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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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What does it mean when a gurls hits you then walks away alot when u see her and also when her and her friends ask you for money
Define hitting
When someone just randomly ask you for money, I would hope that you say no. It is rude to just go up to anyone and ask if they have cash.
Sounds like her friend is trying to use you and take advantage of you. If she ask for money, You tell her you don't have it and to stop asking! Be straight forward and don't let her walk on you.
The hitting, Could be a sign of bullying depending on the case. You did not give much detail so I can't fully answer that part of your question. However, Never give someone money when they ask you for it. That is bitchy and rude of her
Ok so heres the situation,
i am a 13 year old girl in 8th grade. i have a ton of friends and guys flirt with me ALOT but i have never had a boyfriend. i mean i can easily find flaws in myself so r these flaws y i dont get asked out alot? :(
Your thirteen...
Why are you worried about having a boyfriend now? A lot of boys at your age are just starting to take interest in girls. You do not have flaws, Relationships should never be about how someone looks. It's about who they are as a person, If they make you happy then that's what it's all about. Seriously, Stop worrying so much about having a boyfriend. When it happens it happens but damn stop rushing it
What age do most girls loose their virginity? i am 13 is that ok?
You are too young
In many states the legal age to even consent to sex is 16, Why do you need to have sex at your age anyway? You are ONLY 13! Are you able to properly care for a child?.....No. Do you have a full time job, Live on your own and pay your own bills? No. These are all things you should think about before just jumping into sex. Also, Having sex at your age is something you will very very likely regret later on in life. Wait a few years, Until you are at least 16.
Ok so I'm in 5th grade (which your prob wondering to young for arelationship but I do have a Facebook) so like 5 people asked me out and two of them have a Facebook so I don't like any of them but one but I never said yes I would go out with him cuz it was a text so instead of telling the other people no I didn't answer I tried to hide my relationship status but they keep texting me on fb and I don't wanna say no and I don't wanna say yes I like the other dude (and please don't say I'm to young thereisalot of people my age with boyfriends) please help!!!!!!!!!!
This isn't the answer you want but I'm just going to tell you anyway
Why do you NEED a boyfriend? Is it because all your friends have one? Just because your friends having boyfriends doesn't mean you have to go and follow their footsteps. You are in FIFTH grade, You are very young. No, I'm not bashing you that is a fact. Dating isn't a rush, It's something that just happens when the time is right. Why rush it? Again, Why are you letting the influence get the best of you? Just be happy being a kid and worry about all that other stuff later on in life. You are young and you have years ahead of you, Stop worrying about your friends and worry about yourself.
I'm 11 years old in fifth grade (I know I'm young don't say anything about that please) I am a cheerleader and I do softball I have been doing that for a while now but I don't see changes in my body shape I don't eat alot but I'm not on a diet can anyone tell me how long I should exercise a size and how long it will take days weeks months i need answers just to say I'm 5'3 and way 112.2 Im not skinny but slim but all my friend user be fat but they force there sect to throw up I don't want todo that cuz its bad please help..
Don't go bulimic, That is the worst thing you could ever possibly do to yourself.
Bulimic causes liver and kidney failure, hair loss, rotted teeth, infertility, irregular heart beat, Low blood pressure and death.
According to the weight chart at 5'3 low weight is 111 lbs. You are technically borderline UNDER weight. You do not need to loose weight
If your friends are bulimics then I highly recommend you find other friends. People who are bulimic have eating disorders and probably aren't the best people to be friends with. Find new friends, Trust me you do not want to go down that road.
I've been dating this guy since Christmas, and we've been just fine. Some people have told me he's been cheating on me, but he denies it and tells me he likes me and only me. For a few weeks, he's been talking to my friend (who's a girl, and his ex) more than me. She hated him before I started dating him, and this isn't the first time she's gotten really close to the person I'm seeing. He hasn't talked to me in a week, and I can't go to his house because of his family issues. What do I do? I really need some advice!
If he is showing interest in other girls and spending less time with you, Then he isn't interested. From the sound of it, He is cheating on you. Of course someone isn't going to willingly admit too it nobody likes to admit they are wrong. Dump his ass and move on
I'm a guy and had a best friend w/benefits with the understanding that if one of us met someone they liked we would tell the other so the benefits bit wouldn't continue and complicate anything. My best friend of 9 years didn't tell me he was seeing a girl for 7 months while still sleeping with me with was against what we agreed. Now I've lost all trust and respect for him and instead of apologising and making our friendship right he's went off with this girl and wants space from me as he's convinced himself I'm jealous which is far from the hurt and pissed off feelings am feeling. We are/were really close and I love him to bits but he is too focused on himself to see what he's doing to us.
Advice anyone please.
Have you tried to express how you feel to your guy friend? I am sure you are already well aware of this but sometimes FWB destroys relationships in the long run. Even if two people were real close, You are crossing the line of friendship with what's supposed to be an understanding of just FWB.
Maybe he was too caught up in things and didn't think to tell you, Perhaps he thought he would hurt you more if he did. I can't really for sure tell you what you friend is thinking. If you two were as close as you say you were then I don't see any reason you can discuss this privately and just clear the air between the two of you. If he doesn't want to discuss this subject then you can either accept that he is with someone now or you can continue to let the fact that he never confronted you about it and let it destroy your friendship. There could be a million reasons to why he never told you and all the reasons.....Maybe he is worried it would get around to this girl? So he hoped to just put the past behind him and move on from it. It's hard to give you excellent advice as I do not know the entire story but I would go with option A or B confront him privately or leave it alone and move on from it.
I just turned 22 years old very devoted Muslim. I am married with a wonderful husband. He works in IT and I am a stay at home mom who is on the internet much too often. I was raised in Jordan. We went to a very good school and Quran school. I learned to memorize most of the Quran at a young age. This is the first time I am opening up about this and REALLY need your advice/
My parents sent me to this Quran boarding school for girls for 3 months out of the year every year since I was very little (I was the only one accepted out of my family. my brothers and sisters leaned from the Mosque). I learned a lot. You see I lost my father when I was young (12 years) and the man who headed and taught the school and his wife where very helpful in helping me heal in ways no one ever did!! I loved my father, he was the greatest man I ever knew. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister all younger than me.
But Abu, the school mater, that trained me—he and I were very close, even sexually in that school. It sounds strange but we kept it secret. He was a very kind man who really knew how to teach well –whatever. His wife was the one who gave me birth control pills to save my family and myself the shame. She said she did it for other girls to. I am very grateful to her for being a mentor and confidant. We kept our sexual relationship till until my family moved to the UK. But this is a shameful thing in my past I don’t talk to people about it but now I have to because it is killing me inside. If my parents found out I would be dead DEAD. I learned ALOT about my body and sex and i am grateful to have learned these things from Abu. it was an amazing sexual experiuence over all. When I got married I lied to my husband like many of the girls I know to say I was a virgin. Otherwise I would never get married. The strange thing is that it has not bothered me or haunted me like I hear on Oprah and others who had these experiences. I do not have ill feelings toward this man and his wife. They are people I still respect because of how ethical and kind they have treated my family through out the years. They paid for all my education and my brothers and sisters as well. They provided meals for us when my mother did not have enough, etc. When we see them as a family we just pretend this stuff never happened. I never bring it up and he or his wife never do. . I asked around if anyone else had my experience and no one would talk about it. It is a very shameful thing for a Muslim Arab girl to talk about these things!! But my aunt, who is about my age, opened up to me and told me she had similar experiences with this man. She is also married now with three children and wants to leave the past in the past. She begged me not to tell anyone about him and to just leave things as they are since we both went through it and we turned out “OK”.
Her daughter, Cameron, my niece she is now in Jordan with my family and they are sending her to the same school to learn the Quran. Abu is still teaching there. My sister said it is best to not talk about it and let her experiernece life and sex and everything else like we did. My friends tell me to expose this man. It would be devastating to our family to bring this news out about what he did with me and the other girls because of the shame factor. I would never bring that kind of shame on him, my family or my religion. I respect him. Am I weird and crazy?? But I don’t know what to do because now Cameron is there and my family did not think twice about sending her to that school because it has such a good reputation. My American friends tell me to make my sister take Cameron out of that school as soon as yestersay. I feel so mistrable because of what they tell me I am wicked. But my experience was good over all at that school. But they make me feel horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am depressed about this. I really want Cameron to learn from this very good school and Abu, but I don’t know what to do!! Please help me from going crazy…I don’t know what to do..i need help to think about this.
PLEASE respond to jjordan2011@mail.com
In the United States where I am from it is an unlawful act for a student/teacher to have a relationship anything beyond education. As a teacher Abu has the higher authority of you, Basically this man took advantage of you. As your teacher his job is too educate you and be a role model not proceed a sexual relationship with his students. This man was married and he had an affair, If his wife ever found out how do you think she would feel? Any man that is willing to cheat on his wife is in the wrong. Cheating on someone is disrespectful and immoral, You stated you respected Abu and his wife. Why do you respect him? He went and took advantage of you. Even if you consented to sex, It was and is still wrong. In the States if a teacher got caught have relations with a student they would be fired as the School system has zero tolerance. As long as you are a student is not right to have a relationship with someone who is in higher power. Meaning, If you were to have sexual relationships with a therapist, teacher, counselor or anyone who is in authority it would be a very wrong thing to do. Plus this man was married!......Never go and have relations with a married man. You are now in the United Kingdom, To expose this man of what he has done would be pointless as you are half way across the country and you as a 22 year old are now an adult. My advice too you is to learn from your mistake and to move on with your life, If you are still in contact with Abu and his wife I would say to stop contacting him and leave it at that. Perhaps it wouldn't hurt to tell your niece to stay away him as well, You don't have to explain your story just simply say the man is married and has tried to proceed a relationship with you in the past. Give her a warning
I have been married for 25 years. Recently my wife asked me about my past girl friends. At first I did not want to tell her that I had been in bed with my first girl friend. However, I was too nervous to hide and my replies to her questions were with many flaws. Sometimes, the answer was contradictory and beyond common sense. At last, I needed to confess my sex past that I had with my girl friend. At that time she asked me about how we knew, the dates, intimate acts in the course of the dates and finally how we came to bed. Especially on the details of our acts in bed where she insisted that I should mention every details. After that, she felt that I was beyond her belief that she had so trusted me before to have done such thing. She began to doubt my morals not matching to what she had thought about me. She was hurt emotionally. Every now and then, she often asked again and again of the in bed details with my first girl friend. She even asked questions of how I felt at the time where I was in bed with my girl friend and compared the things if she was my ex girl friend. She always did the same interrogation and if there was any deviation with what I said before and for even any slightest difference, she would yell at me that I was a liar and a hypocrite because I did not tell her all the things of my sex past. Now, she insists that she cannot forgive me. She hates me and even sometimes asks me to leave the house. However, she finally withdraws and allows me to stay after she calms down in our quarrels. I have tried my best to ask for her pardon by saying that I am wrong not to tell her of my sex past before our marriage. I even beg her to forgive me by saying that I do not mean to hide my sex past. Of course, she keeps on refusing to trust me.
Now I want to know how I can mend this. I love my wife. I don't want to divorce. I know my wife also loves me in her inner mind. However, her grief about my past cannot sweep off. She often says that she hates me. Please advise what I can do.
You have been married for 25 years and now your wife suddenly comes out and ask about your past sexual experiences? If your wife can't learn to put the past behind her, Then your marriage is doomed. Now you said you've been married for 25 years have either one of you ever had an affair?. If your marriage is rocky to the point where you fear for divorce then I would recommend going to marriage counseling where you two can learn to work past it. I'm sure your wife has her past as well and it is very uncool of her to act so harsh over something that happened years ago. If she can't get past something this small then I would too be a little nervous about the status of your marriage. Your wife's actions are harsh and she needs to get the hell over it
I took an at home pregnancy test 3 days ago, and it was positive. I instantly began crying, and have rarely stopped. I am 21, and my husband of 1.5 months is 23. I am in my senior year of college, and my husband just joined the army, and we just moved to our first duty station. I cannot stop crying, because I have always wanted to have a career before having kids. It was my dream as a child to be a pilot, and in September I decided I wanted to join the Army to achieve my dreams. But having a kid right now pretty much ruins my chances, and there is no other plausible way for me to become a pilot.
I started to talk to my husband about possibly having an abortion, and he said he would support me in whatever decision I came to, but he also said he would probably view me differently. I know that having an abortion is the right decision for me; it is only when I think about it, that I stop crying. But the thought of my husband viewing me differently, and possibly growing to resent me, that makes this decision extremely hard for me. And it is not just giving up on my dreams that haunts me, I also feel that having a baby now isn't what is best for me, and I know if I keep it, I will grow to resent my husband for having the career of his choice.
I am looking for advice, support, or thoughts of who I should talk to in order to figure out the best course of action.
Why abortion? Why haven't you thought about adoption? This in my opinion is a better option as I am completely against abortions in the first place.
If you are looking to proceed your dreams in which I fully support your choice to do so, Then go for it! :) I think it's a fantastic choice and a great idea and I wish you all the best of luck.
Adoption can be done in several ways, If you feel it would be difficult to arrange for adoption then you could always see if you look into an open adoption where you would have visitation rights. If not, Then you could always have a closed adoption where the child would be given a chance to have the best in life. Likely, Your husband would be more leaning towards this choice and hopefully you will be too.
So there's this thing I can do that has been trialed many many times and it worked EVERYTIME. I can tell someones personality just by looking at them. I don't have to know who they are or have to have met them or anything, I just need to see thier face. It's pretty cool. It also comes in handy when I need to see if a boy is right for me or not :) My friends cant do this but can anyone else? Thanks! :D
I wouldn't call it super powers, It may just be a coincidence. Some people are easier to read then others.
People sometimes try to predict me by saying I look pissed all the time because I don't crack a smile. Simply, I don't smile at all but that doesn't mean I am pissed off at the world. I guess "smiling" isn't in my vocabulary or even if I forget to smile half of the time.
Also, Keep in mind that looks can be deceiving. When we think we may have an idea what someone is about it's not always what you think. You can't judge a book by it's cover, You have to flip through the pages first ;) I can predict people pretty well also by body action and pretty much just looking at them but you know what? I can't tell you how many times I was wrong about someone. Sometimes, I though someone would be charming and they turn out to be a super ass with a half pipe up their butt. I would just say the people were predictable but I wouldn't jump to assumptions that someone could be what there not.
I'm 19/f, and my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. Our relationship has been exceptionally great, and he means a lot to me. I told him I love him and I initiated losing my virginity to him, which is a big deal to me. But, apparently I've been feeling like something's missing in our relationship, because I've crushed on other guys WHILE I'm already in a relationship. About 9 months in, I started to notice another guy. I guess it could have been considered emotional cheating, but I didn't do anything to pursue those feelings. I was honest with my boyfriend about it, which I still think was the best thing that I could have done in that situation. We stayed together, talked it out, moved past it, and the crush I had on the other guy faded. My boyfriend doesn't trust me much now, and I (obviously) understand why. But now, 16 months into our relationship, I'm noticing another guy and it's just become overwhelmingly confusing! I can't control it, and it sucks. I know I'm not being fair to my boyfriend, and so for the past 3 days, I've barely been able to eat, sleep, or stop crying because I'm so confused about why this keeps happening. I know that my current boyfriend would be the best overall choice for me out of all of the guys I've noticed, but I also feel like there's no way that I should be in a relationship with ANYONE if this is going to keep happening. What should I do?
You need to sort out what you want and real fast, A year and a half is not cool to still not know what you want from the relationship. Of course he doesn't trust you, You spilled the beans to him that you are interested in other men. Therefore, You made your boyfriend feel insecure in the relationship.
If you aren't happy, Then you should tell him. Don't keep him around if you don't want to be with him. Is this the case? I don't know but from what you've written it sounds like your not happy. It is okay to notice other people when you are dating someone but to act upon those feelings is NOT okay. There is no such thing as emotional cheating, It's either you cheat or you don't. However, You should decide on what you want, Be honest with yourself. If you want to be with your boyfriend then learn to be happy and appreciate what you have. You will only be happy if you allow yourself to be happy, Right now.....You are holding yourself back.
ive been with my boyfriend for 14 months now. and im completely confused. i have so many mixed feelings. we were so happy in the beginning we were perfect, hes my first everything, and im so comfortable with him its crazy. i love him so much. everything he does is cute and he does everything for me. pays for me puts me before anyone will walk in the freezing rain 3 miles to come and see me. hes the best boyfriend anyone could ever ask for. but heres the issue. we started breaking up and making up ever since the middle of summer. when we fight its usually over jealousy or him getting mad at me because i ditched him or whatever. but when we fight they are huge. he gets so angry and yells and freaks out he alwaysflips out. im just getting tired of all of it. and i see my friends having fun being single and i just wanna be happy again. im not happy. me and my boyfriend always are fighting and now im starting to reject him and hes freaking out even more sayin gi dont love him or care about him or anything.... and he thinks i want someone else which i dont! i cant take our constant fighting and breaking up and making up anymore cause i feel like he just pushed me away cause he freaks out over a lot of little things. but im confused..... if i leave him will i be happy or regret it? am i supposed to break up with him? cause i love him so much and he does everything for me... i dont wanna take the mistake of dumping him cause what if we were supposed to be together in the end........ im just so confused and i need some help :(
EDIT: Um, I actually did read your question. I posted my answer, If you don't like it too bad! I don't sugar coat and I'm not going to beat my way around the bush because you can't handle the fact that your relationship is obviously unstable. So, Call me what you want because if you are smart enough to read between my lines........I don't give a rats ass.
Jealousy will get you nowhere in a relationship, You both need to trust one another.
A relationship is basically a partnership, In order to make it work you need to both be committed and learn to mutually respect one another. While fighting is normal, It's not normal to do it constantly.
Fighting ALL the time in a relationship will eventually drain you, Overtime it becomes almost unbearable and the stress puts a strain on bother parties. You both need to learn to chill, If you think it's best then stop spending so much time together. It is never healthy to always spend 24.7 with your spouse as the time you take apart is what will keep the flame going. Nobody can tell you if you will regret leaving him as this is a choice only you can make. If you both care about one another then learn to trust, Take time apart every now and then for a few hours because in the end it will only do best. If you smother each other then you will continue to have arguments.
I want to know that how can I keep my vagina clean.???? Its really hairy and smelly.. At the sex time I feel embarrass...
I don't recommend using scissors or an electric razor like Flare suggested, Whatever you do please use a NON cut women's razor. Scissors are dangerous, Using scissors to trim pubic hairs can take a risk of snipping or cutting yourself...and with a pair of scissors I would imagine that'd hurt like a son of a gun.
Here is a fantastic razor: http://pics.drugstore.com/prodimg/151971/300.jpg
This is non cut and about 9 bucks at Walmart. Razor refills are about 20 bucks for a 4 pack.
Also, If you wear lace or thongs try to keep it for special occasions only. Lace traps odor and thongs aren't exactly meant to help with hygiene either. Also, If you wear panties try to stick with 100% cotton.
hello sir , i am dying to get rid of pimples am 17 ... they are all across my face , my forehead , chin , cheeks etc...
some are dry & some are red and big
HOW CAN I REMOVE THEM? it pains? i cant sleep or study :"(
help me sir, thank you
This works fantastic; http://www.proactiv.com/
If it doesn't help, Depending on how bad it is I would see a dermatologist who can prescribe special cream.
I have known my best friend since second grade. he always stuck up for me. when we entered middle school, i noticed that he was more mature. i told him that i liked him, but that was an understatement. i went away for a couple of years and my feeling are getting stronger. do i tell him that i love him or do i move on?
While friendships are sometimes the best relationships sometimes they come with consequences. If you feel you should tell him then go for it but before you do I would think about the possible consequences that could happen. Even when sometimes we don't think it could ever happen to us, It does. I have witnessed couples that used to be great friends end up as enemies. This is the risk you take if you two decide to date and whether or not you should move on all depends on how much you value your friendship.
I still like my ex.. i've told him and he wont take me back what should i do?
This question lacks detail
1, How many times did you break up, What was your relationship like and why did you call it quits?
You can't force someone to be with someone they don't want to be with. If your ex does't wish to date you then all you can do is move on. Take the relationship as an experience and learn from it.
My friends talk about me behind my back, and they end up dissing me for this other girl.
Ok, so here's the deal:
Me and this girl(Lucy) used to be the BESTEST of friends back in elementry school. But, after I met 2 other girls,(Hannah and Mya) she has been trying to seperate all of us. Now, Hannah and Mya diss me for Lucy! We ALL have all the same classes together. So, how do I get them to hang out with me again?
How do you get them to hang out with you?
Why would you want to even hang out with someone that leaves you high and dry? If these "friends" treat you like this then obviously they aren't "friends" to begin with. They aren't worth your time. Find friends that will actually want to spend their time with you and will appreciate having you as their friend. Friends don't go and ditch other friends and they certainly don't go and talk about one another behind their backs.
Ok so i all ready write this but some one could not under stand me. So I'm going to try to say this in a way that everybody can under stand me. My sister always put's songs on my mp3 player for me so I don't know how to . I just watch most time's. So now I want new song's on there. She put some song's on there with out asking me. I did not listen to them so I got rid of them. Now I want them back too(plus the new one's). She has not did it in a long time. And what she does remember she will not tell me. She want's me to be 14 or 15 to make sure I don't mess up. May be someone does what she does. Here what I know.She record's them off You Tube.Name the file. Then save the file(I know how to do that. Here what I don't know how to do)Bern it to a disc then put it on my mp3 player. I don't know how to do this. And there might be some thing's I need to do missing and I just dont know it. Thanks:)
This is the second time this question has posted.
1, Your question has terrible grammar and I cannot understand what you are saying.
2, You are not being very specific as to what exactly you are talking about
3, This question lacks information
As soon as you sort out this question where I can properly understand what you are asking then I would be more then happy to help you.
well my boyfreind he is kinda older than me and i just turned 15 and he already wants to get me pregnant and im like babe im to young for that and i dont know if he gets it so i really need help plzzzz help me
Do you work a full a time job? Do you live on your own independently? Do you pay your own bills?
If these are all a no, You are not ready for a child. You are FIFTEEN years old!, You are way to young to bare a child. A child deserves a lovely home that is STABLE where the mother can properly provide for the child.
Children require medical attention, diapers, food, toys, formula, crib, car seat, etc.
It is EXPENSIVE to raise a child, At 15 you are not able to care for the child on your own and properly the way it deserves. Use your head! This guy is trying to influence you. If he is pressing you into baring a child at your age then please please please please dump him and move on. The biggest mistake you can possibly make at your age is having a child you are NOT ready for.