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PreP to PunK
Be4 anyone reads this that is a punk i have nothing agints you. i just dont understand you.
My problem is that my BESTEST friend in the whole world was like a pretty girl and was well prepy and now all she wants to do is be a sk8 boreder and wear black and she is always like pink is and evil color! She used to let me brush her hair and put her make up on but now she wont even let me touch her. I think that are relationship is floating away and i never wont that to happen. I know she has a right to be her own person but i dont like the person she os becoming and I dont want to change her bak its just i wont to understand wats going on with her and y she want to change all of a sudden i just am confused plz help me dont let our friendship fade wat should i do to figure this out and be able to understand her again.
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I don't know her so I can't say for sure why she would want to change. People do it everyday!
You will have to ask her why if you want to know. Is she no longer speaking to you? Are you sure she's really changed or has your perception of her changed?
I'm willing to bet that (unless she has suddenly became a drug user) she is the same as always, just dresses a little diffrent.Maybe she's tired of being judged for her looks and just wants to look diffrent. Talk to her okay? Don't let what she's wearing bother you so much.
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Well. I know where you're coming from. Actually, It was my best friend in your best friends place. Yeah. usually we just do it for the attention or for the hot guys who are skaters and us girls think they will like us if we become more like them. Thats not true. A guy likes you for who you are, not what you're trying to be. But the best thing you could do, is talk to her. Pull her aside and find out whats going on. And sooner or later, i can tell you, she will mention that its about a guy.. or at least that she thought it would be nice to be difference for once. People are like that. Give her time.. if she doesn't realize how much she had with you, she will regret it, because she wont get much from the skaters. Hope this helped.
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Well some people do that to get attention...so try talkin to her and stuff and discuss with her how you feel about it!
cody
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ok i went through that phase of wearing black and wanting to skateboard all the time. she probably just wants to be her own person. i know i hate fitting in. i think she`s trying so hard to be different and to be noticed, that she`s taking it too far and pushing you away. i think you should talk to her and just tell her you want her to be an individual but you don`t want to lose her. if she`s like me she should understand. and by the way.. there`s nothing wrong with wanting to skateboard all the time. :)
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well there could be a reason why your friend changed. if there is then maybe you should talk to her about it. if not then just tell her how you feel, but not in a rude way. just tell her you're concerned that your friendship isnt what it used to be and you dont want anything bad to happen. good luck!
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People try and find their own identity as they mature. Maybe this will work for her, maybe it wont and she will change again. Regardless, you are right, you can't change her back or do anything about this. Just maintain the friendship on the level she is comfortable with for the time being and see what happens. As people mature they try and fit in and find a social scene that works for them. Sometimes this is going to mean you lose contact with close friends as they drift away. Just always remember they are still friends, you just might not have so much to do with them.
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You may not like the person she's becoming, but it seems that person is her. She's an individual person, and (not that I'm saying you are, but I'm just trying to get it out there) you can't really force someone to be what they're not. If she's grown farther away from "prep" (I hate using labels...c'mon people, they're for soup cans, not humans) culture, just accept it. Chances are she's growing up and experimenting with different (*groans* Society today...) groups. As for your friendship, just continue the one you have. Just because you don't share alot of same interests doesn't mean you can't still be friends! And as far as understanding her, just...talk to her. Get to know her. Ask her the simplest things, such as "What's your favorite color NOW?" and such to get to know her "new" self. I really hope this helps you work out things with your friend. Get back to me if you have any additional questions.
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omg!!! lol.. same thing happened to me last year with maii bestststtst friend ((isabellll)) l0l.. yeah.. she was turning all punk and weird.. {{no offence to punk people either.. it was weird for her.. cuz shes sooooo preppy}} anywaes... she grew out of it in like.. a month.. so.. you friend probably will too.. :)
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