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Friends with benefits???
I have been best friends with this guy for three years. He's my rock, he gets me through everything. We text everyday and hangout every weekend. I have no romantic feelings for him, I think. All I know is I wanna hook up with him sooooooo bad. He's expressed how he doesn't want another relationship for the rest of highschool but that he'd really like a f*ck buddy. I wanna volunteer! Haha but how do I do this without making things AWKARD? I really don't think it'll ruin friendship. We've both admitted were extremely attracted to each other. And I really just want a no strings attached kinda thing. Help?? (I'm sixteen, girl. He's 18, boy).
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There are a number of things wrong with what you are thinking.
First: From a legal standpoint you could get him in a world of trouble by having sex with you. Depending on the laws in your state you may be below the age of consent. That means even if you have consensual sex with him. By law you are unable to give consent so he can be charged with statutory rape. The only difference between Rape and statutory rape is a legal definition of consent by a minor. Minors cannot consent to sex. Some jealous friend or do good-er reports you two and he goes to jail.
Second: Sometimes friendships are meant to be just that. When friendships go beyond to what you are calling f*ck buddies' the intimacy of the relationship interferes with the friendship. Once you take that step their is no turning back. You have been there. You have had the intercourse and that cannot be erased. For whatever reasons your relationship is forever changed.
You say this boy is your rock, your confidant, your hang buddy. All that changes when you bring sex into the relationship. It has to for it is too intimate regardless of how free and easy you want it to be. The raw facts of sex are being naked with one another and one penetrating the other. It does not get any more intimate then that. When intimacy is involved relationships change.
It is possible to remain friends. It is also possible that one partner wants a deeper relationship after being intimate and the other doesn't see it that way. Then the friendship does not survive.
My advice is to think twice before offering to be his f*ck buddy, then rethink you decision again.
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This is a bad idea. First off, if you and this boy have sex, its known as rape. Just because he is an adult and you are a minor.
You will do what you want to do, but let me tell you something from experience. I was 15 and I was bestfriends with a 17 year old boy. We were inseperable. We were so attracted to each other, but feelings weren't there.
So we became friends with benefits; the first time we did something sexual; I began to develop feelings for him. When he started liking another girl, I got so jealous.
I'm not saying you will develop feelings for him, but there is a chance. Your not even sure if there are romantic feelings; you question yourself.
Figure that out before you do anything.
If you realize that you don't have any, than go for it. Like I said, you will do what you want to do, and the only thing I can do is assist you and help you with your decision.
So, casually bring up him wanting a fuck buddy,
and be like "You know, I've been thinkin, and I want the same thing. Something casual with no strings attach" wait for what he says, and than say "We should be each others since we are already comfortable with each other."
and see what he says; if he is against it, don't take it to heart. Just be like, why? Once he answers it, be like 'I understand. If you ever change your mind, I'm here ;)'
I hope I helped. If you need anything else, please don't heistate to inbox me.
Good Luck!
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