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everyone is doing it??
Well first of all...everyone of my friends are having sex now and im only in the 8th grade...i'll b in high school in a couple months and everybody will be trying to get me to have sex??...should i just try it ..like everybody else..or just tell them that im waiting for a special guy?...but the point is ..is that if im goin out with a guy i might think he is the right guy and go for it but i know we wont last long..will sumone pleez talk to me?
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WAIT! till you are ready! do not give something like that away! just dont! its ment to be for a speacial guy! following your friends like that is like saying if your friends were to jump off a bridge you would do it too! just wait! It suppose to be speacial so make it speacial! dont just go do it cuz the in-crowd is doing it to! stick up for youself! now go and do what your heart tells you and good luck! xoxo trix
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WAIT FOR THE RIGHT GUY!! don't lose your virginity yet, you're still too young!!! and if you think you've found the right guy and you KNOW in your heart that he's the one...then think about it. but don't do it just to try it or bc your friends are doing it, then that totally ruins the whole experience! WAIT!!
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maybe i'm just the soppy romantic type , but i will only do it after i get married to my love . Because i beleive in staying pure until you find your soul mate ......
sorry if i sound icky or whatever , but i really don't think you should be doing it now . don't taint yourself or your rep .
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ok, if you know for surethat your ready for this kind of relationship and reponsibility and you have found the absolute right person and you truly love them, and i mean really love them, then you should sit down with that person and discuss the issue. But if i were you (i'm in 7th grade and peeps are already pressuring me to have sex too)i wouldn't. personally, i'm going to wait until marriage and i really think that you should too. Even if you friends are having sex at this age, i think they are crazy, but ya know do what you want, but seriously, before you do anything, think about the risks and if it's really worth it. I mean tis is a life changing thing.
Thanx for your time
write again
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Personally I don't think you should. There was a Lifetime movie about this same scenario. The girl really has a break down after she loses her virginity. You shouldn't have sex because of your friends. At least wait until high school. You don't wanna grow up that fast. Intercourse has physical and emotional side effects. If you can handle being pregnant, that's one thing, but your child if you kept it would suffer more. Oh and it WOULD get around. Teens talk. You really don't want a reputation going into high school. But y'know, if you do... make sure it's right. If you know it's gonna end soon, don't. Save it for someone special.
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YOU'RE IN 8TH GRADE? I'm in 8th grade. EVERYONE IS CURIOUS ABOUT SEX...and they say how they want it so bad...
Haha...you know you do people...
But...I'm going to wait...even if everyone around me is having sex. People could have dieases.
Sifilis...or AIDS!...
Those are some NASTY diseases.
I want to love the person. Wait until you're married...unless you love the person, it really won't mean anything. Set limits for yourself...and if people bother you about still being a virgin...WHO THE HELL CARES?!?!?! Because, in the long run...they will see how stupid they were when they end up getting caught, getting a disease, getting pregnant....or GETTING DUMPED BY THE PERSON THEY THOUGHT LOVED THEM.
Sex at this age DOES NOT equal love...trust me.
People at this age just care about "scoring"...they don't actually love the person...
if they DID love you...they would respect you enough to NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOU. And think about it...how often do you stay with somebody for the rest of your life in eighth grade? So...sex wouldn't be worth it...you should wait.
I hope I got through to you okay.
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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omg....i feel the exact same way as you do...im in 8th grade 2 and i will be going 2 the high school in a few months 2. my friends have been doin wut your friends have been doing and i dont feel comfortable doin it with any1 but that 1 special guy. my advice 2 you is...dont get pressured into it. if your friends pressure u into it and u dont so they get mad at u...there not true friends. u may think ur with that 1 special guy but he might jus want 2 have sex with u. jus stay with him for a while and if he proves 2 u hes with u for more than sex and u would b comfortable having sex...go 4 it...JUST USE PERTECTION!
good luck
kimberly
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you will know when the time is right i can't really explain how but trust me you'll know
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Don't have sex until your married... because you can end up pregnant and no father to help you. and if you friends want to do that let them but don't do it... you don't have to be like your friends... be youself! and if a guys that you go out with says if you love me you'll do it w/ me tell him if you love me you'll wait for me.
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If they force you to have sex, don't do it. Only do it if you're ready. I've heard that you just have a feeling when it is Mr. Right. So if that's true and you have that feeling, make your choice.
Hope I helped!
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I really doubt all your friends are having sex in the eigth grade. I had one friend tops at your age who had had sex. And she was raped. Chances are that they are telling stories to be like everyone else. It's extremely immature. My advice to you if anyone asks you to have sex: do what you think is right. Chances are that you really don't want to have sex. And not everyone in the high school crowd is having sex. You should stay abstinant until marraige. That way you can say that you had been saving yourself for your husband until then and it will have more meaning.
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Why are your friends forcing you into sex? It is a personal thing, and a personal choice. Don't do something you are not comfortable with. What do you have to prove to your friends by having sex? Save yourself for that special someone, you will be happy that you did. And you won't find that special guy in 8th grade. Relationships this young don't last, and have little meaning. Please wait, you and your friends are far to young.
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If all your friends jumped off a cliff would you do it? If you feel like waiting, wait. Mr Right will turn up eventually.
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I am also in the 8th grade, and I have 2 best friends who are pregnant, and are definetaly not ready. You should wait until you are emotionaly stable.
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I'm glad you're not just jumping into it. Lemme get this straight...you know 12/13 year olds who are having sex? Wow. That's...not...too...smart. Do they even know the risks? If you know you wouldn't last long, I wouldn't go have sex with this guy. Wait 'til you're really in love and you'd be willing to spend the rest of your life with this guy. Also, think about this - if you were to get all intimate with this guy, and he broke up with you, like, the next day, how would you feel? I mean, really...I would wait until the love of your life comes along, lol.
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It's good that you're having these reservations. Shows you have at least some common sense. Truth is, most of your classmates are probably lying. You see, from the ages of 13 to like 15 or 16 everyone tries to be better than everyone at EVERYTHING. Just because it seems like "everyone is doing" something doesn't mean everyone really is. It's very unlikely that EVERYONE you know has had sex and you're just in 8th grade. I'm a senior in High School and most of my friends haven't, even though some of them say they have.
Wait a few years. And don't do it until you find a guy you trust 100% and someone you're in love with. I mean a special connection. That may not be until college...it may not be until you're married...just wait. These things take time and the worst thing you can do is rush it.
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Never have sex with someone just because "everyone else is doing it." Wait until you do meet that special guy, that you know you want to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH. (Sorry, didn't mean to sound to dramatic there, just trying to get the point across! :))
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You should never have sex with someone just because that's what all your friends are doing. That's something that you can't take back. Wait till you love someone and are with someone that loves you back. It will mean so much more.
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first of all don't do what everyone else do you know what you want to do. but right now you shouldn't be having sex because you are confused. i am a ninth grader right now and i haven't had sex yet. my ex boyfriend wanted me to have sex with him but it wasn't my time. i would have lost my virginity to him if we was still going together because it was going to be a year. but i had to let him go cause he was pressuring me to have sex with him. if a guy is pressuring you don't just give up and say i will have sex with you cause that ain't the answer. your time will come and when it does you will know because you won't have a single doubt in your mind that you are not ready for sex.
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Just because all your friends are diong it doesn't mean you have to. If your not ready then don't do it. Also, be sure that the right guy is really the right guy. Have pride in you decision.
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Well honestly you dont have to do something just because everyone else does it. I will be in high school in a few months as well, the only real thing you can do is whatever makes you happy. Dont have sex with someone UNTIL YOU KNOW, he is the one. A lot of people might be pressuring you to have sex in high school, but do what you feel like doing, if you are not ready, don't do it, WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE READY! I hope this helps!
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If I were you I wouldn't have sex yet. You are only in 8th grade and you are probabally not married yet. Wait till your married and then you wont have to worry about him leaving you right after you guys have sex. Also, you most likely dont want a kid now at this age and there are risks that the protection might not work.
examples:
do you wanna take a birth control pill every single day of your life untill you wanna get pregnant. once you stop taking the pill and it wears off... BAM ur pregnant.
you can forget to take the pill
REMEMBER!!!!!!!!
also, condoms dont always work.....
more advice: u might wanna wait untill u wanna have the baby.....
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If all your 8th grade friends are having sex then they are extremly stupid. At such a young age (I'm from England and am guessing that 8th grade is like, 12-13 years old) their bodies are not ready for sex. Do NOT have sex unless you're ready, and you're sure it's with a guy you like. Some people think sex is just for laughs, but they'll regret it when they show up with an STD. Tell them you're waiting for someone special, and NEVER feel pressurised to have sex if you're not ready for it.
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I agree with 'notnormal'. I must also add that the lowest legal age of consent I've seen is 16, even though that's quite dispicable and absolutely horrid.
You should wait until after youre married, but if you're going to insist on having sex with that 'special guy' when he's only your boyfriend at the very least wait for a long time to make sure.
Trust me on this, your friends are probably screwing their lives to hell right now. Meet up with them in 10 or 20 years, I'd be interested to know what happens to 'em.
(P.S.- you really need better friends)
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There are a lot of problems with sex. You could get pregnant or get a really bad disease, even with a condom. There is a failure rate with condoms. It could be absolutely no fun. This is likely if you are not with the right person for the right reason. The guy could talk bad about you later. This happens a lot. You could feel very guilty, sorry, and bad about yourself afterwards.
Your friends who are trying to talk you into it are not the ones taking all these risks. They have nothing to loose. They probably would be happier if you were no longer a virgin, like they aren't. Once you loose your virginity, you can't get it back. Believe it or not, virginity is special to a lot guys.
I would just wait. You won't gain anything by early sex, and could loose a lot.
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