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People are always asking me about my love life, like people at school. I have had a boyfriend before but that only lasted a week, and I always feel uncomfortable saying 'oh I've only had one boyfriend' when people ask. I know it's not a race or a competition as to who can get the most boyfriends, but it's starting to bug me and I don't want to lie and say I've had loads of boyfriends. The thing is, I'm just not emotionally ready to be in a relationship, and I want any relationship I have to be a long one, so I'm obviously gonna have less boyfriends than everyone else. I don't mind that, I just mind being embarrased when I say 'one'. How can I avoid these conversations, or what should I say when they come up?
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well, its none of their business! tell them that! Say, it doesnt matter what goes on in my life! seriously! i know how you feel, but i mean, I have had the same boyfriend for over a year, but i dont like talking about that, or when other people do!!!
so just let them know!
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This is any easy one! You simply tell them that you prefer to keep your private life private.They don't need to know all the details of your life. Something like "I don't kiss and tell" would work too....If ya wanna sound mysterious! Leave it at that, make them wonder.
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tell them to mind their own damn business because they shouldn't know every detail about your life. and it's okay that you've had one boyfriend, no matter how old you are. it shows that you're independent and you're not desperate and you're just waiting for the right guy to come along. and you don't have to tell them when they ask. good luck and stay strong!
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Just act cool about it and say boyfriends?? who cares!! like in a joke kind of way and then change the topic. If they keep rambling on then just tell them you dont want to asnwer that question OR you can say ive had a few... a few is like 4 3 2 or 1 boyfriend(s). I remembered when i got stuck in this type of stuff and this is how i would react. hoped i helped! good luck:) xoxo BLONDE911
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Hi Sweetie,
First of all, you don't have to justify yourself. If you don't feel comftrable ansswering that question, its okay. It doesn't matter why. Maybe you don't like telling people personal things or it could even be that competition stuff (I know its not becuase you said it wasn't, but I am just giving examples). Either way, it comes down to the same issue: YOU ARE NOT COMFTRABLE ANSWERING THAT QUESTION.
Its cool. Im not either. All I tell people is, "That's a little personal, don't you think?" and it works for me. It should work for you too. If they keep asking tell them to respect your privacy. It may seem weird t first if you are not used to keeping things frome people but you will get used to it and they will get used to it and people will be more considerate when they ask you that type of question.
Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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The problem really isn't the people asking you, its the way you feel uncomfortable when they ask. There are lots of girls who have had about 10 boyfriends at the age of 13 or 14, but for 10, how long do you think they lasted? Obviously not long, or they probably wouldn't have moved so fast to 10. I have only had about 5 to be honest, some sucked, some lasted for like two weeks, and about 3 of them lasted about a year. So, having a small number of boyfriends isn't bad when you think about it, because I am a girl who also likes to stick with long term boyfriends too, moving fast is just like asking for a big collection of boys you've dated to show off for people who ask them. And, you're just one of those smart girls who likes to choose guys carefully. Not that the others don't, but most do, because they move on. So, when people ask you, sometimes you don't even have to say one, you can say none, and then when they give you a weird look, you just hold your head up high and say, "I'm saving myself until the perfect guy comes my way."
-TheTeenGirl
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i know how you feel, i've only had one almost-ish boyfriend, and i met him on a cruise over the summer! when people ask me i just say with confidence, "i really havent had a real boyfriend". if you say it in a way that your proud of it people will respect you for it and not look down on you. if people do tease you about it they dont deserve your time of day. you can't really avoid some conversation though.. it doesnt matter how many b/f's you had, i think that your making the right decision by waiting until it will be a real relationship, and not just b/c you want a boyfriend. (i have a lot of friends like that and it sucks) good luck, dont let it bother you *KaysEe
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Well I am just like you girl. When I don't want to answer the question all I do is tell my best friend that I don't want to talk about this stuff or I just try to change the subject to something like sports. Hope I helped you :)!!!
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There is nothing wrong with having had just one boyfriend. I'm 19 and I've had only one (we're still together, thought). Let me tell you a little, true story:
When I was in high school, all of my friends had had many boyfriends. Only one besides myself was a virgin at the time. I had never had a boyfriend until my junior year. It had bothered me that I had never had one, not because of what other people thought but because I was lonely. Shortly after my boyfriend and I started going out, these friends began pressuring us to have sex. It was very bizarre to have my friends and not my boyfriend to pressure me to have sex. I realized that they were doing so to make themselves feel better about having had sex with many guys after a few months.
Since so many people ask you about your love life, chances are that quite a few of them ask you to feel better about themselves, as though they have achieved more. I suggest you seek out others who share the same mindset and a similar past as you and make friends with them. Prodding questions are easier to bear when you're in similar company.
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If it's a question about your current love life, just tell the truth- just smile and say, "I'm single right now, and lovin' it!"
If the person inquires about your past, just avoid the question if you don't feel like talking about it, say "What's past is past" and then change the subject.
Or just tell them what you've said here. You sound like a mature girl- keep going where you're going... you've got it right! :)
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Just dont answer.say it is none of your business and walk away.
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Hey i'm like you i dont wanna be with any childish boys i wanna real conversation.. i get emotionaly hurt easy.. but um yea it isn't a race or competition and you shouldnt be ashamed about how many guys you've gone with... if they look at you like *what one* then tell them you aint a girl thats jus goin to jump in and out or relationships and get hurt probably over and over again.. you really shouldnt be embarassed about it tho..and also if you get in the conversation jus say like you want a long term relationship not something that lasts a couple days.. dont avoid it just tell em how it..much luv and best of luck dez
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turn the question around and just let other people talk or ask why they care...remind them that it's not a race...and that you don't want a reputation for being a slut
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tell them the truth. they will understand that you aren't emotionally ready, and you want to wait to have a real relationship that'll last a while. they may even look up to you for being so honest and real. you should never be afraid to be your true self, because you can make a difference in anyones life!
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If people ask, just say that you don't want a boyfriend right now. if you feel uncomfortable saying that your not emotionally ready to have a bf, then don't say it.just say you dont want one at the time.
~Hope it helps~
~CutieBabe~
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Well your personal life is not anything to do with other people it is private and when people ask my about my love life if i feel embarassed i just tell them i don't want to talk about it so try telling them how you feel and that you don't want to talk about it.
i hope my advice has helped you and plz rate me...
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Tell people the truth. Don't listen to what other people say or think about that issue. It's your love life and not theirs.
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If they start asking you try and change the conversation or walk away some where until they have finished talking i dont think you should be ashamed about how many boyfriends you have had just tell them you dont no how many you have had
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well i know it must suck being asked these questions, but there is no shame in only goin out wit one guy. and if any one asks you oyu should tell them that your lookin for the right guy and that you dont like goin out with any guy that remotly interests you. so tell them that your not ready for a bf and that your lookin for the right guy to go out wit. and tell them that you want a long relationship. if these people are your friends then they not very good ones.
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I, too, hate these conversations. But if you think about it do you really want to be a slut and have a ton of boyfriends? Just said you had one and be proud. I've said this before and I'll say it again. Everyone falls in love at their own pace. Don't ever feel shame that you only had one boyfriend. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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