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while in a relationship, I keep liking other guys.
I'm 19/f, and my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. Our relationship has been exceptionally great, and he means a lot to me. I told him I love him and I initiated losing my virginity to him, which is a big deal to me. But, apparently I've been feeling like something's missing in our relationship, because I've crushed on other guys WHILE I'm already in a relationship. About 9 months in, I started to notice another guy. I guess it could have been considered emotional cheating, but I didn't do anything to pursue those feelings. I was honest with my boyfriend about it, which I still think was the best thing that I could have done in that situation. We stayed together, talked it out, moved past it, and the crush I had on the other guy faded. My boyfriend doesn't trust me much now, and I (obviously) understand why. But now, 16 months into our relationship, I'm noticing another guy and it's just become overwhelmingly confusing! I can't control it, and it sucks. I know I'm not being fair to my boyfriend, and so for the past 3 days, I've barely been able to eat, sleep, or stop crying because I'm so confused about why this keeps happening. I know that my current boyfriend would be the best overall choice for me out of all of the guys I've noticed, but I also feel like there's no way that I should be in a relationship with ANYONE if this is going to keep happening. What should I do?
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I think you need to take sometime to yourself and figure out what's best for you. Sometimes what we want isn't exactly what we need. I was in a relationship with a guy for a year and a half myself but I was in love with another guy. Some ssy that's wrong but I didn't know what to do at the time. While I was in that relationship I kept thinking about this guy. The relationship ended for me, and I pursued this guy that I was so much in love with. I believe if you want to be with someone that there is a common bond that can't be broken. I might look at guys now but no one compares to my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have a deeper connection than any other guy could give me. My boyfriend knows everything about me and really cares about me.
You have to figure out what you want in the end. If you keep looking at other guys and wanting to see things further than maybe its best you go your seperate ways. You're younger and its okay if your boyfriend isn't the one right now. You also mentioned that your boyfriend doesn't trust you and thats not good for a relationship. Trust needs to be present in a relationship for it to work. Good luck and I wish you the best!
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You need to sort out what you want and real fast, A year and a half is not cool to still not know what you want from the relationship. Of course he doesn't trust you, You spilled the beans to him that you are interested in other men. Therefore, You made your boyfriend feel insecure in the relationship.
If you aren't happy, Then you should tell him. Don't keep him around if you don't want to be with him. Is this the case? I don't know but from what you've written it sounds like your not happy. It is okay to notice other people when you are dating someone but to act upon those feelings is NOT okay. There is no such thing as emotional cheating, It's either you cheat or you don't. However, You should decide on what you want, Be honest with yourself. If you want to be with your boyfriend then learn to be happy and appreciate what you have. You will only be happy if you allow yourself to be happy, Right now.....You are holding yourself back.
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