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My husband lied to me ?
My husband and I just got married in October and he looked really young he said he was 22 but I looked on his profile and it said he was 42. I'm 19 so he's old enough to be my dad almost. He's been married before and he has 4 kids but his wife and kids left him and never came back to him. I know he's too old for me but I love him and I don't wanna leave him even if he lied to me. I asked him if his profile was right he said yes. Since he lied to me what do I do about it ? Should I keep him or devorce him ? But I hate to leave him he's so sweet and caring.
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Well I didnt lie, but maybe he wanted u so much he elt he wouldnt have a chance otherwise..
I'm 44 my wife is 30. If hes not lieing to you about other stuff and ur both in love, then stay!
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I agree with Adviceman
You should divorce him, Lying about your age especially a 20 age difference is a huge flag. This man married you and led you to believe he was someone that he's not. This man led you on, The whole thing was pretty much a lie basically and it's sad that if you didn't do the snooping you likely would of still been convinced he was 22 years old. Grab the divorce papers and leave his ass, If you don't god knows what else he will lie about. Also, For all you know he could of lied about other things. Honesty is HUGE in a relationship if you can't be honest then why the hell keep someone around?
The man took advantage of you hun, You deserve better than that.
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First: Any marriage founded on a lie is a marriage with quicksand as a foundation. It is bound to fail in the future. This is not an if, it is a when.
Second: My feelings are that this man is looking or looked for someone to marry that he could have control over. Having had his first wife leave him and take his children with her. Not knowing your meaning of;"never came back to him. Does this mean he has not ever seen his children again? My feeling is he is determined not to let this happen again.
By marrying someone as young as you he can mold and shape you into the wife he desires and can control. He is more mature and more worldly than you are. The fact that he is old enough to be your father and you now acknowledge that fact insulates that feeling for me. He will for ever be a father figure for you and to you. Here again that control issue is forefront in my mind.
Neither I nor anyone else make a decision for you we can only offer advise. It is my feeling that this marriage is one as I said that is doomed to fail. When it does fail will you be strong enough to leave? Will you be hurt physically before you find away to leave?
My advice is to talk to your parents and tell them what you have told us. As my advice is to leave now while you can, while your parents and family are able to support you in leaving.
He has already lied to you on one big issue that you know of. How many more lies are out their that you don't know of? How many more lies will he tell you in the future.
You love him now, that love will I'm very sure soon turn to despair and hurt. Get out now while you have a support system and are strong enough to do so.
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Sweet heart, you are wayyyyy too young to be married and especially to some old dude. I can say that because I am 42, and I would have nothing in common with a 19 year old. This guys is kinda skeezy. He may be sweet and caring now, but he lied to you!! I don't get how you could have believed a 42 y/o man was 22. Did he look that good? He may be supporting you, so it may seem like a good life, but you are way too young to settle down. Go to school. Have some fun. And when the time comes for you to get serious, choose a man close to your age that loves you for more than just being a beautiful, young, woman. We all age, looks fade, this old fool will replace you. Trust me.
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Fist think of it. He lied to you in the first place so he's most likly to do it again. Why do you think he would lie to you? It's not ok to lie about things especially to te person you love. Sure, age doesn't affect love sometime but hell yeah, lying does. So if you dont want to be lied to in the future divorce him. Now sweetie i know it's going to be hard but do what YOU think is right? Do you think he'll lie to you later in life possibly about super important stuff? Why do you think hs wife and kids left him? This is a hard desission! But if he wont lie, still cares for you, and is sweet maybe try continueing the marrige. It's all up to you. Just think about it 1st. Also feel free to ask me anything if you need more advice/help on this.
Hope I helped :)
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