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how do I let snogging lead further?
Okay so me and my boyfriend have snogged loads but I want to go further and so does he but how do I do it? I am 16
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Your boyfriend may not really be ready to go to the next step. If he was ready the two of you would figure it out.
I'm not going to try and tell you how to take that next step for the reason stated above. At 16, while your physical bodies may be capable, you are not really mature enough to take on the responsibilities of that step. Full on adult sexual relations bring with it any number of responsibilities and concerns. Pregnancy and STDs are the number one concerns.
As the female you alone will bear the responsibility of pregnancy and what to do with a child. While birth control is the responsibility of both partners you are the one who will be come pregnant, so you have the vested interest in making sure you have the best protection. Condoms are only 85% effective at preventing pregnancy when worn correctly.
STDs are also the concerns of both partners. Once again condoms do not effectively prevent the transmission of all STDs. Even though you may both be virgins it does not mean one of you has not picked up an STD through non-sexual intercourse play with another partner. Have you two been tested?
The two of you are really too young to be engaging in full intercourse if that is your meaning. Sexual intercourse is truly a lovely thing for two adults to engage in and is worth waiting for. To try to engage in sexual intercourse as teenagers is fraught with so many problems it is not the pleasurable activity it should be. Nothing that you have to do in the back of cars or hidden from others can be.
While I will not tell you not to, I will ask you to consider that your question says one of you is not ready yet. This means you should wait until he is ready and not force him to do that for which he is not ready. To do so could force him away.
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