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Opinions please, so i know what to do!
So ive been talking to this guy for a few months now, were really good friends, and hes nice and all.. he tried holding my hands a couple of times, really passionately, and never really said anything about it, hes also always contacting his ex -- they broke up because of religion because they know they can never be together ( thats not the point) my point is that, they KNOW they can never be together and they still talk from time to time, argue, and obviously still have feelings for eachother,now this boy has showed me he liked me so many times, hes the one who started calling me, texting me, asking me to call and text him, asking me to go out, and when i told him we were like brother and sister he got annoyed and told me to never say that again jokingly, but he meant it.. lately he hasnt really been calling me much, or texting me, we never went a day without talking to eachothher and now we can go for 3 days, my point is that, i dont want him to think im just some girl he can hold hands with and then forget me without even explaining why he did this. It was my mistake that i let him hold it, even though i tried letting go for the first few times he tried, but i went through a really bad break up and i was vulnerable, its a long story.. please dont judge me, i know it wasnt the right thing letting him, but i wanted to feel loved again. Im very upset with him because he out of the sudden decided to stop writing me much,stoped calling calling me, and he isnt the same with me as he was before ( sweet and such ) My sister thinks i should confront him when i talk to him online (because we dont see eachother much cause of school) and that i should ask him why he held my hand and acted that way if he was just going to back off, and to let him know that im not the kind of girl he can just do that to, now my other sister thinks i should cut contact with him and not say anything about it at all.. im torn in between the two, because i want to listen to my other sister and confront him but at the same time, do you know how akward our "friendship " would get?,, but dont i deserve the truth, the sister who told me to leave it alone thought i should leave it alone because she thinks i should have brought it up BEFORE at the time when he did it, not a few weeks later when i dont even see him that much anymore, but i wanna confront him, but i dont know if i should, and i need opinions on what i should do. because im really confused. I started to have mini feelings for him, and i feel very insulted that he just picks me up and drops me like that when he pleases. so please everyone, advise me cause i dont want to end up doing the wrong thing :) thank you in advance, and please no rude or harsh answers.
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If the guy is still in contact with his ex, Then clearly he is not over her. Allowing him to hold your hand or be affectionate is only pretty much the beginning of being a doormat. If he was interested in you then he would be focused on you, He would be calling, texting and trying to make time to see you. If the guy isn't doing any of these things then you were just a girl on the sidelines. Maybe he was out to make his ex jealous, Fill a void of being alone etc. I really can tell you his exact intentions. To put it simple; Any guy/girl who is still contacting their ex shouldn't even be trying to be in a relationship. It's not fair too you, It's misleading and dishonest. I do agree with your sister, I think you should also cut contact with him as you are better then that. You deserve better and you most certainly can do better. Don't let some lonely guy try and use you especially one that is still hung on an ex!
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