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Help me get my man back
Hi my name is Misty and I am 35 years old and have three children. I was in a long time relationship with my childs father and the man left me, then I met a new man and started a new relationship. Because the first man decided to come back to me I wanted to try and make it work so I explained to the new man and we stoped that relationship. Now the first man left me again and I want to explore the relationship that I had tried to have with the new man but he wont allow me to. I just need one more shot and I know I can make it work with him, I just need him to notice me and help him to understand that I will never leave him again. What can I do to make this man notice me and know that he can trust me and understand that the first man will never again be a part of my life again.....PLEASE HELP ME....I have a girlfriend who is trying but she just dosen't have the answer to this one.
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tell him that everyone makes mistakes and tellhim how much you luv him if that doesn't work come back to me and i'll give you more advice
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well if you really want it to work with the nrw man you have to get straight to the point with him explain that you thought alot of him, but when the first man came back you did it becaus eit was such a routine with him you couldnt imagine having anyone else deep down,but you are ready to move on and would really like it to be with him, tell him you will never hurt him again like you did and try a few gifts to show him you care, let me know how you get on , good luck
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Once a relationship ends, generally, you shouldn't go back. But, if you really couldn't bear the thought of being with anyone else, you need to speak to the new man and basically tell him what you just told us. The first man will never again be a part of your life, etc. Good luck. =)
-Siren
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If you haven't tried simply calling him and admitting you made a mistake, it doesn't hurt to give it a shot. But if you've done that and he is ignoring you, or if he won't return your calls, then the man doesn't want you back. If that's the case there is no solution to your problem, because it's impossible to turn back time.
Try to look at it from the new man's point of view. You probably had very good reasons for dumping him and trying to get back together with your ex, but what it boils down to is that you basically broke up with him because a better deal came along. So no matter how much he might have cared for you, he wasn't Mr. Right, just Mr. Right Now. That's hard to take, especially if he thought he was something more. Maybe he's still in pain, or maybe he's moved on, but either way he's no longer available.
Clearly your circumstances have changed, but there's no way for the new guy to peek into your head and understand that, assuming that he wants to. It's nice to believe that if we're sorry enough and sincere enough, people will give us chances to do everything over again and do it right. In reality, it very seldom happens. There's always a lurking fear that the same old bad stuff will happen again... and that's why so few marriages survive an affair or a trial separation. The only way to get around that is if you've built a solid foundation of mutual trust *before* the mistake happens. You don't appear to have reached that stage with the new guy before you dumped him, so unfortunately you don't have a foundation to build on. I feel for you, but you can't save a relationship that isn't there.
He might have other reasons for not wanting you back: perhaps he's contemplating a move out of town, or maybe he's found somebody else. In any case it would probably be best for you not to chase this man, and to focus on being the kind of person Guy #3 (whoever he is) might like to have for a friend, girlfriend, or wife.
Good luck.
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Well im 14. I do not know anything about things like this, but the best thing that i can say, is make sure you give yourself a chance to love again. Obviously you still loved your childs father enough to have taken him back, but he didnt love you if he left you again, so the only thing you can do, is make sure the guy you want back, understands who you are inside, an understands that you didnt mean to hurt him in anyway. Make sure you find the YOU in Yourself before you talk to him. You have to know what makes you happy, and if you want this guy back but he dont think he can trust you, believe in yourself and make him believe. I hope this helps.
Crystal
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