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to help or not to help?
*sorry this is so long but i really need help!* okay so my best friend has been with this one guy *bob for like 5 months. they never stop fitin n im always in b/w it! c *bob hated me for the longest time and he wud always start fites with my friend and tell her how she shudnt be friends with me... well she didnt listen but she also never stuck up for me! but dont worry im over that now! but just recently they broke up and fought every day since and then yesterday they got back together and broke up last nite. the problem is me and *bob put all of our feelings of hate aside and now we are friends! im really glad we dont fight anymore but now its causing problems with my friend! she always wanted us to be friends but now wenever we talk she usually comes up in the convo bc *bob still loves her! i feel really bad and idk wat to do! so my friend says she hates him and he makes her sick and stuff... but she still talks to him! (??idk y??) so now hes askin me to tell her that hes sorry and all this stuff and shes asking me wat to do! ive been in b/w all of their fites for 5 months and i really dont want to be involved anymore! i tried to tell my friend this but she doesnt listen and juss got mad at me... so my question is... do i help her? or do i try to stay out of it? please help me!
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u should stay out of it and if 1 of them stops being your friend because u wont be in the middle that is probly a good thing hope i helped
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Stay the hell up out of that. Just be there for a support and listen person. Give a few opinions that's all!! That's a fucked up situation and if you got in the middle of that you would end up with no friends. Watch out and just be a support system for now!!!
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Stay out of it and make it clear to each that you are not taking sides, not helping one and not the other, just staying clear of it because you are friends to both of them. They should respect that.
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You tell them both...I want to be your friend but I will not discuss him/her with you. Nor do I want to hear about them.
Then with luck you can all be friends.If you try to negotiate between them you are just always going to have one or the other mad at you for something. Better not to even go there.
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well you can help her by staying out of it. Tell them both you refuse to talk about one to the other, that they have to talk to each other. You are not a messenger. This will probly make one of them mad at you, but hey if they refuse to be your friend becuase you don't want to be in the middle of their silly fights then you don't need either one of them as freinds. It sucks but somtimes you just have to put your foot down and say "no"!
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