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His name was Connor, he was a conman...
On December 30th 2011, someone from a dating site that I am on asked me out. We went to dinner, and hung out and we immediately hit it off very well. We’ll call him Connor. Connor seemed like a great guy. So that night, against everything that I believed in, I asked him to my family New Year’s Eve party at my house for the following night. He said yes, and the next night he came. Connor did not consume a drop of alcohol the entire night. My family loved him and so did all of our friends. That night, as he got into his car to drive home, I told him to call me when he got home (which was an hour drive) so that I know he made it there ohkay. I tried calling him, and did not hear from him until 4pm the following day. He told me that he had gotten cut off by a drunk driver, drove his car up a median, and had to wait for AAA to tow his car to his parents’ house. His parents were out of town for the weekend. He called me frantic, and said he didn’t know how he’s get to work in the morning without a car, and that his parents were going to have to cut their vacation short to come and bring him money. I asked him how much he needed, he said $180, so I gave it to him, and we both agreed that he would pay me back the next day when his direct deposit hit his account. That was Sunday. I did not hear from him again until I believe Thursday. He called me saying that he had been in and out of the hospital, getting surgery for pinched nerves in his shoulder and he asked if I could come pick him up. He told me that he had the money he owed me. So I drove up there, picked him up, and he handed me a check for $410.98, written to me from his aunt. He asked me to deposit it into my account, and give him the remainder. This request struck me as odd, but I did it. I expressed to him, at this time, that I was upset that he hadn’t gotten in touch with me earlier. On January 10th, he called me at 2pm and said he has a surprise for me: he was going to take me to the Jets/Bruins game in Boston. He knows I’m a huge fan so I immediately said yes. He asked me to bring $280 in cash, so that we could pick up the tickets from someone from ACE tickets that he was meeting, and that we would then have dinner with his family at a restaurant and his father would reimburse me then. So, I drove an hour+ to Boston, picked him up, and drove him to the supposed location of these tickets. I handed him the $280, and he said he’s be right back in 5 min. I waited two hours, he never came back. I’m not familiar with the Boston area, so I panicked and called him quite a few times. He answered for the first hour, and kept saying that he’s 5 min away .. but he never came back. For the last hour, he stopped answering his phone, so I just went home; out of the cash, and out of the tickets. I have not heard from this guy since. I have tried texting and calling him. I don’t have an address for him. All I have is the address for his aunt that was written on the check. My friend’s uncle in a police officer and said that there is absolutely nothing that we can do because its “his word against mine.” But I was hoping if any of you could find something in this story to help bring this jerk to justice, I would really appreciate it! Thank you for reading, I know this was lengthy!
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you met a guy off the computer and had one date. before inviting ANY person you do not know into your home several dates should be a prerequisite and at least some basic background info. you even said this was against your better judgement. you could have put your family and friends at risk..he could have staked out your house for a future break-in.
if he really did have a car accident that is unfortunate. but if he had a phone to call AAA then he had a phone to call you so you wouldn't worry. waiting until 4:00 pm the next day to contact you...uncool. as for his parents cutting thier vacation short to bring him money...there's this wonderful invention...it's called western union or money transfer..he's full of sh*t.
offering somebody money so early on in any kind of relationship is very unwise. but since you did....you did. it was understood that it was to be paid back the next day and it was not and on top of that you didn't hear anything until five days later? that is when ALL ties should have been cut. common sense people...common sense
in and out of the hospital..blah,blah,blah....bullsh*t...excuses.
you deposited the check his aunt gave him to repay you. thats all fine and well. but any amount above that payed to him was not wise...what if the check bounced? and besides..what does he think you are?...a bank?
and do we even need to go into the boston trip? i hate to say it but that was YOUR stupidity. I know this sounds harsh, but why sugarcoat it?
you probably don't have a legal ground to stand on but i would AT THE LEAST write to his aunt and tell her what a worthless piece of sh*t her nephew is..but i have a feeling she may already know.
listen sweetie, we've all been had at one time or another...that's the way of life...but be smart..and take this as a learning experience to never let this happen again.
and oh yeah honey, trust me, what goes around...comes around. you cant do people wrong like that and not pay for it. someday, somehow in someway he will get his.
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You are the victim of a con artist. As far as seeing your money again that will never happen. What you can do is help bring him to justice by filing a police report. He coned you and I'm sure he has coned and will con others. By filing a police report you will help the police build a case against for when they do catch him.
Prisons are filled with guys like him who think they are smarter than everyone including the police. Eventually they make a mistake. When they do police reports like the one you should file give evidence to his criminal activities.
Call your local police department and ask to speak to a detective in the crimes against persons squad or robbery division. Beat cops don't get involved in this type of crime. They take reports and forward them to the detectives so as far as they are concerned nothing happens with them. But things do happen; cases are built and when they have enough to charge someone with they do. So file the report.
There is a slim chance that Conor may never get caught or he will get caught in another part of the country and you may never know. Still it is important to file the police report.
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As much as I hate to say it I think you should just take this as a lessoned learned. It's true what the police officer said to you it's your word against his. He could come back and say you stole money from him or you owed him money.
I was in a position like this at one point with a girl I concerned to be a good friend. One day she calls me on the phone hysterical and says she needs money. I feel bad so I lent her $160. She told me she would pay me back. She hasn't paid me back and so as much as I want that money it's better off to forget it and forget her.
Don't contact him and just take this as a lessoned learned and don't let anyone get money from you unless you really know them!
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The guy is taking advantage of you, Clearly he isn't interested in the relationship and is making up excuses. When you willingly give a guy money especially someone like that they will expect it more and more out of you.
1, Boston can be quiet scary if you don't know your way around. I lived there for 5 years and I still had my days where I was lost! I don't live that far away still but when I visit I need to bring a tourist map.
2, You met the guy off a dating site, That is probably one of the worse ways to meet someone. Anyone can lie, Anyone can come across as charming etc. People that are manipulative arrogant assholes are usually the best people to put on a "charming" act.
You were scammed, You learned the hard the way. Hopefully for future references you never give someone your money. It should of been an alarm going off in your head when he asked you to bring so much money to pay for tickets. If it was his surprise then HE should of been the one to buy them.
December 30th was not that long ago, From what you have written you were too easy to trust him. Trust is something that needs to be earned not given.
This guy is sketchy, Take the lesson as a hard one learned and stay away from dating sites. If you are looking to meet someone the best way generally is through a mutual friend that you trust enough. This guy was basically a stranger, It sucks I know but look at this way.....It could of been a lot worse. There is no way to bring this guy to "justice" you had no written contract so therefore you have no proof he scammed you. If your friend's Uncle really wants to dig dirt then run a background check on the guy and see if you can pull up any information. However, Don't hold your breath on anything happening.....
To bad because I love the Bruins too!
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