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Girl I like SO bad at texting me back.
Me and this girl really like each other and flirt a lot, but its almost impossible to communicate with her because she never responds to my texts. She tells me she loves me and cares about me a lot, but sometimes she will go weeks without talking to me. We saw each other 3 days ago when we went on a date, and really enjoyed ourselves, and afterwards I texted her like three times and she hasn't gotten back to me.
She has plenty of free time, and I know that she knows she can talk to me whenever she wants, she just chooses not to. It really irritates me because I value communication and she always does this to me. It really makes me worry that she doesn't like me all that much because I feel like a girl who really liked me would want to talk to me constantly. She tells me I'm hot and amazing but almost never talks to me. Whats up with that?
Its been like this for years before we even started dating, but now that we are dating it is 10x more frustrating because I don't know how to have a relationship with someone who doesn't talk to me that much. And when we are together and I bring this up she says shes really sorry and that she really needs to get better, but then she never does. But since I'm a guy I don't want to seem needy and clingy to her, so I'm hesitant to bring up how much it pisses me off...
What can I do?
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I would disagree somewhat with Zane's excellent advice. You see, as a woman who hates texting and thinks that it's the most likely cause for the inevitable collapse of society, I see where your girl could be coming from.
Texting is great for some things. "Hey, I'm at the mall and can't find you" or "I don't know where our English class is" are both fine reasons to text people. Texting is not a great vehicle for getting a relationship going. It's lazy. "hey how r u had fun lol" is not exactly the epitome of romance. And then when you do respond to a text, more come. And more, and more, and you're expected to answer each within a certain time frame or you're a terrible rude person. I hate it. Maybe she does too.
Look. You value communication. You're clearly quite articulate. Try picking up that phone and using it for its original intended purpose. Talk to the lady. Ask how her day went, say cute things, then you can both go on your merry ways. Then, if she's still incommunicado, follow Zane's advice. But don't give up on her because she's reluctant to text.
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If you are in a relationship and have no way of communicating with her, Then how do you expect this relationship to ever work out?? You are right, If you are going to be in a relationship with someone then they should expect that you are going to want to hear from them from time to time. If she can't seem to put in the effort to call you, text you and just let you know whats going on then she isn't very interested in putting in the effort to even make the relationship work period. Really, You would think being her boyfriend that you would be one of her main priorities.
If she can't seem to be on the same page as you, Then just let her go. Communication is a must in relationships and if she doesn't seem to want to put in her half then it's not worth it. You don't have to expect her to call you and text you 24.7 but it is only right from time to time. If you aren't happy, Then find someone else who will make you a priority. Not someone who just doesn't seem interested
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