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only 13 had sex with a 15 year old boy... he told his friends i was GOOD so now they are asking for sex to and i kinda want to, but i don't wanna be a slut either
a cupple weeks ago i had sex with a 15 year old, now hes telling everyone that i was good so other people have came up to me and asked to sleep with them im almost 14 my older sister said that i should becuz im atlesst good at it but i dont want to be known as a slut. i mean i kind of want to but i know that sex is only for that one guy but how do i find him in this mess?
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Hey! It's not just guys who get obsessed with sex in their teens. You say yourself you 'kinda want to'. I think you'll meet a lot more guys before you find 'the one'. Relax, move on. Do what you feel is right. Any help?
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I tell this to every girl your age that writes to us who is thinking of having sex for whatever reason. Not only are you to young but here is what the boy is thinking.
The boy will tell you whatever you want to hear to get you to have sex with him. Teenage boys do not know the difference between lust and love. They have been hard wired since puberty to find a willing girl to have sex with them as they need to release the pent up sexual desire brought on by the hormones that puberty bring.
Teenage boys cannot keep a secret, as you have found out. They have to tell someone they had sex. They generally tell their best friend and ask that friend to keep the secret. He tells another best friend and before you know it you have a reputation around school as being easy.
You should not being having sex at your age in the first place. You may be able to have the physical act of sex but from a maturity stand point you and your body need to gain more maturity before you have adult sexual relations.
For a boy at this age sex is a mechanical act. To be gross a knot hole in a piece of wood will do in a pinch; anything to get off. There is no love involved. If the girl gets to clingy afterwards she will find herself alone as he will go hunting for someone else.
For the girl sex has to have some feeling of love for sex is more intimate for her. When she finds out that love was not there she feels used, as you may be feeling now.
You are not a slut. You made a bad choice, one you can fix just buy telling whoever new comes on to you that dating is fine but there will be no sex. See how long he hangs around once he finds there is no sex to be had. Also try dating boys your own age. That way you can both explore and mature together. Boys 2 years older than are more mature than you, are going to be looking harder for sex and take advantage of you more than a boy your own age.
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The boy went and disrespected you, Someone you have sex with should be someone you trust.
Having sex with boys because you want too, Is only giving yourself a bad name. If you don't want be a slut in others peoples eyes then have self respect for yourself. As long as you allow yourself to have a bad word, Your rep is going to be known as the girl who sleeps with everyone. That is not a rep you want to give yourself especially at such a young age.
Seriously, Shit can the guy. You were obviously taken advantage of. A guy that respects you and wants to be with you actually takes your feelings into consideration. He is immature and childish
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It's easy to find a great guy: whenever a random dude approaches you and asks you to have sex with him, run in the opposite direction.
Having sex is not a way to get peoples' respect or adoration. When you define yourself by something like how many guys want to sleep with you, you're disrespecting yourself. You have a million other qualities that are far more important than your genitals.
Don't listen to your sister. Seriously. I'm an older sister myself, and I can't imagine ever telling my sister to sleep with random guys because she's good at sex.
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