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ok so now i need more advice x
Ok so I asked for advice before and I explained I was seeing a man who is with someone with a child and I told him how I feel and he told me he feels same but he can't leave his partner right now but he is gonna plz someone help I actually love him and as much as I wanna cut him out I can't x
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He is never going to leave his partner, If he can't leave her then obviously this man still has feelings for her. You are being kept as a rebound, He wants both.
Do you really love him or do you love the attention he gives you? Seriously, You are basically allowing yourself to become a doormat. The man is already with someone and has a child involved. Anyone who is married/with someone is someone that is NOT available. If you want a real relationship then I suggest finding someone else who is not already involved. If he is willing to cheat on his partner that should tell you right there the man isn't really down to business about being serious with someone. Cut his card, You just do it. Don't answer his calls, text, facebook messages. The more you allow yourself to be in contact the more you will prolong your pain. There is nothing there with this man
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If he cannot leave his partner now, then when?! I think it's a front for saying "I don't want to leave my partner, but I still want to be intimate with you". He want his cake, and wishes to eat said cake also.
You however, have to be strong here! You need to weigh up to consequences!
Do you want to have the man that you think you 'love'. He will not leave his partner and his child, and will carry on playing around with you. In the event that he does leave his partner and child, you will be responsible for the break up of a family. And what is to say he won't cheat on you with someone else? I mean, he did it to his partner. I'm sure he loves her. AND he has a child. Why not to you?
You seem to be trying to justify what he is doing, by changing the situation in your mind:
"he can't leave his partner right now but he is gonna" --Why can he not leave his partner now? He is going to? Why? How? When?
"I actually love him" --you may think you love him, but do you really? If your relationship has been purely sexual, what will be the situation when you two are together and the sex isn't as often?
What I am saying is, this will not work. As hard as it may be to cut him out, it needs to be done. We all have to make hard decisions, but a few weeks/months down the line you will realise what you did was right.
I don't know your age, but if you are old enough to have an affair, you must be old enough to recognise your responsibility. One that is undeniable.
Before you make a decision though, think about it rationally. Does he ACTUALLY love you? Do you love him? REALLY? Are you sure its just not a case of wanting what you can't have? Think about it as an outsider looking in.
Good luck.
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