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We are on a break, but the thought of my boyfriend being with someone else makes me mad! Am I right to be mad, even though I made the decision?
Im applying to colleges, and soon i have to make a decision. me and my boyfriend of a year and a half are taking a break until i decide on a college, and if i end up in the school he attends, we will probably get back together. I just need a clear head for my decision. It may be stupid, but i asked him what his idea was on getting with other people during this break. He assumed we WOULD get with other people. that bothers me a lot. He said the only reason he would want to is because hes gonna be rushing a frat and theres going to be pressure and because out of like fear that im going to leave him in the end (or some sh*t like that). I'm just annoyed. am i justified in being annoyed... like i probably shouldnt have asked but i didn't think he'd want to be with anyone else. ah i dont know i just need someone to tell me if i'm crazy or not. i know tomorrow im going to explain why it makes me mad, but i dont really have a rationale. we WOULD be on a break.. so we would essentially be single.. but it'd only be like a month until i find out where i'm going and it could be with him...... IDK just need some words of wisdom. thanks
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This is not a break, This is a break up
People who take breaks don't go off and see other people. Razhie is correct, You have no need to explain that you are angry as you are no longer together.
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That's not a break, that is being broken up.
Plain as that. If your 'break' means seeing other people, then you are NOT together. There is no gray area here. You are not in a relationship. You are both single. No point in pretending otherwise.
Being 'on a break' can be taking some time apart, to work on yourself and figure out what you want. But it can't mean being 'not on a break' with other people. You are either together or you aren't. If he assuming that he'll get with other people, then you aren't together.
Don't explain that it makes you mad. You don't need to 'share your feelings'. You need to call a spade a spade.
What he is talking about is not 'a break' its a 'break up'.
If you both want to be together, then be together. If you don't, break up.
If he wants to break up if you don't go to the same school as him, you might want to seriously think about why he wants to stay together - but only if you are at the same school.
That's immature an wishy-washy.
He might just be scarred and confused, but his suggestion just doesn't make any sense. That's not about how you FEEL, that's about basic logic.
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A break is essentially a breka up!
A lot of people have various definitions of a break, but thats my definition of it. What some couples do is they make rules to follow on the break like what can they do and what can't they do. Some may argue you that if you are the one to put your relationship on a break then you can't really be mad at him for going to be with other people. I can understand why you would be upset and why you would want him to stay single. Maybe sit with him and talk about this and talk and out with him see how he feels about it. You never know until you talk to him or maybe you need to figure things out and make up your mind. You are basically asking him to wait until you figure things out and that in a way isn't fair. I say talk to him and figure things out!
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