|
Bestfriends or Not
Hey yall,
First of all I want to thank all the people who helped me with my last question.I loved the advice.Thank you!
Ok my next question is about me and my bestfriend.
My bestfriend means alot to me, I mean i've know her for 4 years but.Recently she moved away from my neighborhoo,and not in walking distance.So when she moved I started hanging out with my new next door friend.We now hang out all the time like me and my bestfried use to do before she moved.My bestfriend is now taking it as though i'm tryna replace her. But i'm not.I mean she said that she don't like the fact that i'm slowly replacing her and I need to choose who do I want to be friends with more.Who should I choose? My bestfriend or my close friend.Both of them mean alot to me. I'm confused!
Love Apple
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
she's just jealous that she isn't with you but she doesn't want to tell you that in those exact words so she is telling you that you are replaceing her to make you feel bad. but don't sweat get her and your new friend together and maybe you all can hang out one day when you old but still friend comes down to visit you. she might have new friends too so tell her not to sweat cause it's a waiste of time to fight over that. but say it in a nice way. and she has to remember that everyone moves on.
write me back
always, lil attitude
]
Don't choose...As everyone has been saying, it is possible to have more than one best friend. I have, like, ten. Lol. If your "best friend" doesn't see that, you should tell her. =)
]
You shouldn't have to choose between your friends: most people have more than one close friend, even if only one of them is the "best" friend. It's not really fair of your best friend to ask you that, but maybe there are some things you can do to make her feel better about the situation.
I know it's harder to make plans with someone who isn't right near you, but if you set aside special time for her, she may not feel so left out. If you and she hang out regularly, she won't feel like you're disappearing from her life.
Tell your best friend that her friendship means a lot to you, and that you're willing to do as much as you can to make things better. But also tell her that it wouldn't be fair to your other friend to just be dumped, and that sometimes you'll want to spend time with other friends too. And your best friend should try to make new friends as well! It's hard when you move into a new neighborhood, but it's important for her to try. Probably she's awfully lonely right now, and that's what's making her so difficult.
Also, maybe your best friend would feel less excluded if you invited her along every now and then to do things with you and your next-door friend. She probably won't be able to come all the time, but if she feels like you're not shutting her out, it might help.
If none of this works, then I think your best friend is being unreasonable. If after all this, she's still pressuring you to choose, then tell her that you're very sorry she feels that way, but true friends respect each other's freedom. It's her loss if she can't accept that. Good luck!
]
Didn't you know that you can have more then one best friend?
]
First of all you shouldn't have to choose if she's your bestfriend she should know you can have mored than one friend. What do she think that your suppose to be with her 247. Ya'll don't go together. If she want you to choose tell her that she will never be replaced by anyone and that you still can't choose. If she don't like it then she wasn't a true friend to begin with.
]
tell her she will always be your best friend but she needs to accept that you also have a new friend and the reason you send more time with her is she is closer to your house than she is but that does not mean you are replacing her.
]
You should go with your heart my best friend is moving and its not in walking distance. I am going still hang out with her and also my other best friend. We are going to talk on the phone so....... what i am saying is pick the one that you can tell anything to and not worry about anyone else knowing about it. I now know who I going to pick the one thats not moving and i hope she reads this.
]
Well Apple, sometimes the hardest thing you can do is choose between your best friend, and your close friend. I've been in this situation many times. I think you should choose the one that you think will be there for you until the end. If you still want to be best friends with your best friend, then be it, but if i were you, i would choose the person that will always be there no matter what. Your best friend might have other friends since she has moved away, and she might make you think the same thing, that she is replacing you. Think about what you wanna do, what makes YOU happy, not her. I hope this helps, email me if you need more advice.
Crystal
]
More Questions: |