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Q: OK i like this guy and he is really cool and funny and all we ca even say ilove you to each other and its ok.. He is in 7th grade and i'm in 8th but we are really good friends like we go to the movies and he calls me all the time and talk about nothing for 2 hours or more.Once he told me that he liked me and i said i liked him too but he hasn't done anything like ask me out. I like him and i want to ask him out but at the same time i just want to be friends and not ruin our friendship. But heres the thing he is the weirdest, most geekest guy in 7th grade everybodys told me but he is my friend and i can't just turn my back on him like that and people think he is gay too. HELP what should i do.

Ask him out. If he likes you like he said he did before, he wont have a problem saying yes. Some guys are different.. and you say he's a geek.. but if he's your friend, it shouldn't matter.. if you like him friendly-wise and boyfriend-wise.. do what you know you'd be more comfortable with..

Q: Ok I have fallen hard for one of my guy friends and i've liked him as more than a friend since January or something. Ok, now he has a girlfriend, but on the day he asked her out he told me that he really only liked her as a friend, and this girl's friend kind of made him feel like this girl would be crushed if he didn't ask her out, so he did. And tht was a few weeks ago. And last week, he kept looking at me and paying attention to me a whole lot more than his girlfriend and flirting and such, and this week he's hanging around with her again, and he still glances at me, but it's like we're just friends again... I'm so confused and I don't know what to do... any help will be greatly appreciated, THANKS!

Just wait for the best. Don't stop being his friend and remind him every now and then how you feel about him. He obviously has feelings for you if he flirts with you and glances at you when he's with his girlfriend. From what I see, he asked her out because he felt bad. I've got friends just like that.. especially guys, thats what they do. I can tell you from what I'm reading and from what I know, that he does like you and the time will come when he breaks up with her and asks to be with you. It might make his girlfriend jealous then, but she'll get over it. Hope this helps.

Q: Does anyone think it is absolutley gross for a grade 7 to go out with a grade 8?

and why?

No, not at all. Age is just a number, and when you get older you will realize that. (or whoever it is you're talking about).. now if a 7 grader went out with a 9th grader or a 10th grader, it would be completely weird.. but no, its not gross.

Q: Be4 anyone reads this that is a punk i have nothing agints you. i just dont understand you.
My problem is that my BESTEST friend in the whole world was like a pretty girl and was well prepy and now all she wants to do is be a sk8 boreder and wear black and she is always like pink is and evil color! She used to let me brush her hair and put her make up on but now she wont even let me touch her. I think that are relationship is floating away and i never wont that to happen. I know she has a right to be her own person but i dont like the person she os becoming and I dont want to change her bak its just i wont to understand wats going on with her and y she want to change all of a sudden i just am confused plz help me dont let our friendship fade wat should i do to figure this out and be able to understand her again.
-confused-

Well. I know where you're coming from. Actually, It was my best friend in your best friends place. Yeah. usually we just do it for the attention or for the hot guys who are skaters and us girls think they will like us if we become more like them. Thats not true. A guy likes you for who you are, not what you're trying to be. But the best thing you could do, is talk to her. Pull her aside and find out whats going on. And sooner or later, i can tell you, she will mention that its about a guy.. or at least that she thought it would be nice to be difference for once. People are like that. Give her time.. if she doesn't realize how much she had with you, she will regret it, because she wont get much from the skaters. Hope this helped.

Q: Today I was sitting in class and I just picked up this needle thing and started running it up and down my arm. I don't know why but then I started scratching myself with it really badly so that I had marks all over my arm. After school, my boyfriend saw but he made a joke of it. I think I did it because I want attention because my parents don't really give me any. I was really upset that my boyfriend didn't care, does it show that he doesn't care about me? Everybody that saw what I had done just ignored me.

Well, I will try to do the best I can. I can honestly say I don't know why they are ignoring you. I've had 4 friends with the same problem, and they did do it for attention... and believe me, they got it, but it wasnt how they expected it to be, I think you shouldn't do it for attention, because for one, it hurts terribly, and for two, many people don't understand why someone would do such a thing, maybe thats why your boyfriend ignored you and other people ignored you, because they dont know why you would want to harm yourself, if something is bothering you and you don't know another way to help yourself out, you should talk to someone, ask someone for help... just dont harm yourself.. but no.. I'm sure your boyfriend LOVES you... just dont harm yourself and make a scene... hope this helps, i really do..

Q: i really wanna have a boyfrined. i dont even think any body likes me. all of my friends have boyfriends.i m kinda begging to loose hope. not one guyat out homecoming dance asked me to dance. i dotn think im ugly. what should i do?

Be yourself... You shouldnt worry about what guys think, or what other people think.. There is someone out there who will love you for who you are, even if THEY think you're pretty or ugly.. they will love you trust me.. I'm not the prettiest thing in the world.. but some people think I'm pretty... I've given up on looking for boys.. so now I'm waiting until they find me.. maybe you should come really close to people you like, and you will connect with someone you will soon love.. trust me.. I've been there before.. Hope this helps.. And one more time, JUST BE YOURSELF!

Q: My friends are telling me you are so good at giving advice. So here I go: I'm 13, and I want to try a sport. I dont know which one though. I'd like to tryout for basketball but I'm not that good. Soccer is fun too..But again I'm not good. So how do I find a sport I'm good at and that I like? Please help. My friends say your so good and I hope its true because I need help & fast xoxo me

Well.. I don't know about being good with advice... but I know the only thing you can possibly do is just concentrate with the sports you like the most... You say you might not be good at basketball or soccer, but if you practice daily with someone.. then you are sure to do well.. practice makes perfect, you just have to dedicate yourself to something you want to do better at. I'm not good at soccer or basketball either, but I play with the people around me and I just have fun... and I learned quickly.. I'm still not as good as I wanted to be, but the thing is... when you play with other people and just have fun, you'll do great...Hope I helped you... let me know if there is anything else you need...

Q: Hi i just moved into my new apartment. My old apartment was crammed with junk. I threw out/gave to charity about 80% of my stuff. I need new things for my apartment. But I dont know where to start and what colors to use. Can you help me? Thanks!:)

Well... Seeing as how you gave away or threw out your other things... lets just start from scratch... Pick the 3 best colors you like to live with and start with them...Maybe you can find some pieces of wood, and put them together to make a nice little coffee table... Whatever you feel comfortable with... I'm not really good at designing or anything of the sort.. but I hope I helped you out.

Q: I need your help! I am the middle child in my family. My older sister is 20, and is beautiful and loved by many. My little sister is 11 and she is pretty, and just the baby. I'm 14, and there is nothing special about me. I get no attention from my family. Help!

Wow. The only thing I can possibly tell you, is to talk to someone...Talk to someone you know will listen, maybe your older sister, maybe your younger sister. I'm sure there are many special things about you.. its just that no one can see them because they arent looking hard enough...
If talking to your sisters doesnt help... Let me know... I hope I helped you out.

Q: does n e one know good ways to relive stress...i've been through a lot latley and i would like to know if there was n e thing i could do to help myself get over it!

MUCH THXZ

Yes, I know for a fact there are many many ways to releave stress... other than SEX and PARTIES. ( I've talked to one of the advice givers about telling you that sex was a good way to do it)... I know you can hang out with your friends, go see a movie, spend time with your family, go swimming, read a book, watch tv... there are oh so many ways... I hope this helped you out.. if there is anything else you'd like to ask me please let me know...
*Crystal*

Q: Okay my problem is that my mom wont give one of my best friends a chance!!! My mom thinks just because Nicole** (**name has been changed) is just a lil different than my other friends that I cant hang with her! Ive asked many times to go out with Nicole but my mom continues to say no because "theres just something about her..out of all the people who call you, shes the rudest" hellloooo she (my mom) dont even answer the phone most of the time! I DO! Ugggghhh! is there ANY way to convince my mom that my friend isnt all trouble, even though she may be?

Well chick, the only thing I can really tell you is that your mom has been a teenager/child once before and she understands how kids are and how kids can be, which may be why she isnt letting you hang out with her... the only way you can possibly convince her, is to let her trust you with your friend... maybe both of you can hang out with your mom and act like your mom is just another friend, and im sure once your moms sees how good of a friend she is, she will trust you and Nicole** enough to let you hang out with her more than you do now.

I hope this helps... let me know if you need more advice... or have any questions...

Q: okay well i think im popular at my school..I have a lot of friends that are boys and a ton of friends that are girls..I just cant get a boyfriend..Im not pretty..but I flirt a lot and boys flirt with me a little too..but nobody will ask me out or anything..and if i ask someone out they will say no..and i guess the other boys do to but there is this girl who is really not attractive..i mean people call her Shrek and stuff! She always is going out with someone!! I dont get how she gets boys!! How can I get a boyfriend?! I dont know what Im doing wrong!

please help..

If you want my opinion, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Boys can be boys... and If they can't see what kind of person you are, then something must me wrong. I don't know about this other girl they're calling shrek, but I'm pretty sure she isn't that bad, right? I mean I'm sure youre not that bad either. Don't tell yourself you're not pretty. Everyone is pretty inside. You shouldnt worry about having a boyfrind anyway... You're still too young. Heck, I'm a freshman and I'm still too young. Flirting is okay, until it gets too serious, but everyone flirts all the time... I think you should just stick with your friends, hanging out.. and flirting more, im sure someone will soon realize you like them and they might like you back, give it time trust me... your still a child. Hope this helps.

Q: ok i haven't had my period yet but i have a question. When ur having ur period and your swimming, what do you wear- pads of tampons so u won't leak?

You shouldnt be in the water on your first day of your period anytime at all. I would suggest you use tampons, but if you are in the water you wouldnt leak.

Q: hey crystal its shane yoho i was wondering if i dropped the surgery thing will you go out with me?

please help!!!!!!!!!!

lol.. why do you want to go out with me.. you dont even know me... i mean come on.. you dont know me i dont know you.. so no.. im sorry.. do what you want, its ur life.

Q: Your body is a sacred thing and should be treated as such.You were born a certain sex.so why would you want to be somthing different?bi sexual?That tells me you have no respect for yourself.And you are willing to have sex with anyone just for your pleasure.My question is,Have you told the ones that love you that you are bi? Or are you one of these people that think you dont have too.We all have a gift and if we abuse it it might be taken from us.Gain some respect for yourself and see what might happen

Listen here hon. This is me. I may do whatever i wish. You are not me. You dont have to worry about it, so instead of being on here bothering and worrying about other ppl's sexual life, you need to get your own life..so back off.. and dont worry about me..i have plenty of respect for myself.. do you.. i tell who i wanna... SO WHY DONT YOU GAIN RESPONSIBILITY.. and worry about your self...

Q: I am a 14 year old male and I was wondering if you could get me a bisexual,or lesbian girl friend or tell me if my parents might aggry with me if I would want to get surgery to become a girl.

Well I dont think there is much you can do. You should be happy to be who you are. Why do you want to change? I am bisexual.. but ya know.. and if your parents cant accept you for who you are or what you want to do, im sorry. Believe in yourself.. and dont change!

Best of Luck--- hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: ok... new question... it kinda the same... im 14 in 8th grade and i like a dude my freind gave his sn and we talk on im ( a lot) but i also have a crush on a dude in my third hour... ive been crushing on him for a while now... but im scared to say nething cuz im afraid he might not wanna be my friend nemore.. and thats happened to me b4... so im just kinda scared to talk to him! what do i do?

The best advice i can give you.. is just be yourself around him.. thats the only good you can do.. eventually if he feels the same.. you will find out.. give it time.. maybe its because your in middle school.. wait until high school.. i hope this helps.. lemme know if you need more advice....
*CrYsTaL*

Q: what is the diff in given head & a blowjob

Well honey, i dont think there is a difference... lol i've wondered the same thing, until i FIRST tried it.. and i dont think there is a difference..
hope this helps.. bye bye!

Q: i know how gay guys have sex, but how do lesbians do it?

There are many ways for girls to have sex with other girls.. using toys.. fingering.. oral sex.. so many ways.. but use protection also.. they do make condoms for girls..
hope this helps.. Crystal

Q: if you kiss a guy and you both have braces will they get stuck together for sure or just maybe?

No, they wont.

bio

Hey! I'm Crystal, as you know. I am here to give advice to those who need it the most. I've given much advice in my time and I plan to keep doing it. Don't be afraid to ask me any personal questions or even random questions, I can help with anything, because believe it or not, I've been in some of the same situations that most people have been in. I love giving advice, its my life, Not only am I good at it, but I understand where people are coming from. So, Don't take anything to seriously and ask away, Thanks! :)