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Best friend being selfish
I'm a guy and had a best friend w/benefits with the understanding that if one of us met someone they liked we would tell the other so the benefits bit wouldn't continue and complicate anything. My best friend of 9 years didn't tell me he was seeing a girl for 7 months while still sleeping with me with was against what we agreed. Now I've lost all trust and respect for him and instead of apologising and making our friendship right he's went off with this girl and wants space from me as he's convinced himself I'm jealous which is far from the hurt and pissed off feelings am feeling. We are/were really close and I love him to bits but he is too focused on himself to see what he's doing to us.
Advice anyone please.
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Have you tried to express how you feel to your guy friend? I am sure you are already well aware of this but sometimes FWB destroys relationships in the long run. Even if two people were real close, You are crossing the line of friendship with what's supposed to be an understanding of just FWB.
Maybe he was too caught up in things and didn't think to tell you, Perhaps he thought he would hurt you more if he did. I can't really for sure tell you what you friend is thinking. If you two were as close as you say you were then I don't see any reason you can discuss this privately and just clear the air between the two of you. If he doesn't want to discuss this subject then you can either accept that he is with someone now or you can continue to let the fact that he never confronted you about it and let it destroy your friendship. There could be a million reasons to why he never told you and all the reasons.....Maybe he is worried it would get around to this girl? So he hoped to just put the past behind him and move on from it. It's hard to give you excellent advice as I do not know the entire story but I would go with option A or B confront him privately or leave it alone and move on from it.
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