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OK this is for everyone!
I have never had a boy friend! Is that bad?? And I want one, but no one wants to go w/ me! Cause i am a tomboy! I like to skate and stuff like that! I personally think i imtate boys! Cause i can shoot a ball into a basketball and i play sports! Is this a bad thing? I am 13 and i have a lot of boy friends! I have one that is my bff and i like hima lot is that ok? Plzz i rate high!!

Confused

It's ok. Don't change who you are for a boy though. If you are a tomboy one day you'll find a guy that wants a tomboy. Everyone is differnet. Sooner or later you will find that one speacial person. I hope I helped! ♥

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hi,
people sometimes say lamo to me when im online. i have no clue what that means. could someone clear this up for me? thanx

Laughing my ass off.

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Does anyone know where i can get a cute pair of dress shoes that are pink, and are kind of strappy or sandal like? Thanks! I live in NJ...and i need them by friday. x0

Do you live by the Freehold mall? I don't live that close to it but I do all my shopping there. Try their Nodstrum's (s?) or Lord and Talyor's. The shoes might be expensive but it's well worth it. Really any Pay Less Shoes have nice shoes. Try some of these. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I have piano lessons and I love it. My mom says that im probably going to quit because I dont practice. But i do practice! She just never listens! I really really really dont want to quit Piano! Music is my life! I have an absolute passion for it! I LOVE music!
Ana

This happened to me. My parents didn't think I practiced enough. Tell her how much you love music. But you also have to show her. Ask her to listen to you practice. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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i like to wear my hair up in a bun or pony tail but my mom is soooo annoying about it. she says that i hav beautiful hair and i should wear it down. i keep telling her wen i wear my hair down i get really hot (like today i got out of the shower and i felt sick i was so hot). any suggetions?

please help. i rate!

Tell your mom that. If she starts saying oh but your hair is so pretty wear it down tell her you like it up. Show her this question and tell her that it really bigs you that she always tells you to wear your hair up. She may be offended at first but she'll realize that it really doesn't matter. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I have this friend, and I love her so much!! (sisterly) And we are best friends, well, she just discovered boys and there is one that she really likes. whenever we're together, it's all she talks about and thinks about. all she wants to do is look at pictures of him and talk about him!! I love her so mucha dn i don't wanna lose her. I've tried talking to her, but she'll get all mad at me. PLEASE HELP!

Yep, my friend is like that too. Next time she gets mad ask her why it's a problem that you want to talk about something else a change. Tell her life shouldn't be about boys. If she gets mad play the "I'm not talking to you game" for a while. It will help her get her priorities (sp?) in check. Or just ask her to try and not talk about boys that much when your with her. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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People are always asking me about my love life, like people at school. I have had a boyfriend before but that only lasted a week, and I always feel uncomfortable saying 'oh I've only had one boyfriend' when people ask. I know it's not a race or a competition as to who can get the most boyfriends, but it's starting to bug me and I don't want to lie and say I've had loads of boyfriends. The thing is, I'm just not emotionally ready to be in a relationship, and I want any relationship I have to be a long one, so I'm obviously gonna have less boyfriends than everyone else. I don't mind that, I just mind being embarrased when I say 'one'. How can I avoid these conversations, or what should I say when they come up?

I, too, hate these conversations. But if you think about it do you really want to be a slut and have a ton of boyfriends? Just said you had one and be proud. I've said this before and I'll say it again. Everyone falls in love at their own pace. Don't ever feel shame that you only had one boyfriend. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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hey everyone
well today is report card day. I'm home from school because of it (today school is 1/2 day) What happens is our parents go to school to pick up our report cardds. Right now i'm a nervous wreck! It's because i still have to wait a few hours befor getting my grades. I'm really stressed. Is there anything i can do to relieve the stress untill later??
please help (and no answers like "do drugs") thanks!

Watch a movie you love. That way you can consentrate on the movie and not on report cards. Try reading too. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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okay i don't understnad when people say or its on an icon or something what dose it mean when they say its ther Anti drug?

It means that stops them from doing drugs. They know it's there and that's why they stay away from drugs. Because they know if they do drugs they can't have that.

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i saw a girl post how she has hair on her upper lip and she dosent know what to do and so someone said shave it off... i was just wondering... my grandma told me that if you do that it will leave hair like when guys shave not hair but like little bits.. ok that doesnt make sense but if anyone knows what i am talking about-is it ok to shave ur upper lip (im a girl) thanx

Yes there will be some hair left over. Woman's faces weren't meant to be shaved. It makes their face feel like a man's. I hope this clears things up.

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so there is this girl at my school and we used to be best friends and then now we're just friends but i found out that she is baliemic (dunno how to spell it but its when u make yourself throw up) and im like wow b/c shes a really sweet girl and is not fat at all so im thinking now.. should i just not eat anymore? cause im starting to get a bit chubby... so what should i do?

Do not stop eating! Just because someone else thinks they're fat doesn't mean you are. Don't stop eating even if you are more than "a bit chubby. If you feel you need to lose weight diet and exercise. Never resort to becoming anerioxic or bulliemic (sp?). I hope I heled! ♥ good luck

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ok..this kid who i have been "falling " for....well i told him..and he said he was falling for me too...well i like him..but i dunt kno if i should go out with him or not...cause people would be all weird and be like ARE YOU GOIN OUT WITH ******?but i really don't know what to say to him...should I go out with him or not?

Aloha *****. You really need to think if you will be happy with him or not. It really shouldn't matter if people feel like acting like assholes or not. If you feel a strong emotion you really need to stick with it. If ****** is a person you can see yourself with then be happy with him. I hope I helped ! ♥ good luck

P.S~ make your decision soon the dance on friday

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okay well i bite my nails .. and friday night my friend is havin a birthday party & we are gonna get out nails done .. is there any way i can get my nailsz to grow? i mean there really short.. please help me !!

- ShoRt NaiLsz :-/

Well everytime you dleep your nails grow a little. Anyway get acrylic nails. They have stuff in them that make your nails grow.

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i was rated a 5 like 4 times in a row and my rating stayed at 4.86 What happened?

Your ratings only count for 30 days. Pervious ratings probably "expiered" (sp?). That's all.

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okay.. theres no topic for this cuz I dont knwo what it should be but what ever... anyways... my mom is constantly finding my money that I hide and or takes it from me as soon as I get it to go get drugs.. I dont know what I should do about my whole situation and she is very manipulative so if u say go to the police she will get her way out of it (believe me Ive tried) what should I do?

Call the child hep agency. They believe YOU there not your mom. Is there any relative you can live with? If there is you mmust go there. Is there a friend you can live with? Same thing go there. You can't really live with your mom anymore. You can try family consuling though or call rehab to get your mom there. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I have a large group of really close friends. Two who some would say are the most popular are starting to be really badly bullied by this jelous cow with no real friends. She has been being horrible to them for a long time, but now things are getting nasty. One of these two friends today got really badly shouted, e.c.t at, punched in the back ( which is really bad for her, as she has a bad spine and needs to wear a back brace) and her hair pulled so badly, I mean really pulled. In the shouting, she insulted her so much as well- calling her a jewish bitch and so on. All my other friends and I did all we could to break up the conflict and she would have done much more if we weren't there. I have a feeling this is going to get much worse. We have told the teachers, but this is going to make her so angry. This is all over nothing, simply them being popular. Both friends were left crying. For ages we have ran away whenever we have seen them ( she has her gang). What can I do to stop this from getting worse? Also, the other friend has a bad self image (even though boys think she is best looking in the school) and has been a cutter in the past. What can I do to help my friends and stop the bullying?

This bullies are the weak. Stand up for what is right. However, don't fight physically. This will get you in trouble. Tell a school consuler. They usually know how to help. If your friends get hurt physically again go to the princapal. Or you can find their weakness and use it aganist them. But if worst comes to worst don't fight. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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ever since i moved i've felt misserable and depressed... i moved to africa a little ova a month ago and left a girl that ment the world to me... i would do anything for her... but i might never get to see her again... all i can do is hope shes on-line when i am... all i want is to be with her and i cant... so idk wat to do but talk to her whenever i can... wat can i do to talk to her or even see her again? i'm not goin to give up or forget about her. shes the only thing keepin me alive...

Do you have her e-mail address? If you do e-mail her and try and set up a time when you guys can see each other. Do you have any information to reach her with? If you do then se this meeting up that way. Don't give up. Look in old phone books, talk to her online, do anything it takes. If you need any more help with this leave one in my inbox.

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ok well there's this guy and he likes me and 3 of my other friends and he's obsessed w/ me and i don't mean to sound conceited but its so annoying and all he talks to me about is how hot i am and one of his favorite lines to say online is "you love me wut?" and he always does this and he's always like "i want you hardcore on the bathroom in the shower" and stuff like that and its really sickening and i want him to stop..but i mean he's one of my friends..and i hate when he does that..and he's just the most annoying person ever..and i'm sick of him saying that stuff..but i don't know how to say it..how should i tell him that he's so annoying and i want him to stop saying that kind of stuff to me..?

Next time he does it tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he is the jerk he sounds like he'll do it again. When he does it again tell him you were serious. If this makes him feel uncomfortabel tell him this strongly. Explain how this is very awkward. Tell him whatever you need to make him stop. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Hi! I'm having thoughts about marriage, I'm a 19/f btw. I recently viewed the film, Romeo and Juliet and was wondering on what other people's opinions are. Do you think Romeo and Juliet got married too soon? Why or why not? I'd like to talk to someone about this. I gove good ratings. Thank you in advance. =)

In our society today this would not have been excepted. However, back then it was the usual costum. But if you want my opinion I'll give it to you. I feel that the story is about love so why not give love early? It's about the strong relationship two people feel for each other and want to keep that everlasting feeling for the rest of their lives. So what I'm saying is for the storys sake yes it was already but if it happened in real life I would not be too keen on it. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Does anybody know how i could remember my homework??? Because i always forget and i think i lost my agenda. And they wont give us new ones ??? Any advice would be great ( i rate high)

You can always just write it in a notebook. You could write it on your hand so you see it but your teachers may get mad. Post-its on your shirt always work too. So I would say notebooks are your best bet but if you like one of my other ideads use it. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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