Just take a deep breath and open your mouth, honey. I usually have this issue. The only time I didn't, actually, was when I met my current boyfriend. He started talking to me, so it was hard for me to not talk to him. The only thing to do is to know that if he likes you, he'll have to like you for who you are, and not who you pretend to be. So don't worry about acting cool, etc. Just be you. I mean, it's okay to be a little klutzy, lol. God knows I am. I can't even count how many times I've tripped while walking with my guy...lol.
As for not wanting to talk to him when he's around his posse, talk to him while he's alone. If he's really never alone, just open your mouth. Good luck!
-Siren

Alrightie. *Cracks knuckles* Your sister has no say - I repeat - NO say whatsoever in who you like and/or date. Unless she has a good reason, just go for it. Before you do, ask her why she doesn't want you to go out with him. Best of luck!
-Siren

Frankly, this boy, as most are, is an idiot. Just tell him you really don't "love it when he does that," and to please stop. As I've said, guys are dense. Us girls need to kinda poke guys a little until they get it.
-Siren

I'm glad you're not just jumping into it. Lemme get this straight...you know 12/13 year olds who are having sex? Wow. That's...not...too...smart. Do they even know the risks? If you know you wouldn't last long, I wouldn't go have sex with this guy. Wait 'til you're really in love and you'd be willing to spend the rest of your life with this guy. Also, think about this - if you were to get all intimate with this guy, and he broke up with you, like, the next day, how would you feel? I mean, really...I would wait until the love of your life comes along, lol.

Congratulations on getting into all three colleges! I would go with Florida State, as it has the best program. Good luck!
-Siren

Yeah, go on the pill (helps regulate your cycle). Either that, or just wait for it to settle. Since you got it so young, it may take time. Hell, I got mine at 12. I'm now 16, and it's just starting to regulate itself. It's horridly annoying. If you want it to settle fast, the Pill is the best answer. Good luck =)
-Siren

*Laughs* Wow. Okay, even though I love Valentine's Day, this poem is awesome. Lol.
Delving deeper, I'm guessing you had your heart broken. My consolation: Guys are stupid. It's a general rule. They never know what's good for them, and that includes what girls are good for them.
But again, GREAT poem. LOL!
-Siren

Okie, if you two really loved each other, chances are you wouldn't have broken up. But I know that very few people will see it the way I do, so...sit down and talk to your ex. If he's nice and all that, he won't blow you off. As far as you telling him, just explain what happened. You two broke up, but your feelings for him never died. Don't bring the word "love" into the conversation - most guys cannot handle that. Good luck!
-Siren

Once a relationship ends, generally, you shouldn't go back. But, if you really couldn't bear the thought of being with anyone else, you need to speak to the new man and basically tell him what you just told us. The first man will never again be a part of your life, etc. Good luck. =)
-Siren

Don't choose...As everyone has been saying, it is possible to have more than one best friend. I have, like, ten. Lol. If your "best friend" doesn't see that, you should tell her. =)

Yeah, I'd say it is good. It gives you a chance to see the person during school, if you're both busy, or even if you aren't.

Okay, if he likes both of you and tells both of you he likes you more than the other, he's not that loyal of a guy. I would break off all relations with him. I know it's hard, but chances are he's going to cheat on you if he hasn't already, and if he does, you'll feel like crap. Trust me. I was in this situation, and it's not fun. You'll be happier if you aren't with him. Then you're free to find a guy who will really respect you. This guy doesn't appear to care about you much at all. He needs to know that he can't just treat girls like this, and you may have to be the one to teach him. Good luck.
-Siren

I used to have the same problem. Listen - learn to love yourself and ignore everything people say about you. The only person's opinion that matters is your own. If it's really bothering you, try to lose a little weight. Talk to your mom (or dad, whichever parent you're more comfy with), and tell her/him that you'd like to lose weight, and ask if they can help you find a diet, or whatever. Good luck.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt. =)
-Siren

First off, watch how you use the word "love." That word gets thrown around a lot and a lot of people don't even know what love feels like. That's a pet peeve of mine, but anyway...
Give it a little time. It took my boyfriend over a week to even kiss me on the cheek. Lol. In this day and age, however, it's perfectly acceptable for the girl to make the first move. Or, if you don't feel comfy kissing or hugging him, just give him some li'l hints...Guys are dense. We have to kinda poke them awhile until they get it. Good luck. =)

*Laughs* I had this problem as well (in the same place, no less). Zit meds. Go to a dermatologist and he or she can reccomend something that will work for you. Dermatologists are a teenager's best friend...I'd try Retin-A micro. I think it's prescription, but I'm not sure. That's what I use. I'm not sure if this helped, but I hope so! Zits are annoying. Good luck fixing it, lol.
-Siren

Maybe instead of talking to your sister, you should talk to your mother. Sure, putting her on the pill might give her the go ahead, but think of it this way - sex isn't quite as bad (if you're careful) as drugs are. Besides, if you're on the pill and you use condoms, etc. there's not a very large chance of pregnancy. I have a fifteen-year-old friend who lost her virginity. If your sister is really ready to have sex, let her. Just tell her to be careful and make sure she knows that sex isn't something you just throw around.
Or, talk to the boys your sister has been passing condoms out to. Get clarification from THEM. Find out from them if your sister is still a virgin, etc. This is if you can't get it from your sister. As for stealing your mom's car - she returned it, right? A lot of kids go through a rebellious stage. Chances are this will stop when what she's doing becomes legal. (sex, driving...) I hope everytyhing works out.
-Siren

Just let him down gently. I know that's pretty much an oximoron, but really, that's what you're gonna have to do. Just be nice about it. For instance: "You're a really great guy, but I just don't reciprocate your feelings for me." I've had to do that, and it sucks to see the look on their face if they really like you, but you just have to be as gentle as you can. Good luck. =)
-Siren

Honey, if I knew how to get my name out there, I would be waist-deep in cash right now.
You need a literary agent to get your book published by any big names. Even then, expect to be rejected a lot. You might get lucky, though. Best of luck! =)
-Siren

In most states it actually isn't illegal. People who have sex before marriage are not dumbasses. It's simply a matter of opinion. My parents waited until they got married, but I have a friend who's just turning 16 (which is the legal age in michigan, for example) and lost her virginity. *Shrug*

Yes, pot is really that bad. The cancer-causing ingredients in one joint are equal to 22 cigarettes. I suggest you sit them down and calmly explain to them that you love them and smoking pot is hurting them. If they're at all logical, they'd understand the 1 joint = 22 cigs, so try that piece of info on them. Good luck. =)
-Siren

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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