc.
Suicide is NOT the answer or the way out, Anything is conquerable but you need to take the right steps. The police can help you, School guidance counselor, Someone you trust but let an adult know. Trust me these things can be resolved if you seek the proper help. I was in an abusive living environment for 21 years but it got A LOT better. Suicide wasn't my answer and it is not yours.
Im applying to colleges, and soon i have to make a decision. me and my boyfriend of a year and a half are taking a break until i decide on a college, and if i end up in the school he attends, we will probably get back together. I just need a clear head for my decision. It may be stupid, but i asked him what his idea was on getting with other people during this break. He assumed we WOULD get with other people. that bothers me a lot. He said the only reason he would want to is because hes gonna be rushing a frat and theres going to be pressure and because out of like fear that im going to leave him in the end (or some sh*t like that). I'm just annoyed. am i justified in being annoyed... like i probably shouldnt have asked but i didn't think he'd want to be with anyone else. ah i dont know i just need someone to tell me if i'm crazy or not. i know tomorrow im going to explain why it makes me mad, but i dont really have a rationale. we WOULD be on a break.. so we would essentially be single.. but it'd only be like a month until i find out where i'm going and it could be with him...... IDK just need some words of wisdom. thanks
This is not a break, This is a break up
People who take breaks don't go off and see other people. Razhie is correct, You have no need to explain that you are angry as you are no longer together.
Hello,
I'm 19 years old and very confused. Just a week or two ago, I met a guy at a party who I seemed to like. That very same night, we ended up making out and exchanging numbers obviously. Throughout the week, we hungout many times and I guess he talked me into foreplay. A few days after that, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said no because it was moving to fast. Then literally two days later, he asked me again. I felt bad saying "no" , so I said yes and just thought I'd see how it goes. It's only been a few days but I feel as though I don't like him as much as I should. He's such a nice guy, but i feel as though I barely know him. I want to take it much slower, but I just don't know what exactly to say considering I accepted the relationship ( stupid of me). I hate to say it , but normally I like mean guys and he's just so nice to me and is all over me all the time. I wanna talk to him and see where it goes, but I don't think im ready for a full on relationship. HELP!
I'm going to be blunt
You met this guy at a party, You willingly made out with him and exchanged numbers. This right here could of given the guy the wrong impression.
If you don't want to be seen as easy, Then don't give a man any reason to think you are. I do however credit you for wanting to take the relationship slow and how you do, You need to just tell him how it is. "I am really into you but I really would like to slow things down and take it a day at a time" If the guy doesn't seem to want to go with that then clearly he didn't want a very serious relationship. If you don't want to be full on then I really think you might want to have the talk with him about taking it a day at time as that would technically be the best way to go. If you don't know him then slow it down and get to know him and they say....It takes at least 6 months to start to get to truly know someone. Talk to him
So ive been talking to this guy for a few months now, were really good friends, and hes nice and all.. he tried holding my hands a couple of times, really passionately, and never really said anything about it, hes also always contacting his ex -- they broke up because of religion because they know they can never be together ( thats not the point) my point is that, they KNOW they can never be together and they still talk from time to time, argue, and obviously still have feelings for eachother,now this boy has showed me he liked me so many times, hes the one who started calling me, texting me, asking me to call and text him, asking me to go out, and when i told him we were like brother and sister he got annoyed and told me to never say that again jokingly, but he meant it.. lately he hasnt really been calling me much, or texting me, we never went a day without talking to eachothher and now we can go for 3 days, my point is that, i dont want him to think im just some girl he can hold hands with and then forget me without even explaining why he did this. It was my mistake that i let him hold it, even though i tried letting go for the first few times he tried, but i went through a really bad break up and i was vulnerable, its a long story.. please dont judge me, i know it wasnt the right thing letting him, but i wanted to feel loved again. Im very upset with him because he out of the sudden decided to stop writing me much,stoped calling calling me, and he isnt the same with me as he was before ( sweet and such ) My sister thinks i should confront him when i talk to him online (because we dont see eachother much cause of school) and that i should ask him why he held my hand and acted that way if he was just going to back off, and to let him know that im not the kind of girl he can just do that to, now my other sister thinks i should cut contact with him and not say anything about it at all.. im torn in between the two, because i want to listen to my other sister and confront him but at the same time, do you know how akward our "friendship " would get?,, but dont i deserve the truth, the sister who told me to leave it alone thought i should leave it alone because she thinks i should have brought it up BEFORE at the time when he did it, not a few weeks later when i dont even see him that much anymore, but i wanna confront him, but i dont know if i should, and i need opinions on what i should do. because im really confused. I started to have mini feelings for him, and i feel very insulted that he just picks me up and drops me like that when he pleases. so please everyone, advise me cause i dont want to end up doing the wrong thing :) thank you in advance, and please no rude or harsh answers.
If the guy is still in contact with his ex, Then clearly he is not over her. Allowing him to hold your hand or be affectionate is only pretty much the beginning of being a doormat. If he was interested in you then he would be focused on you, He would be calling, texting and trying to make time to see you. If the guy isn't doing any of these things then you were just a girl on the sidelines. Maybe he was out to make his ex jealous, Fill a void of being alone etc. I really can tell you his exact intentions. To put it simple; Any guy/girl who is still contacting their ex shouldn't even be trying to be in a relationship. It's not fair too you, It's misleading and dishonest. I do agree with your sister, I think you should also cut contact with him as you are better then that. You deserve better and you most certainly can do better. Don't let some lonely guy try and use you especially one that is still hung on an ex!
Me and this girl really like each other and flirt a lot, but its almost impossible to communicate with her because she never responds to my texts. She tells me she loves me and cares about me a lot, but sometimes she will go weeks without talking to me. We saw each other 3 days ago when we went on a date, and really enjoyed ourselves, and afterwards I texted her like three times and she hasn't gotten back to me.
She has plenty of free time, and I know that she knows she can talk to me whenever she wants, she just chooses not to. It really irritates me because I value communication and she always does this to me. It really makes me worry that she doesn't like me all that much because I feel like a girl who really liked me would want to talk to me constantly. She tells me I'm hot and amazing but almost never talks to me. Whats up with that?
Its been like this for years before we even started dating, but now that we are dating it is 10x more frustrating because I don't know how to have a relationship with someone who doesn't talk to me that much. And when we are together and I bring this up she says shes really sorry and that she really needs to get better, but then she never does. But since I'm a guy I don't want to seem needy and clingy to her, so I'm hesitant to bring up how much it pisses me off...
What can I do?
If you are in a relationship and have no way of communicating with her, Then how do you expect this relationship to ever work out?? You are right, If you are going to be in a relationship with someone then they should expect that you are going to want to hear from them from time to time. If she can't seem to put in the effort to call you, text you and just let you know whats going on then she isn't very interested in putting in the effort to even make the relationship work period. Really, You would think being her boyfriend that you would be one of her main priorities.
If she can't seem to be on the same page as you, Then just let her go. Communication is a must in relationships and if she doesn't seem to want to put in her half then it's not worth it. You don't have to expect her to call you and text you 24.7 but it is only right from time to time. If you aren't happy, Then find someone else who will make you a priority. Not someone who just doesn't seem interested
Ok so I asked for advice before and I explained I was seeing a man who is with someone with a child and I told him how I feel and he told me he feels same but he can't leave his partner right now but he is gonna plz someone help I actually love him and as much as I wanna cut him out I can't x
He is never going to leave his partner, If he can't leave her then obviously this man still has feelings for her. You are being kept as a rebound, He wants both.
Do you really love him or do you love the attention he gives you? Seriously, You are basically allowing yourself to become a doormat. The man is already with someone and has a child involved. Anyone who is married/with someone is someone that is NOT available. If you want a real relationship then I suggest finding someone else who is not already involved. If he is willing to cheat on his partner that should tell you right there the man isn't really down to business about being serious with someone. Cut his card, You just do it. Don't answer his calls, text, facebook messages. The more you allow yourself to be in contact the more you will prolong your pain. There is nothing there with this man
I met a guy online about three years ago. I wasn't really intending to meet a guy but you know, things happen. I was in a good mood so I gave him my screenname. Normally, I'd talk to him a couple times before eventually we just didn't talk anymore. That didn't happen with him.
What happened was we continued to talk and after awhile he said he loved me... which freaked me out a bit. Fast forward some months and I've fallen in love with him too.
The thing is, there's this nagging in the back of my head that says I should not love a guy I've never even met, because it's not safe or whatever. I don't know. It's just that nagging.
I guess what I'm asking for is general advice because I'm so conflicted right now.
If it helps any, I'm 17 (almost 18) and in the USA. He's 21 (almost 22) and lives in the UAE.
You are not in love with him, You are in love with the attention he is giving you. It is impossible to fall in love with someone over the internet, You have never seen this person and you've never met this person.
1, Anyone can be convincing over the internet, People lie ALL the time. I'm sure if I tried hard enough I could be quite a catch too.
2, Online is the WORST way to meet someone, If you are looking for a real relationship then I suggest you find someone in person. The internet is nothing but a fantasy land
The nagging thing in the back of your head is likely your gut telling you something. What it all comes down too is you do not know this person, You only know what he wants you to know and what he tells you. Do you even know if anything he tells you is true? No.
If you say you are in "love" with this guy you met over the internet then I'm going to have to say.....You trust too easily. Seriously, Meet someone in your local area that you know. Not some random guy that could end up being anyone.
My husband and I just got married in October and he looked really young he said he was 22 but I looked on his profile and it said he was 42. I'm 19 so he's old enough to be my dad almost. He's been married before and he has 4 kids but his wife and kids left him and never came back to him. I know he's too old for me but I love him and I don't wanna leave him even if he lied to me. I asked him if his profile was right he said yes. Since he lied to me what do I do about it ? Should I keep him or devorce him ? But I hate to leave him he's so sweet and caring.
I agree with Adviceman
You should divorce him, Lying about your age especially a 20 age difference is a huge flag. This man married you and led you to believe he was someone that he's not. This man led you on, The whole thing was pretty much a lie basically and it's sad that if you didn't do the snooping you likely would of still been convinced he was 22 years old. Grab the divorce papers and leave his ass, If you don't god knows what else he will lie about. Also, For all you know he could of lied about other things. Honesty is HUGE in a relationship if you can't be honest then why the hell keep someone around?
The man took advantage of you hun, You deserve better than that.
Im nine years old and im a girl how do i get someone to have sex with me
The legal age to consent to sex is 16, Having sex at your age is considered rape.
You are WAY to young to even be thinking of having sex. Are you ready to raise a child on your own? Seriously, Wait until you hit your mid teen years. Sex is something that should be with that special person you can see yourself with forever not some random person. WAIT
My boyfriend an I have been together for a year and a half now. He can be very sweet and thoughtful. He always picks me up from work when I work late, which is a lot. A few weeks ago he said he was not going to pick me up just to see how I was going to react. Pretty much if I would get mad at him or still act lovey dovey. I was still the same. He is now complaining about picking me up and that pretty much he can't do it. I understand because its not his responsibility. He says the only time I am happy with him is when he comes to get me. Which is not true. When we hang out I always go to him. I am the one who always texts him. I call him on my break during work. He never calls me or texts me during his break at work. He makes me cry. Lately he has been acting rude. When I'm excited to see him I always want to hug him and he brushes me off and says he needs to do something first before. Even kissing him is something that has to wait.We play fight a lot but he takes it too far like putting his foot on my face, spitting on me, taking snot out of his nose and trying to put it in my mouth. It is all so disrespectful. I love this guy with all my heart. I just need to know if I'm doing wrong or what is going on because love is so blind and its nice to get a different perspective. Thank you/
Your boyfriend sounds immature, Do you two spend all your time together? This could be a sign you too need to take some time apart.
Sometimes the best way to keep a spark is to give each other space. Stop texting him on your break, Stop acting so excited....See how he reacts from it. If he seems to be distant with you, Then maybe he is either loosing interest or clearly is no longer interested.
I would probably have a conversation with him and talk to him about it, If you want the truth you gotta dig for it.
what is a cute nicknames for a boy named matt
What exactly is the point in pet names? That's embarrassing to man.
my friends hair started falling out after she started swimming in the pool, she dyed her hair
Somebody from a beauty shop told her that her hair is falling out because she dyed it and swam a lot, so the chlorine ate her hair up. Is the chlorine the reason why her hair is falling out?
Very well could be
Chlorine is a chemical, It is usually recommended to wait at least 24-48 hours after you've dyed your hair. If you jump into a pool when you just bleached your hair, Of course you can expect it to turn green. Same thing with chlorine it can turn green or fall out. Tell your friend to stay out of the pool for at least 48 hours.
so this guy i went out with last year broke up with me and no he likes me but he is not sure i changed bacause i was a lousy girlfriend and i have to find a way to show him i love him and that i have changed in like 4 days what should i do?? i like him alot...
Okay
I am going to be blunt
You can try talking to the guy but a year is an awful long time to just try and appear back into someone's life. You left out detail-- Are you two speaking? Friends?
You don't want to seem like you are desperate nor just out to get attention. If you want him to see you've changed for the better then I suggest not trying to hard. You can chat up a casual conversation but don't come across as desperate or needy. Also, How do you know the guy doesn't have someone? Move on with his life etc?.......Make sure he is available before you go and try to talk to him. If he is with someone else, Then clearly he is over you. Also, People can't just change in 4 days, It's impossible. If you try and win him back when he is already with someone then you are only showing him that you are nobody but the same old person he previously dated. Also, To reappear randomly might give the guy the impression that you've been stalking him. Not trying to be an ass but I'm pointing it out from someone else view. What you said above sounds desperate and needy...
i am 21
My past boyfriend fingerin me but i have no bleeding next month i will marry so i want to know that can he know it in any process?
You are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse.
a cupple weeks ago i had sex with a 15 year old, now hes telling everyone that i was good so other people have came up to me and asked to sleep with them im almost 14 my older sister said that i should becuz im atlesst good at it but i dont want to be known as a slut. i mean i kind of want to but i know that sex is only for that one guy but how do i find him in this mess?
The boy went and disrespected you, Someone you have sex with should be someone you trust.
Having sex with boys because you want too, Is only giving yourself a bad name. If you don't want be a slut in others peoples eyes then have self respect for yourself. As long as you allow yourself to have a bad word, Your rep is going to be known as the girl who sleeps with everyone. That is not a rep you want to give yourself especially at such a young age.
Seriously, Shit can the guy. You were obviously taken advantage of. A guy that respects you and wants to be with you actually takes your feelings into consideration. He is immature and childish
I'm a fifteen year old female and i am currently taking celexa and seroquil for my severe depression. i was talking to someone else who also has depression and he says he doesn't take medications and only takes vitamins and exercises so that he doesn't feel that way anymore. is it possible for me to try this? i'm not fond of the idea of taking celexa and seroquil because of the side effects, such as defects in a child that i might have in the future, and i really want to have kids.
I was on cymbalta for a few years and I one day told myself I didn't need them because I started to feel awesome after taking them for a few months. You know what happened when I tried cold turkey? Put it this way, Side effects are a bitch.
I went into a seizure and one nasty one that almost ended me up in the hospital. My blood pressure dropped, I got the cold sweats and I was nauseous. The worst thing you can do is play cold turkey with certain medications.
People who take Anti depressants generally feel they no longer need medication after a short period of taking them. You were prescribed medication for a reason, You need them. My sister was also on depressive medication and I don't recall her having any problems at all having children as today she has 2 boys. You are 15, Right now you shouldn't even be thinking of having children.
If the defects of medication are a concern to you then you should talk to your psychiatrist about it. I do NOT recommend just not taking your medication because you don't want to them. Seriously, Talk to a doctor.
On December 30th 2011, someone from a dating site that I am on asked me out. We went to dinner, and hung out and we immediately hit it off very well. We’ll call him Connor. Connor seemed like a great guy. So that night, against everything that I believed in, I asked him to my family New Year’s Eve party at my house for the following night. He said yes, and the next night he came. Connor did not consume a drop of alcohol the entire night. My family loved him and so did all of our friends. That night, as he got into his car to drive home, I told him to call me when he got home (which was an hour drive) so that I know he made it there ohkay. I tried calling him, and did not hear from him until 4pm the following day. He told me that he had gotten cut off by a drunk driver, drove his car up a median, and had to wait for AAA to tow his car to his parents’ house. His parents were out of town for the weekend. He called me frantic, and said he didn’t know how he’s get to work in the morning without a car, and that his parents were going to have to cut their vacation short to come and bring him money. I asked him how much he needed, he said $180, so I gave it to him, and we both agreed that he would pay me back the next day when his direct deposit hit his account. That was Sunday. I did not hear from him again until I believe Thursday. He called me saying that he had been in and out of the hospital, getting surgery for pinched nerves in his shoulder and he asked if I could come pick him up. He told me that he had the money he owed me. So I drove up there, picked him up, and he handed me a check for $410.98, written to me from his aunt. He asked me to deposit it into my account, and give him the remainder. This request struck me as odd, but I did it. I expressed to him, at this time, that I was upset that he hadn’t gotten in touch with me earlier. On January 10th, he called me at 2pm and said he has a surprise for me: he was going to take me to the Jets/Bruins game in Boston. He knows I’m a huge fan so I immediately said yes. He asked me to bring $280 in cash, so that we could pick up the tickets from someone from ACE tickets that he was meeting, and that we would then have dinner with his family at a restaurant and his father would reimburse me then. So, I drove an hour+ to Boston, picked him up, and drove him to the supposed location of these tickets. I handed him the $280, and he said he’s be right back in 5 min. I waited two hours, he never came back. I’m not familiar with the Boston area, so I panicked and called him quite a few times. He answered for the first hour, and kept saying that he’s 5 min away .. but he never came back. For the last hour, he stopped answering his phone, so I just went home; out of the cash, and out of the tickets. I have not heard from this guy since. I have tried texting and calling him. I don’t have an address for him. All I have is the address for his aunt that was written on the check. My friend’s uncle in a police officer and said that there is absolutely nothing that we can do because its “his word against mine.” But I was hoping if any of you could find something in this story to help bring this jerk to justice, I would really appreciate it! Thank you for reading, I know this was lengthy!
The guy is taking advantage of you, Clearly he isn't interested in the relationship and is making up excuses. When you willingly give a guy money especially someone like that they will expect it more and more out of you.
1, Boston can be quiet scary if you don't know your way around. I lived there for 5 years and I still had my days where I was lost! I don't live that far away still but when I visit I need to bring a tourist map.
2, You met the guy off a dating site, That is probably one of the worse ways to meet someone. Anyone can lie, Anyone can come across as charming etc. People that are manipulative arrogant assholes are usually the best people to put on a "charming" act.
You were scammed, You learned the hard the way. Hopefully for future references you never give someone your money. It should of been an alarm going off in your head when he asked you to bring so much money to pay for tickets. If it was his surprise then HE should of been the one to buy them.
December 30th was not that long ago, From what you have written you were too easy to trust him. Trust is something that needs to be earned not given.
This guy is sketchy, Take the lesson as a hard one learned and stay away from dating sites. If you are looking to meet someone the best way generally is through a mutual friend that you trust enough. This guy was basically a stranger, It sucks I know but look at this way.....It could of been a lot worse. There is no way to bring this guy to "justice" you had no written contract so therefore you have no proof he scammed you. If your friend's Uncle really wants to dig dirt then run a background check on the guy and see if you can pull up any information. However, Don't hold your breath on anything happening.....
To bad because I love the Bruins too!
i am 14 and my bf is almost 14. we have not tlked in bout a week. i feel like he is trying to avoid me. wat do i do?? any body have any advice??
If he has been avoiding you for a week then likely he is trying to drop a hint that he isn't interested. To bad the little boy doesn't have the courage to do it the mature way as nothing is uncool leaving someone hanging around. Break up with him