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My friends talk about me behind my back
My friends talk about me behind my back, and they end up dissing me for this other girl.
Ok, so here's the deal:
Me and this girl(Lucy) used to be the BESTEST of friends back in elementry school. But, after I met 2 other girls,(Hannah and Mya) she has been trying to seperate all of us. Now, Hannah and Mya diss me for Lucy! We ALL have all the same classes together. So, how do I get them to hang out with me again?
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Make new friends. You deserve too be happy... why worry about them? I bet there are funnier, cooler kids in your class who's friendships could last a life time. AND who knows, they may grow up eventually, and realise how much they miss you. Just make them earn your trust first :-)
Chin up sweets :-)
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Honey, I know it hurts when your friends talk about you behind your back, but it's not worth it to hang out with them. If they have done it before, chances are they won't even hesitate before doing it again. Some friendships just aren't meant to be because some people change and drift apart. The same thing happened with me and my ex best friend last year. In the beginning we were really good friends, and she ended up talking about me behind my back and using me. No matter how much you enjoyed your friendship with them, it's time to move on. You don't deserve to have friends that treat you that way. Go find some other girls in your class to talk to. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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Well what's your deifnition of a friend? A friend is certainly not someone who is going to talk behind your back. Yes you may have some fights here and there but a friend will never hurt you. Oprah has always said 'love never hurts' so if you have some hurting you they don't really care about your feelings. Don't you want to find friends who are good to you and treat you well? What I would do is confront them and ask them what's going on. If they keep 'dissing' you then I would stay away from them and find some new friends. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!
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Laught and the world laughts with you, cry and you sob alone.
The bigger you make this issue, the bigger it will become to everyone involved... and in the end, the more uncomfortable. When things become uncomfy around you, even when it because someone is talking trash behind your back, people associate that uncomfortability with you... bad vibes...
Best thing to do is to play it cool. It's not easy, but don't react to the situation. Be the same to those girls like you have in the past, let their problems be theirs. Obviously this does not mean you should run after them and be all needy, this is precisely the opposite, without being snotty towards them!
Be happy, so do things that you like to do, associate with people who like to do the same things. Also try new things, look at interesting things other people are doing and join in. When I'm interested in something, I tend to naturally ask questions about it, how it works, etc. In short, be proactive.
And by the way, everybody loves fun, and people tend to flock to the source of that fun. That way, because people are having fun around you, they will start to associate you with having fun and will see you as being fun.
If those girls should come crawling back, hear them out, but listen to your B.S. sense and then YOU get to decide where to go from there.
...but I may be wrong... and then its a terrible tragedy..
Best of luck!
Hoji
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How do you get them to hang out with you?
Why would you want to even hang out with someone that leaves you high and dry? If these "friends" treat you like this then obviously they aren't "friends" to begin with. They aren't worth your time. Find friends that will actually want to spend their time with you and will appreciate having you as their friend. Friends don't go and ditch other friends and they certainly don't go and talk about one another behind their backs.
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