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should i go for it?
There is this one kid i like and he is in high school...the problem is ..is that he is friends with my sister and my sister would not like me goin out with him if he is her friend..my sister told me that..should i just go out with him..or not go out with him like she said not to?
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if this boy likes you and u like him then u should defenitly go for it! if your sister cant be happy for you then she is just jelous. follow your heart, not your sisters mouth!
good luck
kimberly
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Does your sister have any specific reason why she doesn't think you should go out with him? It's possible that she thinks he's too old for you, or that he hasn't treated his past girlfriends well, or something. If she does have a concrete reason, try to find out what it is.
It's possible, though, that she just doesn't feel comfortable with the idea because you're her sister and he's her friend, and it would be weird. Actually, I can sort of understand how she feels: it can definitely be awkward when your family life and your social life collide. But ultimately, she doesn't get a vote here: this is up to you and the guy, and if you decide to date, it's her responsibility to be mature about it.
That said, you can try to make it as easy for her as possible. For one thing, you can agree that you won't put her in a position where she has to run interference for you, if the relationship ever gets sticky. If you sit down with her and get her to articulate exactly what she's worried about, then you can come up with ways to defuse her fears. And maybe, if she thinks about it calmly and rationally, some of her concerns might not seem like such a big deal after all.
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Alrightie. *Cracks knuckles* Your sister has no say - I repeat - NO say whatsoever in who you like and/or date. Unless she has a good reason, just go for it. Before you do, ask her why she doesn't want you to go out with him. Best of luck!
-Siren
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hi,i think that u should talk to ur sister &
ask her why she won't let u go with him...mabe
the reason is that mabe she has a secret crush on him.
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i think you should talk to your sister about the guy. tell her that you like him. but if she still don't want you to then you shouldn't because thats you sister and she don't want to be in the middle of ya'll relationship if ya'll have problems.
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mmm this is a tricky one!
Does this kid like you?
If he does and you really like him maybe you should tell your sister this and ask her if she wants you both to happy. Tell her that by going out with him it would help you find out your feelings for this kid and if it doesnt work out at least you will of tryed and this kid will still be your sisters friend and it would affect there friendship. Re-assure her of this as she may be scared of loosing a friend to her sister!
Good luck and if you both like each other go for it if you can make your sister be happy for you both.
If she wont agree you may have to ask the kid to talk to your sister
kat xx
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