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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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when you give a hand job are you supossed to stand? or lay down..like how exactly are the guy and girl positioned? thanks.

I haven't given any handjobs in my life, but I was there when a guy was recieving one and both the guy and the girl were standing. (Then again there was nobody home and no neighbors were around, we were on the guys front porch, there were 4 girls and 2 guys...) But yeah... it doesn't really matter, though I've never heard of either of them laying down for it.

Boys like the fact of girls being virgins right?

Some guys want a good girl that won't do anything. Some guys want a girl who's first will be them, some guys want a girl that will do whatever, and some guys want a girl with lots of experience. It all depends on the guy.

i have had my period for quite some time and never have gone throught this! i have used tampons before but today i had it in for two secionds and ir hurt so bad! i took it out and my uterus skin was all over it! it was so gross, i tried again later, and even more skin came off! my blood has been extremely dark lately and my uterus is coming off in strips and omg whatz wrong with me!

Ummm, unless you for some reason do not have a mom or woman gaurdian in your life, ask that mom or woman gaurdian. I've never heard of that before, and not to scare you or anything, but you will probably want to see a doctor about that. It could be serious. Again, I could be wrong because I am not a doctor, but I've never heard of that, so either speak to a mom/female gaurdian, or get to the doctors ASAP to find out what's wrong.

ayo i know i got a column but i just wanted to know suttin...im planning on gettin my tattoo soon and i just wanted to know if it is painful?...iight no doubt `1

From all the people I know who got one, even the tough motercycle "bad boys" said it hurt them a little. Ir depends on your pain tolerence. Put a needle into your skin, let it prick, and tell me how it feels to you. If this sounds rude, then I am sorry, but it all depends on your tolerence for pain. If sticking a needle in your skin countless times hurts you, then yes it will probably hurt. If you don't think that needles in your skin will hurt, then it won't. To me, it'd hurt. Again, sorry for the sarcasm and rudeness.

Hey does anyone have any good websites with like coloring pages,or games,or just time fillings stuff to do because I am totally not sure what sites to go to and I do not want to go google it either because that takes way too long to find just the right site and I will rate 5's too if you name a site whether I liked it or not enless you say one I have already tried and please help as soon as possible!!!

Bored Tween, Videogamegirl

It's childish, but me and my friends like it.
www.homestarrunner.com It's funny, and all us cool high school kids like the site :-) I hope I spelt it right, if not then sorry.

My friend or 10 years was over and she was talking to her friend. She moved to a small town near to the big city i live in last year. Her friend was telling her what happened at a sleepover that weekend and she mentioned dry sex. What is dry sex anyway. Another thing, this friend, when she moved away she changed. Like she started wearing a thong and wearing aton of makeup and talking in a high pitched voice. She really annoys me by this. Like in 6th grade, a thong? Any way what should i do about this friend and what is dry sex?

Well dry sex should be pretty self explanitory, I've never had anyone tell me what it is, but I just assume it has something to do with sexual behavior but the penis isn't actually inserted into the vagina. And as to the problem with your friend... you're saying she went from 'normal' whatever that is, to being a girly girl. Well maybe where she moved to that's how people were at she started to look and dress like that. I never really wore makeup before 9th grade except every once in a while, and I didn't for like the 1st half of ninth grade, but now whenever I have time I'll put some on. Maybe she just likes the way she is now better. Maybe you could tell her how you feel, that you feel that she's changed, and that you think it's strange. Now I think I just understood this but she's in 6th grade and wearing a thong? What's wrong with that. Unless of course it's visable for everyone to see, then yeah, that's wrong. Thongs are meant so you don't see an underwear line in tight pants. I don't know why people make it out as something sexual, but it isn't. And ummm, I know I'm not of much help but I haven't gotten like any sleep in a long time and I'm extremely tired, so I'm off to bed. If you're still confused re ask me this, but if you have two seperate questions, please make it two seperate questions unless the two are in some way related. Sorry if I sound rude, I just have maybe had less than 10 hours of sleep in the last 3 days.

should i write my own song???

(i rate)

If you're good at writing songs, then yeah.

I've just started gym class, & she said we're NOT allowed piercings what so ever, even ear. & your not allowed to cover it up or anything. i have 2 of my piercings in my cartilidge, i can take my other ones in my lobe out but not my cartilidge because it'll close and i won't be able to get it back in anyways. I start it tomorrow. and i really duno what to do. I dont want to take them out because I don't want to have to get them repierced. My mom said thats really stupid & she said I won't have to take them out. What should I do?

At my old middle school (I'm in high school now) the rule was unless they are studs you have to take them out. Because (yes this has happened before) things can catch on to the hoopes, or the earings can get caught on something and rip your ear. So if they are just pierced then you have to get a parent note and cover up the earings. But if they are able to come out without closing up then you either take them out or make sure you have studs in. So just get your mom to write a note, and cover them up. Then wear your hair down, but make sure that you have that note just incase the teacher gets an attitude with you. Good luck, hope I've helped.

for anyone who has satelite what channel is 7th heaven on? I can't find it or where I could get the TV guide for it anyways please help haha im dying to see this episode!!

For me the WB is channel 12, but that's digital cable. I hope you didn't miss it, it was an AWESOME episode. Lucy and Matt were stuck in an elevator, and she gave birth in the elevator of a department store, Matt Kevin and 2 ambulance people helped. And she named the baby Savannah after the place where her and Kevin honeymooned. Also as a baby shower gift Kevin bought a REALLY pretty house and in a few months they will move in. I don't remember what the next episode is going to be about, but it looks good and I can't wait!!! I'm not much help, but if you missed it then I can DEFINITLEY fill you in, I LOVE that show!

does anyone no any really good books. My mom wants me to get into reading (i hate reading) so i need a good book thatti wont hate to read!

anything will do! thanks a lot!

I didn't read through all the responses already given, but you were given a few that I like. And to add on, I have some true books, such as She said yes (I'm sorry I don't know the author) it's about the columbine shooting. It's great if you belive on God. It's not a religious book, it's just a mother telling the story of how her daughter was shot at school. This girl was a good girl gone bad, she had just turned good again, there was a shooting at her school, the guy with the gun asked her if she believed in God, she said yes, and she was shot and killed. It's an AMAZING and sad book. Also another true book (actually a series) well the 1st book in the series is A Child Called it by Dave (I forgot the last name) it's a sort of autobigraphy about a boy who was abused as a child and grows up. There are like 3 or 4 books in the series. And now for the fiction books. There's a 'shadow child' series. The first book is called Among the Hidden, and it's by Margarter Peterson Haddix, I personally like all of her books, but especially the 'shadow child' series. Then another nonfiction book series are the Chicken soup for the sould books, those are really good!!!! Hope I've helped some. I love all the books I've listed, and there were a few like Harry Potter and A series of Unfortunate events that I liked but they were already listed. Good luck in finding a book you like!

When you put on eyeliner on your bottom eyelid,do you put it above or below your eyelashes? Also, what kind of eyeliner should i use? liquid or pencil? what brand?

thanks aton!

You've gotten lots of answers, so I'll just tell you I think the pencil works better. Whenever I use liquid it runs and gets into my eye and my eye gets blurry and watery for ike 5 or 10 minutes. I'm not really sure what brand, and you can put it either above or below, I do above, like the 'inside' a lot of people do inside, but I know some people who do 'outside' too.

how long does it take for you to get your confirmation email? its been hours, and ive submitted more than one

thanks

It's definitley not supposed to take that long. Ask Advicenator_Admin about it, she can help. Or ask MFS, or any other level III moderator. Sorry I'm not much help.

Hey, my average rating was a 4.78. I was just rated a 5 and my rating went down to a 4.5! What happend??

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=6
THEY ONLY LAST FOR 30 DAYS!!!! I'm sorry, I know you're curious, but this question has been asked SO many times. Next time you're curious about something, search questions and see if they have it. Sorry if I'm coming across rude.

Can your rating go up for questions put in your inbox? Or is it just from teh pool only? I've always been a bit curious on that

From what I have always thought the only time your rating goes up and/or down is when you are rated from questions in the pool. People who ask you questions to your inbox can still rate you, but it won't count towards your average.

I am getting sorta tired of the way everyone is so rude on here! There was this girl who was pregnant and scared and crying and this guy came along and told her to shut up! Whats with everyone? When someones mother dies you dont say "Stop complaining bitch" thats absolutely digusting! So my question is...why do some people on here be complete assholes when there are people who need serious answers and have serious questions?!?!?

To report abuse and rudeness click here (or if it isn't a link then copy and paste in url area) http://www.advicenators.com/abuse.php
Reasons people are banned here... http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=47&

Here's one more link, it says something if you scroll about halfway down about not just banning people for being jerks or whatever http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=9

Okay, and now to answer your question. This answer may sound rude, and sorry if it does. It was stupid of you to post this question. That flat out says it. And to say why it was stupid... BECAUSE... people on this site that are rude do it for attention. Posting this 'question' bring the attention they seek right to them. If you are a new memeber, then I understand, but if you'be been on this site for a while now, then you should know better. Advicenator_admin is doing the best she can. Us moderators are doing as much as we can. That's why we have the abuse reports. We don't just ban people for being rude, they have to be REALLY bad. And you have to try and learn to ignore these people, I know it's a hard thing to do, but the more attention you give them the more they are going to be asswholes. You just have to learn that there is freedom of speech, and unless it gets too out of hand then we don't have much power over it. I'm sorry that what I am saying isn't the nicest, but it's true. Personally I try and give the best advice I can, but there are people in this world that are only in this world because it's illegal to kill them. I think there are/were funny columnists that were rude, such as NinthGradeGuy, and yet there are TERRIBLE columnists, like there used to be one.. snakeeyes or something like that. When you stop giving them the attention they seek they get bored and move on. You just have to try and ignore them. Sorry for the rudeness, I'm just sick of people giving the 'jerks' the attention they want. If you have a complaint about them file an abuse report with the link I gave above. Oh, and don't send a mean message to their inbox, or do questions on the main page about it because that just makes this know that they aren't being ignored by everyone and that people are reading what they say and are getting pissed off. Just IGNORE THEM!!!!!!! And again, sorry for the rudeness. Bye now!

I feel like my bestfriend likes her other friend more than me. she sits by the other girl at lunch together more often than with me.they do lots of things together, but not with me.How do i get my best friend to like me better?

aloner,

My sister is kind of like that best friend who likes the other friend more. Or atleast in her friends opinion (so it seems). You're friend probably has a reason for chillin with the other girl more often now. Have they just became friends (or are they around each other more then they used to i.e classes together) Is there a different relationship between them such as they used to be just friends but now both of them have boyfriends and their boyfriends are best friends, so they double a lot or something. You can't get your best friend to like you better without being a jerk about it. The girl who feels that way about my sister makes it REALLY obvious that's she is jealous (not purposely I don't think, you can just tell that she's jealous) and she seems pathetic. I don't like the girl, and maybe that's why I feel that way, but whatever. Just maybe you can tell your friend that you feel left out and get her 'side of the story'. Sorry I'm not of much help, hope stuff works out with you and your friend.

If You ask a question while you are signed in, will it show up on your page? before,or after (or both) its answered?

because some questions i DONT want my friends to see!

sorry, you all probably know this, im sorta new.

and dont really ask to many questions, but now im gonna! :) coz you all are soo sweet!

thanks in advance!

oh I always Rate! 4 or 5, unless your mean to me, then i just dont rate- i think that if you dont like that they say- you should rate then low, because then your being mean right back!

sorry I talk alot!

If you mean will it show up on your column, then the answer would be only if you answered it. The only people that can see that you were the person that asked the question is YOU, the level 2 & 3 moderators, and if anyone finds your password.

Hey i need your help i really like this one girl and im a senior but shes a freshman i need to know if this is bad and what can i do thanks advice giver

No, it's not bad. I used to date someone who was a senior and I'm a freshman. If she's single, then ask her out. Just be like do you want to go to the movies this weekend or something. Do what you would do when asking out any other person. It's okay to like someone younger then you, but if you're 18 or older, then you won't be able to do anything with her. But umm, yeah, just ask her out.

this girl is having her sweet 16...and im not invited but the rest of my friends who dont even talk to her are. I was just asking...do you think when i have mine i should invite her? or should i not invite her.

If you want her to come, then invite her. For my birthday I'm only allowed to have a certain amount of people, maybe that was the case. I usually pick my BEST friends, and then the friends I want to get to know a little more. Or something like that. So my JUST friends are only invited if I am allowed to have more friends come. Or my mom doesn't let me invite certain friends because she doesn't like them, maybe for some reason her parents don't like you. Or maybe there will be someone there that won't get along well with you and to keep it safe she's only inviting that person. There could be plenty of explanations why she didn't invite you that could be reasonable instead of the doesn't like you or something, so if you want her at your party, invite her. If she doesn't like you then she won't show up. If you feel betrayed or something and you don't want her at your party then don't invite her. But it might not be all her fault that you aren't invited to hers, so do think she's doing something mean. I know this isn't totaly answering your question, but I hope I made you think a little.

I think my friend might have romantic feelings for me, but I don't like them that way. Should I try and talk to them about it or just leave it and hope it doesn't come up?

Just leave it, unless of course you have romantic feelings for that person. Then let that person know that you heard from people that him/her liked you, and even if it's not true, you feel the same way. If you don't feel romantically about him/her, then don't mention anything. If they have those feelings for you eventually they'll say something, or they'll do something painfully obvious to show it, and then, you will either be like "I like you too" or find a way to gently let him/her down.

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